bah, nevermind.

Sucker.

And people, poon isn't worth paying someones rent + car payment.

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: Zim Hosein
She can tell you, but you don't have to listen notfred! 😛

Her + curb = problem solved.
j/k, it's your money right?

 

[Rainsford]

Originally posted by: notfred

Originally posted by: hop12
Why are you paying her rent and her car?

Because we live together and are essentially married.

Well then I'd say you are in a position where you should probably make decisions together. Yes, it's YOUR money, but couples that live together won't last very long if you have the attitude that it's your money and you can do whatever the hell you want with it.

Why? Because it makes her feel like a child that you are supporting instead of an equal partner. Don't let her tell you what to do, but I'd talk about it if you want her to think you respect her as an equal partner in your relationship. Stupid? Possibly, but that's how it works 🙂

 

[poopaskoopa]

She can't tell you that. But she can decide whether or not you sleep on the bed. :evil:

 

[SirStev0]

you need to take off the leash and tell that b!tch to back off... its one thing to order a man around about televison or lawn work... but when they start fking with electronics thats where i draw the line

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: notfred
She does have a point, I really probably shouldn't be buying some of this stuff I don't need right now. I only have so much cash and I should probably wait until my next paycheck to buy some things. Still though, she brings in less than 20% of the money here, I should be able to be irresponsible if I want too, right?

Bah, I just want new stuff.

tell her that she can tell you how to spend money when she gives you some until then, its yours to do what you want.

that being said: being fiscally responsible is hard, having some encouragement (read nagging) can be helpful at times.

 

[puffff]

Originally posted by: notfred

Originally posted by: hop12
Why are you paying her rent and her car?

Because we live together and are essentially married.

if that's the case, you shouldnt be thinking 'i pay for her rent and her car'. it should be more along the lines of 'we're paying our bills'. and then yes, she should get some input on your bike expenses.

 

[oogabooga]

Originally posted by: puffff
Because we live together and are essentially married.

if that's the case, you shouldnt be thinking 'i pay for her rent and her car'. it should be more along the lines of 'we're paying our bills'. and then yes, she should get some input on your bike expenses.[/quote]


indeed, and it sounds like she's not saying not to buy it but just to wait. Doesn't sound so bad to me, i would just wait, unless that 40 gigs is pressing, at which buy it obviously. New stuff can come when new money arrives as well i suppose. Plus no need to cause a big fight with a "It's my money" kind of attitude, especially over a fireware HD enclosure...

On a new bike however... 😉

 

[Pepsei]

Look at her pictures and decide, I have a few here in my temp. internet cache.

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: notfred

Originally posted by: hop12
Why are you paying her rent and her car?

Because we live together and are essentially married.

you aren't paying HER rent and HER car. you are paying for your things AS A COUPLE. If this is infact family income then she does have a say in where it is spent. that is not to say that there can't be a discussion about it, its a two way street.

if i was in her position and i found out that you felt like you supported me and i brought nothing into the home and therefore don't have a right to say anything about the way the incomes are spent i would be damn pissed.

 

[iwantanewcomputer]

(ca-rack)

that's the sound of you being whipped. you must slap the beyotch around and let her know who's boss

 

[Slvrtg277]

Originally posted by: puffff

Originally posted by: notfred

Originally posted by: hop12
Why are you paying her rent and her car?

Because we live together and are essentially married.

if that's the case, you shouldnt be thinking 'i pay for her rent and her car'. it should be more along the lines of 'we're paying our bills'. and then yes, she should get some input on your bike expenses.

Or something like "I'm paying 80% of the bills and if I want to spend a few extra dollars and we're not going to miss a bill or ruin credit, screw off."


Separate bank accounts are mandatory. Does she know how much money I have in the bank? Nope. Does she need to know how much money I have in the bank? Nope.

If you guys were married, then I could understand her just wanting to make sure that too much money wasn't being spent on things not needed to the point that bills may be hard to pay, but other than that......STFU.

 

[Slvrtg277]

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: notfred

Originally posted by: hop12
Why are you paying her rent and her car?

Because we live together and are essentially married.

you aren't paying HER rent and HER car. you are paying for your things AS A COUPLE. If this is infact family income then she does have a say in where it is spent. that is not to say that there can't be a discussion about it, its a two way street.

if i was in her position and i found out that you felt like you supported me and i brought nothing into the home and therefore don't have a right to say anything about the way the incomes are spent i would be damn pissed.

He probably doesn't tell her what spices to put in the dinner or what detergent to use in the dishwasher. And I'm not trying to be chauvinistic(sp) here, but if she's only making 20 percent or so of the entire household income, then she needs to be contributing elsewhere.

 

[notfred]

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: notfred

Originally posted by: hop12
Why are you paying her rent and her car?

Because we live together and are essentially married.

you aren't paying HER rent and HER car. you are paying for your things AS A COUPLE. If this is infact family income then she does have a say in where it is spent. that is not to say that there can't be a discussion about it, its a two way street.

if i was in her position and i found out that you felt like you supported me and i brought nothing into the home and therefore don't have a right to say anything about the way the incomes are spent i would be damn pissed.

I think you're taking this too seriously.

 

[KK]

Someone need to kick you in the nuts, you don't need them. 🙂 Come on and reclaim you territory. What does your woman bring to the table, besides the sex, because you can buy that?

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: notfred

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: notfred

Originally posted by: hop12
Why are you paying her rent and her car?

Because we live together and are essentially married.

you aren't paying HER rent and HER car. you are paying for your things AS A COUPLE. If this is infact family income then she does have a say in where it is spent. that is not to say that there can't be a discussion about it, its a two way street.

if i was in her position and i found out that you felt like you supported me and i brought nothing into the home and therefore don't have a right to say anything about the way the incomes are spent i would be damn pissed.

I think you're taking this too seriously.

no no, i see your point. i just started getting upset thinking about how if i was in her position i would feel really crappy.

anyways, im a big advocate of seperate bank accounts anyways for this reason.