Break up to Make up

[chimmytime]

I just recently broke up with my girl friend of almost 6 years. We broke up mainly because we're still young, im 25, she's 22. She said that she wanted to experience life, and what not, and im ok with it (sort of), because i've met so many people who have had similar stories.

It usually goes like this. Girl is in a long relationship through college, then at around 21-23 close to around graduation feels like things are getting too serious, and they haven't seen the world (been with other people?), or its been awhile since that new romance feeling has been around. The worse thing about it there isn't a fight or anything to really break up over. Its more of a case of wrong time, right person.

I guess this would include guys, but i've noticed that guys do it around 18 or 19.

I've had five confirmed reports of this among my friends, and its always been the girl.

There have been three ways to deal with it so far also. 1. Move on don't care ... 2. Believe that they'll come back (even after two years) ... 3. Stay in purgatory and date but don't date.

So i guess im asking if anyone here has had that experieced this phenomenon, did anyone get back together, were there any hard feelings, or do you not even want to talk to them.

 

Why you want to do this? There is reason?

 

[gigapet]

things happen for a reason thats all i can tell you.

 

[chimmytime]

I just like to think of it as research.

 

[darkavenger626]

From a personal standpoint:

heres the situation... I'm 19 Gf is 20 and we've been going out for about 2 years now. Dont get me wrong I love her and all but yea I get a sense of being tied down. i mean in college there are so many apples ripe for picking and you've got the one-gina disease and your barred from so much experience and so many women. =\ thus far though I've dealt with it.

 

[tm37]

she has already cut another pony out of the herd and if she's not riding him yet, she's at least pulled the saddle out of the barn.

 

[Saint Nick]

Originally posted by: chimmytime
I just recently broke up with my girl friend of almost 6 years. We broke up mainly because we're still young, im 25, she's 22. She said that she wanted to experience life, and what not, and im ok with it (sort of), because i've met so many people who have had similar stories.

It usually goes like this. Girl is in a long relationship through college, then at around 21-23 close to around graduation feels like things are getting too serious, and they haven't seen the world (been with other people?), or its been awhile since that new romance feeling has been around. The worse thing about it there isn't a fight or anything to really break up over. Its more of a case of wrong time, right person.

I guess this would include guys, but i've noticed that guys do it around 18 or 19.

I've had five confirmed reports of this among my friends, and its always been the girl.

There have been three ways to deal with it so far also. 1. Move on don't care ... 2. Believe that they'll come back (even after two years) ... 3. Stay in purgatory and date but don't date.

So i guess im asking if anyone here has had that experieced this phenomenon, did anyone get back together, were there any hard feelings, or do you not even want to talk to them.

she was sixteen and you were nineteen when you started dating? sounds like my situation *scratches head*

 

[Safeway]

My gf talked about this once, but we never did it.

 

[Saint Nick]

i have to go to college in two months and we haven't talked about it (gf and i)

 

[chimmytime]

It might be partially because the younger person is still in college where there's an abundance of the opposite sex, and the older person is at work with the same people day in, day out, and there isn't much of a chance to meet more people.

 

[Pepsei]

move on, perhaps you'll find a new gf who just left another and wanted to experience the world with you.

 

[chimmytime]

Trying to move on, you can dig yourself a big whole being in a long relationship.

I guess it doesn't happen as much as i thought outside my life.

 

[Cal166]

I had a similar experience, dated this girl after my first year of college. We dated 3 years and after that she just didn't want to be tied down and wanted to explore and party every weekend.

Do your best to move on, there's more out there than you might think.

 

[ggnl]

I've had the exact same thing happen to me, almost down to the letter. Our relationship seemed to be going perfectly, then she dumped me out of the blue about 6 weeks before we both graduated.

She said this would be her last chance to do whatever she wanted while she was still young, and she didn't want to be tied down with a relationship.

Edit: We had been dating about 3 years when it happened. We stayed close after the breakup, and now, a little over 3 months later, seem close to reconciling at times.

 

[Plifzig]

Happened to me, too. It started out as a weekly conjucal visit because I knew she was kinda easy from knowing her back in high school. Eventually we got serious for about 2 years. Then she left me for an NBA basketball player of all things. Greedy Biznatch! They broke it off, then she dated a MLS soccer player. They broke it off and then she went on a date with Luke Wilson, the actor (haven't heard any details).

I was real pissed since the feelings of moving on were not mutual. Now that I look back at it I'm really f'ing glad it happened like it did. I now have a girlfriend who is 100X what the other will ever imagine being.

Sh1t happens for a reason, but reasons still suck sometimes.

BTW, true story. At least I got dumped for money and not looks.

 

[chimmytime]

Originally posted by: Plifzig
Happened to me, too. It started out as a weekly conjucal visit because I knew she was kinda easy from knowing her back in high school. Eventually we got serious for about 2 years. Then she left me for an NBA basketball player of all things. Greedy Biznatch! They broke it off, then she dated a MLS soccer player. They broke it off and then she went on a date with Luke Wilson, the actor (haven't heard any details).

I was real pissed since the feelings of moving on were not mutual. Now that I look back at it I'm really f'ing glad it happened like it did. I now have a girlfriend who is 100X what the other will ever imagine being.

Sh1t happens for a reason, but reasons still suck sometimes.

BTW, true story. At least I got dumped for money and not looks.

Did you have like a mourning period? Or did you just jump back into the dating pool?

 

[Plifzig]

Did you have like a mourning period? Or did you just jump back into the dating pool?

Boy did I mourn. Everyone goes through it and some people beat themselves up over it and stay in their rooms for months and turn anti-social, and some walk out the door everyday with a purpose to put that crap behind them and make the best out of their new freedom. Trust me, someone else is out there just waiting to be snatched up.

Stay +!

EDIT: BTW, enjoy spending time with those who you may not have since you've been in that relationship. And don't get too serious, too fast on the next girl you meet. It'll seem natural to be like that since you've been in such a long (and I presume intimate) relationship. Go with the flow, relax, and enjoy life while you can. Good luck!

 

[The Stigenator]

YGPM..

My advice.. leave her alone.. move on.. my ex was one of those.. and frankly I dont want to be with lying bitching slutty people who cant be honest.

just move on.. and forget the biatch.

 

[xSkyDrAx]

It's a bad time to really get tied down no matter how faithful you are to each other. I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years and we're both about to go off to college. The relationship was kind of dying off but i feel that it was for the best. Even though it's a bit sad I feel that it couldn't have come at a better time. You'll meet plenty of girls and you'll probably eventually feel the same way and even more about another one. Just take things easy for now and have fun, you probably won't regret it.

 

[Chode Messiah]

Here you go!

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Yes...experienced it move on.
Also prepare for those types of relationships and have fun.....

Edit: You won't be making up except for the possible fvckbuddies which is why I say prepare...........

 

[amcdonald]

dude just try to move on... don't close your eyes to other opportunities, because she's got her's wide open.

 

[Aimster]

Originally posted by: TheGoodGuy
YGPM..

My advice.. leave her alone.. move on.. my ex was one of those.. and frankly I dont want to be with lying bitching slutty people who cant be honest.

just move on.. and forget the biatch.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Originally posted by: TheGoodGuy
YGPM..

My advice.. leave her alone.. move on.. my ex was one of those.. and frankly I dont want to be with lying bitching slutty people who cant be honest.

just move on.. and forget the biatch.

Sounds like she is being honest to me.............

 

[Aimster]

I lost my gf of 3 years because of it..

the problem is she kept coming back to me

now we hate each other

solution: ignore her until she grows up