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eigen

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Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: eigen
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: eigen
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
That is too funny... You sound EXACTLY like my dear husband and your fiancee seems exactly like me!

You are a failure waiting to happen. :D

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Judging by your signature, I'd say you are the failure.

Yeah, thats why I can spot them....every little event like this chips away at the foundation.

p.s. I got divorced cause I am a cheater.

So why would anyone want your advice?

Because I know why marriages fall apart.I know its not the big things that matter but the little things that add up...
 

eigen

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Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: eigen
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: eigen
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
That is too funny... You sound EXACTLY like my dear husband and your fiancee seems exactly like me!

You are a failure waiting to happen. :D

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Judging by your signature, I'd say you are the failure.

Yeah, thats why I can spot them....every little event like this chips away at the foundation.

p.s. I got divorced cause I am a cheater.

So why would anyone want your advice?

Because I know why marriages fall apart.I know its not the big things that matter but the little things that add up...
 
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Lola

Originally posted by: eigen
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: eigen
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: eigen
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
That is too funny... You sound EXACTLY like my dear husband and your fiancee seems exactly like me!

You are a failure waiting to happen. :D

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Judging by your signature, I'd say you are the failure.

Yeah, thats why I can spot them....every little event like this chips away at the foundation.

p.s. I got divorced cause I am a cheater.

So why would anyone want your advice?

Because I know why marriages fall apart.I know its not the big things that matter but the little things that add up...

you are quite right when you say that, however, its knowing your partner as well.
keep in mind its the little GOOD things as well.
 

DAGTA

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Next time, you could say,
"Oh Honey, that's horrible that the mean old alarm clock didn't read your mind and wake you up when it was supposed to!"
 

Goosemaster

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Originally posted by: DAGTA
Next time, you could say,
"Oh Honey, that's horrible that the mean old alarm clock didn't read your mind and wake you up when it was supposed to!"



At least being condecending makes some people laugh when they are down:D
 

Bryophyte

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Nothing like kicking someone when they're down. I'm sure she'll learn something from the experience.
 

isasir

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Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Heh.. nobody's taking notfred's side in all this :p

Actually, I would've said the exact same thing to my g/f and she would've gotten just as pissed at me as notfred's g/f did with him. I'm actually making a real effort though to stop doing that and be more supportive.
 

eigen

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Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: eigen
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: eigen
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: eigen
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
That is too funny... You sound EXACTLY like my dear husband and your fiancee seems exactly like me!

You are a failure waiting to happen. :D

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Judging by your signature, I'd say you are the failure.

Yeah, thats why I can spot them....every little event like this chips away at the foundation.

p.s. I got divorced cause I am a cheater.

So why would anyone want your advice?

Because I know why marriages fall apart.I know its not the big things that matter but the little things that add up...

you are quite right when you say that, however, its knowing your partner as well.
keep in mind its the little GOOD things as well.

QFT.

The little nice things that were never said are the worst things of all...The day you never brought her flowers on a whim...the morning you didnt make him breakfast in bed....and the night you didnt let him get the anal he wanted.....thats why marriages fail.
 

Conky

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I'm taking notfred's side!

What did she want for missing the interview? An "I'm sorry you can't remember simple things, my love"? :roll:

Why should they give her another interview if she can't even make it to the first one?

 

fs5

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way to kick her when she's down. at least say, that's too bad. and then after she's over it THEN tell her it's her fault.

it's called tact. learn it.
 

Bryophyte

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I'm sure what someone expects from their mate when they admit that they did something unbelievably stupid, can't undo it, and feel awful about it is for the person who supposedly loves them to rub salt in their wounds. She'll remember this the next time she thinks about opening her heart to you. She'll remember that you threw it back in her face and made her feel even worse than she already did. Good job. I'm sure it makes you feel very superior.

Did she fvck up? Absolutely. Did she try to deny it was her fault? Nope. Would it have killed you to tell her "I'm sorry you're feeling so bad. I'd feel awful too if I was in your shoes"? Evidently so.
 

eshrai

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you suck by the way. Why do you post stuff like this where you know I post? Huh? Are you just not thinking?

Anyway, I got another job like an hour later. So sue me.
 

Pastore

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Originally posted by: eshrai
you suck by the way. Why do you post stuff like this where you know I post? Huh? Are you just not thinking?

Anyway, I got another job like an hour later. So sue me.


Is this really your lady?

You're REALLY a dumbass if it is, heh.

EDIT, What's the job?
 

Originally posted by: notfred
My fiancee was supposed to have a job interview today.

She jsut sent me a message on AIM:

her: damn
her: um
me: what?
her: i missed my interview. I thought it was at 11:15
her: it was at 9:15
her: and they won't give me another chance
me: That's not really surprising. I don't know how you forgot when your interview was in the first place.
her: grrr
her: thanks for the support
me: Well, it's 100% your own fault.
her: i'm going now
her signed off at 10:35:51 AM.

Was I supposed to be congratulatory or something?
Here we go again with yet another generalization about women. Everything your gf does gets stamped with "women". It's not some individual responsibility.

I wonder why your gf sticks around and even took you back after your break-up. It's beyond me. To each his/her own I guess.
 

2cpuminimum

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Originally posted by: jalaram
She wanted sympathy. That's all.

me: That's not really surprising. I don't know how you forgot when your interview was in the first place.

If you had simply sandwiched that between "Sorry to hear that" and "That's unfortunate," you could have made your point and still seem sympathetic.


Indeed the OP was extremely insensitive. Just because you were *right* doesn't mean you have to be a jerk about it. Learn how to be nice. It isn't easy, but it will make everything else involving other people easier.

Of course, I have the same problem, I don't even know how to be nice myself. But at least I know I have a problem.
 

Carl Uman

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Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: NutBucket
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: notfred
So everyone who's chastizing me then - what would you have said?

"Oh, that sucks, I'm sorry"?

Nevermind that we have to pay rent on two different places in july and are therefore kind of strapped for cash at the moment, and she's sleeping though job interviews.

you were right to say what you did, maybe your timing was off. she is at fault, she made the mistake. It happens, and she has to deal with the consequences (i.e. not getting another interview). I think she just wanted someone to listen to her, not tell her what she did wrong as she knew what she did.

no biggie. i would just tell her sorry for saying that at the wrong time. she has to agree you had nothing to do with her missing the interview.

Why didn't you call me to remind me? You knew I had that interview:roll:

Not that my lady would pull that.

at one point i would have said the same thing... but then i realized i needed to take responsibility for myself.
In all honesty, he should be upset, not at HER, but at the actions SHE did or did not do.
THats the difference.

Now there is someone with their head screwed on right! I agree.

What the original poster left out is the history that none of us know. Does this happen a lot? What event caused her to miss it (hopefully not oversleeping)? Based on your response to her I'm guessing this is not uncommon. If true then you need to 1) change the way you treat her when something like this happens because it will happen often 2) be ready of a tuff marriage 3) cut her loose now.

That is why agree with LolaWiz (read between the lines). If are upset with who she is you are making a long term mistake.

Hope all goes well :)