Originally posted by: JEDI
Advantage guys:
no monthly inconviences
at menopause when you stop having monthly inconviences, you also stop having a sex drive.
dont have to look over your shoulder to see if someone's going to rape you.
dont have to decide between having children and reaching a high position in your career.
after you have children, and dont lose the weight, hubby might find someone skinnier.
as you get older and your looks fade, hubby might find someone younger and prettier.
Men in their 60's can still marry. women in their 60's... good luck
Advantage girls:
they live longer
dont have to be the agressor. men just flock to them (if they're pretty)
get custody of children
i have to say, i think many of the points you list are trivial, and false. many women have children and successful careers - or realize that being a mom is by far the more important, and rewarding, choice, and stop worrying about it. my own experience is that few men choose to leave their wives for someone skinnier or "prettier" and if they do, was he a husband worth keeping anyway? finally, is having a spouse so important that one should measure quality of live based on having one, or not?
in my opinion, women have many advantages that make the answer to the question obvious:
- live longer - by a number of years - no brainer, winner based on this alone!
- societal expectations actually allow them to be who they are - feelings are ok, as is expressing them.
- again, expectations actually allow them to have close same sex friends, with whom they can share bad times as well as good, and from whom they can get support when they need it.
- while womens lib has largely devalued traditional male roles and contributions - being the bread winner, doing the "mascaline" household work - women continue to be celebrated for taking on these roles, and still receive recognition for their traditional roles - homemaker, child care.
- in families that have done a traditional division of duties, the stay at home mom has by far the better deal, especially once the kids are in school. while the man spend 50-60 hours/week at his job (including commute time), with little opportunity to cultivate interests or friends, with stress wearing him down year after year (see lifespan above), the woman has an incredible degree of freedom to do what she wants, when she wants. if she doesn't want to cook, go out to dinner. if the laundy doesn't get done today, it'll get done tomorrow. if the house gets a little dirty, oh well. what working man has kind of freedom in his daily job?!
- oh, and if this all isn't enough for you, not only do women control sex (they decide when where and how it will be done) but it's better for them - more orgasms, stronger intensity.
in short, gentleman, we have been screwed by biology and modern society. if i could choose, i'd have been born a woman - no questions asked, hands down, they've got it better.