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Boss is being a real child about my giving notice

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I've seen that mistake haunt people for their life. Don't ever, ever burn your bridges after you cross them. I guarantee you'll want to cross back over that bridge maybe 5, 10, or even 20 years later. And you'll be very sorry. You are setting yourself for a massive headache later in life all for a 10 second gratification as you put a revenge letter in the mail.

Let it go. Move on with your life. You gain nothing and can lose everything by responding.
 
You can't publicly do anything without getting your friend in trouble.

Take a dump on his desk when he's not there. I am completely serious. And if there's a quarter there, take it first.
 
Originally posted by: badmouse
Write him a warm, thoughtful note saying how much you've enjoyed working with him (give one or two specific examples) and tell him you wish him the best in the future.
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Badmouse for elite!
Seriously, drown them with honey. Red Dawn said it right too.
 
Originally posted by: Eeezee
You can't publicly do anything without getting your friend in trouble.

Take a dump on his desk when he's not there. I am completely serious. And if there's a quarter there, take it first.
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Though the sh1t log on top of the desk has shock factor, it is actually far more insidious to take a nice pasty-sh1t and smear it very thinly on the entire underside of his desk, as well as any other furniture he has in his office. He won't know where it's coming from, and watching him clean it will be hilarious as well.

Also, If there is carpet (probably) and if it is dark colored enough that piss stains wouldn't show, save up a bunch of asparagus-smelling piss in a gallon jug and dump it all over his carpet on a friday night (after everyone leaves). It will be dry by monday morning, but will still smell. He will wonder what the hell it is and where the hell it's coming from.

 
Originally posted by: BigJ
Is this that same she-devil of a boss?

If so, file a complaint with HR. You've got absolutely nothing to lose, and it goes on her record, which may result in disciplinary action.
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Yes it is the same boss...actually it is the bosses boss.

You guys gave the same advice as my wife And in all rights you are correct. The point has been made and he did make the ass of himself by writing that.

For the first time in my life I should try to not get the last word in and let it go...

I am not going to let it bother me and just put in my time and try to be the better person...



Thanks for the advice guys...

Leeland
 
Originally posted by: AmigaMan
Originally posted by: badmouse
Write him a warm, thoughtful note saying how much you've enjoyed working with him (give one or two specific examples) and tell him you wish him the best in the future.
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This is what I would do. Just ease the tension and be the better man. You never know what may happen in the future. One day you may be desparately looking for a job to feed your kids and he may be the one who influences the decision to hire you. If you superglued a quarter to his desk or some other childish act, how do you think he'll respond. I'd never burn a bridge.
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I would take this one step further. Buy him some sort of little token farewell gift, pull him up in front of the entire office, and give a big speech about how inspirational he has been to you and what a great leader he is and how his guidance has helped you to grow as a person yaddayaddayadda, and then have the whole office give him a standing ovation.

 
Originally posted by: 1sikbITCH
Originally posted by: AmigaMan
Originally posted by: badmouse
Write him a warm, thoughtful note saying how much you've enjoyed working with him (give one or two specific examples) and tell him you wish him the best in the future.
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This is what I would do. Just ease the tension and be the better man. You never know what may happen in the future. One day you may be desparately looking for a job to feed your kids and he may be the one who influences the decision to hire you. If you superglued a quarter to his desk or some other childish act, how do you think he'll respond. I'd never burn a bridge.
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I would take this one step further. Buy him some sort of little token farewell gift, pull him up in front of the entire office, and give a big speech about how inspirational he has been to you and what a great leader he is and how his guidance has helped you to grow as a person yaddayaddayadda, and then have the whole office give him a standing ovation.
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I like this idea! as a gift i suggest a quarter in a frame. a nice reminder that when you are an ass word gets around.
 
Act the same way you have to him since you worked there.

I have no idea what your job or situation is, but playing Devil's advocate.....why do you expect your boss and bosses boss to be happy you're leaving, yuck it up with you and be happy to contribute to a gift for you? They probably paid good money to train you and then when you are up to speed you go get another job somwhere else - in part due to the training you received on your current job. I know it happens all the time and it is really frustrating to some in management when they have little control over it (offering you more money or a promotion to retain you).

Anyway, just take it in stride and don't make a big deal about it, it's a very, very trivial thing.
 
Originally posted by: John P.
They probably paid good money to train you and then when you are up to speed you go get another job somwhere else - in part due to the training you received on your current job. I know it happens all the time and it is really frustrating to some in management when they have little control over it (offering you more money or a promotion to retain you).
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My boss (attorney) trained me from knowing zero to a full fledged paralegal. I started at $8 just answering the phones and filing and 3 years later I was doing fullblown case management, dealing with lawyers and adjusters and clients from the beginning all the way until settlement or we filed suit, and still only making $10 an hour. If management wants to invest training in employees, they better recognize when that employee's worth escalates and then compensate accordingly.

I jumped ship and got a HUGE increase in salary, and thanks for the training but money talks. He didn't hire an idiot.
 
Get an anonymous e-mail addy and if possible, forward the e-mail to his wife. Oh, or you could mail it to his home address. No wrath can be worse than a wife's!!!!

But seriously ... remember, don't be child in response. Just smile and forget the place if you hated it that much.

oh .... and remember that if you want to use the place on your resume in the future, you better leave on good terms.
 
If management wants to invest training in employees, they better recognize when that employee's worth escalates and then compensate accordingly.
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Sometimes they are unable to due to circumstances beyone their control, as usual it just depends.... All I'm saying is you can't expect people to be overjoyed they are losing a good employee they have invested time and money in, if they see you off in good humor then great and that's what I would expect most people to do, if they don't then so be it...
 
Maybe your leaving has nothing to do with it. Maybe he just never liked you much to start 🙂

(just saying it's a possiblity) And I would just let it go. You can go getting worked up and taking revenge on every little thing. Gotta be an adult and not let things get to you. What happens if something is a misunderstanding or taken out of context? Need to take things with a grain of salt and also let things go.
 
I like the "tape a quarter to his desk" idea. Suttle, but gets the point across.

Also, it wouldn't hurt to invite everyone from the office (CIO excluded, naturally) to a farewell party after work. Odds are that everyone else hates that tool just as much as you do, and it should make for a good time.
 
Originally posted by: AmigaMan
Originally posted by: badmouse
Write him a warm, thoughtful note saying how much you've enjoyed working with him (give one or two specific examples) and tell him you wish him the best in the future.
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This is what I would do. Just ease the tension and be the better man. You never know what may happen in the future. One day you may be desparately looking for a job to feed your kids and he may be the one who influences the decision to hire you. If you superglued a quarter to his desk or some other childish act, how do you think he'll respond. I'd never burn a bridge.
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Generally I agree with this, though on very rare occasion it does feel remarkably gratifying to set a torch to that motherfvcker and watch it burn.

Just don't make a habit of it.
 
If you were feeling sadistic, you could always put some habaneyo pepper extract in his eye drops. I wouldn't recommend it, though :evil:
 
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