Breaking up is hard to do...advice?

[Pacfanweb]

Classic situation here. The sad truth is that she's either looking into, or is already dating someone else. Always happens eventually when boyfriend/girlfriend go off to separate colleges. One of them has to be the one to end things.
No reason you can't be friends, and nothing wrong if you're getting "benefits", too.

You need to move on. You can sit around for the next six months and have people analyze what could be wrong, or give you different ways to work it out, but you are wasting your time.
If you are meant to be with her, you will be....eventually. In the meantime, you need to go on like that's not the case, which means dating other women.
If things go like 999,999 out of 1,000,000 situations like this one, a chick or two later you'll be wondering "what was I thinking wanting to stay with her?"

Good luck.

 

[GMNorris]

Nothing went wrong??? Dude!! Wake the f@#$ up! Something went wrong big time. You went and put damn near the whole country between you.

No we didn't. We started going out second semester of our senior year, and we had already made our college decisions. I'd never wish this upon anybody...being over 2000 miles away from someone you love is freaking hard, and we didn't want to, just didn't have an option. Honestly, nothing went wrong. No fight, no issues...except maybe distance...It's not that she "needs her space," the space is there...it's more like she's in a rut, and needs a break. I'm not going to sever ties like some of you suggested, because I honestly don't believe either of us want this to be a permanent thing. Just a break I guess. More like don't worry about me, take care of yourself for a while.


Classic situation here. The sad truth is that she's either looking into, or is already dating someone else.

I can absolutely tell you that this is not the case. But I appreciate the expert analysis.

 

[AreaCode707]

Don't listen to the people who say long distance relationships always break up. There's no way to generalize all relationships like that. It is extremely difficult though and there's no way the relationship can be entirely the same as it was before. If she's asked to take a break from the relationship, to get some space, give her the space and don't be her breaktime boyfriend. When you both decide to pick up the relationship again, great. Distance can be a great test of endurance in a relationship - but it has to be negotiated between two of you exactly how you want it to work. Define what you think would be ideal, have her define her ideal, and then negotiate. Good luck.

 

[erikiksaz]

<<It's like she wishes now she hadn't done it, but is too proud to admit she made a mistake? or not, I dunno.>>

Hmm, have you tried just talking to her? The only problem to me would be the distance factor. I wouldn't want to speak to her about this issue over the phone, it would just be an injustice done unto both of you. I think that i've found one major backbone that you *should* be able to rely upon in ANY relationship: communication. If something isn't right, don't mope around wondering why it's wrong, go ask your partner WHY or WHAT is wrong, i'm sure she should understand the situation (well, let's hope she does).

 

[cressida]

hmmm... the time thing. Well, give her time, she will have to decide on her own -- if she truely cared enough, and if you were the one who made her happy, then she will return.

IMO, when two people break up but still act like a couple, then they are lying to themselves and not facing the truth.

Breaking up is hard to face. Just remember "life goes on".

 

[Sharpstick]

"don't let the door hit ya in the ASS on the way out ", just my 2 cent's ..lol


>>>>>>>>>USC dominance: Football 27-0, Men's and Women's Basketball, Baseball...the list goes on and on..<<<<.....ROFLMFAO





Ok I'm back had to stop laughing


Half the team's in the BIG 12 would have USC for a light snack...did you notice every sport you mentioned the OKLAHOMA SOONER'S are ranked higher, I might be wrong but I really don't think so.... by the way where are the USC Trojanette's B-Ball team ranked this week ?? didn't catch em in the top 25 anywhere....must been a typo....

man I needed a good chuckle before I went to bed

 

[newbiepcuser]

hmmm... the time thing. Well, give her time, she will have to decide on her own -- if she truely cared enough, and if you were the one who made her happy, then she will return.

IMO, when two people break up but still act like a couple, then they are lying to themselves and not facing the truth


I agree SoloKid's post. You have to let time decide and hopefully things will work out for the best in end. You have to continue on living though.

Real love is forever-the Crow

 

[Blueoak]

1> Burn Everything that has to do with her
2> Wait at least 3 months then...
3> Date again.. move on

 

[GMNorris]

1> Burn Everything that has to do with her
2> Wait at least 3 months then...
3> Date again.. move on

lol. yeah, ok.

Yeah, I guess that's just the plan. Take some time off, not just for her, but for both of us. If it progresses back to an intimate relationship, so be it. If it just leads to our remaining best friends, which I still consider her as of now, that'd be ok too. Not what I want, and maybe not what she wants, but I'd be ok with it. Life does go on, and she'll be in it in one way or another.


and the trojan dominance thing was over UCLA. I know, we're not exactly stellar this year. But USC has more tradition in football and baseball than Oklahoma will ever have. And our basketball team is ranked 20th...not bad for a football school...oh, and how far did Oklahoma go in the tourney last year? just curious.

Fight On Trojans!