Blast from the past - do I take the high road, or layeth the smack down?

[XMan]

All right, this should be a familiar story for those of you who have been frequenting the Anandtech Bar and Grill for the last few years or so . . .

Via a mutual friend, my ex-GF found out that I was being transferred. She didn't find out where, just that I was moving. She sent me an E-mail to ask how I was doing and where I was moving to. This is the med-school ex-GF who thought I, the lowly Xerox technician, was beneath her, not the psycho.

Now, the ex and I dated for about 5 years, and we were pretty serious. We'd talked about marriage after she graduated college, and one of her dreams was to live in Colorado - where I'm relocating to at the end of the month, and where I spent the last week in training.

So you can see where this is going . . .

What's the vote, dear friends? High road, or smack the bee-atch down?

 

[Adul]

ummm ell i don't remember about this girl, just the physco B*&*. It couldn't hurt to go on another fling.

 

[trmiv]

I'd say it depends on how you feel about her now. If it was me, I'd smack the bee-atch down, but of course, I'm a vindictive bastard so don't listen to me.

 

[Farbio]

i wouldn't bother...reopening doors that were closed already usually isn't a good thing. and if she thought u were below her then, y would u care if she's changed...she couldn't accept u for who you are, and that's not a person worth doing much with

 

[Yeeny]

Well since you seem indecisive, I am assuming there are still mixed feelings there for you. I would say give it a date or two, if you can do it and not get too emotionally involved again. Then if you get any vibes off her that seem like she still has that same attitude, you can break it off easy. But people can change, and maybe she just realizes what a mistake she made. Good luck! 🙂

 

[XMan]

GirlFriday,

In a lot of ways, I still love her. But I also know that she feels that my job is not prestigious enough for her to be romantically associated with me. There's no chance we would ever get back together - I wouldn't open myself up for the heartache. So when I say high road, I mean a polite reply to her stating that I'm moving to Colorado and leaving it at that.

 

[Yeeny]

Sorry Xerox Man, I am tired and trying to stay awake to get my hubby up for work. He is buying an alarm clock tommorrow darn it! So I totally missed what you were saying... 😱

Well I think a polite reply would be the best. I know as a woman, a nasty one would make me think the guy still felt something for me, while a disinterested polite reply would tell me that he has moved on without me.

 

[flood]

I say give it a shot.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

 

[Raspewtin]

Now I get your handle 😉. I say feign indifference. Med students are such a pain in the a$$ (I sure was when I was in med. school).

 

[noxipoo]

smack her down, how dare they think shes better than you! bah!

 

[Zucchini]

Hey, its good to have a wife that rakes in the moolah🙂 Go for it!

 

[ltk007]

Get some, then layeth the smack 😉

 

[Soybomb]

I've got a medschool g/f...they can be nice 😉 If all you want to know is if you shoudl just be graceful or mean to her, just be nice. Dont give her any satisfaction of still thinking you care! Here's hoping you find a good one soon!

 

[AndrewR]

I'd be polite but would definitely rub in the fact that you're moving to Colorado and that it's beautiful and you're extremely excited about moving there. Mention that the women are gorgeous, and everything you crooned about in that thread a little while back. Maybe you'll nick a nerve for a twinge of revenge, but at the same time, you've not done anything spiteful. 😉

 

[XMan]

AndrewR - amazingly enough, that's almost exactly what I ended up doing! I went to the website of the local paper, used their postcard feature, and sent a nice little picture of the mountains surrounding the Yampa Valley here.

No response yet, but I bet she's fuming. 😉

 

[Farbio]

let us know on the response xerox, this could be interesting🙂

 

[Napalm381]

<< But I also know that she feels that my job is not prestigious enough for her to be romantically associated with me. >>

IMHO, anybody that shallow deserves a good smack down.