In all honesty, your family probably couldn't afford a computer.
I was given an Apple //e, 80 column card, 300 baud modem, Apple DMP printer, Grappler+ card, and dual drives in 1983ish. It was around $2600 I believe.
My brother and I would play outside until dark, we were in soccer, baseball, flag and then tackle football, later wrestling, martial arts. We skateboarded, my brother was active in BMX and we did things at the beach when we could.
We'd learn the computer at night and on rained out days.
Back then computers really weren't for nerds, they were for those that had the disposable income and usually had many lining up to play with them.