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Buddy just called me, he's getting divorced

ThePresence

ThePresence

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I know this guy since high school, we go way back. Always seemed to me like they had a great marriage, I had no clue. I hung out with them alot, sat in their family room with them watching a football game or just hanging out. She's a really sweet girl. They're married 6 years with 2 kids. Real shock to me. 🙁
 
Originally posted by: Manuwell
Originally posted by: ThePresence
Originally posted by: Manuwell
Sad...
Chick's pics ?
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diaf
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Just kidding... Always sad 🙁
How do you feel about this ? Will you keep in touch with both of them ?
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How do you think I feel? :roll:
Tough situation about keeping in touch with her. If it would bother him that I did, I may not.
 
Originally posted by: dxkj
Did he say why?
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He told me they were fighting for a real long time and things were just getting worse and worse. He didn't elaborate and I didn't press him. I'm sure he'll tell me all about it (not that it's my business) when he's ready.
 
sorry to hear.

its really hard on the kids, i had no experience with divorced parents until my now ex-gf, and hers were divorced, and itwas a bad one. always tough on the kids.

if i ever do get married and have kids, and we have a divorce, i will stick with my wife until they are 18 atleast, thats even if i live in the basement.
 
if i ever do get married and have kids, and we have a divorce, i will stick with my wife until they are 18 atleast, thats even if i live in the basement.[/quote]


Easier said than done, believe me
 
Originally posted by: ThePresence
Originally posted by: dxkj
Did he say why?
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He told me they were fighting for a real long time and things were just getting worse and worse. He didn't elaborate and I didn't press him. I'm sure he'll tell me all about it (not that it's my business) when he's ready.
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quitters never win ... except in divorce, and then she'll usually win.
 
Have they considered any counseling? I know that this is just an opinion of someone from the outside but you said that even you were shocked. Maybe they are just going through a rough patch and need to have an open discussion where things can be said with someones unbiased opinion to help.

How old are they? Being young with kids and marriage can be really stressful, I see in the OP that you say they have been married 6 years, any idea how long this has been going on?

I hate to see this happen especially to what you describe as a great family, my parents divorced when I was really little, I know it can be really hard on the kids. 🙁 Very sad to hear.
 
Originally posted by: ThePresence
Originally posted by: Manuwell
Originally posted by: ThePresence
Originally posted by: Manuwell
Sad...
Chick's pics ?
Click to expand...
diaf
Click to expand...
Just kidding... Always sad 🙁
How do you feel about this ? Will you keep in touch with both of them ?
Click to expand...

How do you think I feel? :roll:
Tough situation about keeping in touch with her. If it would bother him that I did, I may not.
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Try to get him to talk to a counselor in addition to you so he can work through this. Best of luck to you all. :brokenheart:
 
Originally posted by: MIKEMIKE
sorry to hear.

its really hard on the kids, i had no experience with divorced parents until my now ex-gf, and hers were divorced, and itwas a bad one. always tough on the kids.

if i ever do get married and have kids, and we have a divorce, i will stick with my wife until they are 18 atleast, thats even if i live in the basement.
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That's asinine. I haven't had any experience with divorce personally, but I cannot see how staying together in a decidedly unhappy, even outright hostile, marriage would do anyone any good. Kids are not stupid, even when they're young, and teenagers will especially understand what's going on. If both parents are unhappy constantly because the other is around, that's somehow good for the kids?

Back in my younger days, I met an older woman online, and we used to talk on the phone a bunch (I was in TN, she was in upstate NY). She was married and had a 13 year old, but her husband was a bastard. He took extended trips to Moscow for work (2-3 weeks at a time with 2-3 week breaks in between), and his wife knew that he had another woman (or women) in Russia but stayed married for their daughter. I told her that the daughter probably knew what was going on and realized how unhappy her mother was, which wasn't doing the daughter any good. After talking with me (and her daughter), she decided to get a divorce and was exceptionally glad she did. We basically stopped talking after that (it wasn't a "get a divorce and date me" thing), but she did contact me several months later to thank me.

With younger kids, it's a different thing, admittedly. I feel bad when little ones get stuck in the middle because I know my daughter wouldn't understand if we split right now (which we aren't).
 
Sorry to hear it, but at this point I've seen so many seemingly great marriages end in divorce, the only time I'll be surprised again is if it happens to someone that never got married.

Good luck to your friend, maybe its not to late to recover their relationship, maybe they can find a professional that can help them work through things.
 
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