Bachelor Party mess

[Uppsala9496]

So, my buddies have been planning my bachelor party since December 5, 2004. The bar was booked that day and a deposit was paid.
Party is this Saturday. Well, the owner called the one organizing it a couple weeks ago and said that he double booked the private room we had, but that it was being taken care of and not to worry.
Phone calls were then made to see if any other bars could accomodate us since we didn't want to get screwed.
Well, we just got screwed.

Check out this really professional email:

I have a problem. When we spoke last at the bar I
assured you that we wouldn't have a problem for the
4th. I told you that with the understanding that I had
from the two bands manager that they could move the
date. Now yesterday, (4 f'ing days before) they are
threatening me because we have a contract with them to
play. Believe me, I'm not happy about this and am
completely in a bind. My reputation with area bands
and managers as well as with good people like you is
at risk. This has never happened before, I can assure
you.

I know, how does this effect you when you booked with
me months ago. Again, believe me, this was the
furthest thing from my mind when I talked to you two
weeks or so ago because I thought it was all taken
care of.

Matt, I know you booked this party and put in a lot of
time and energy in planning it. I also know that,
being a married man myself, that this is a big deal. I
am trying to see what we can work out here. Bottom
line, I'm getting f'ed here and I want to do
everything I can to ensure that you don't feel like
you are.

I am asking you to work with me here. You can tell me
to go to hell and rip my place and I would completely
understand you doing so. But, I am trying to make it
right. I have a few options in mind.

Because of this mess that I have (even though I really
didn't create it) I would like to pickup the tab for
all your guys and provide you with some pizzas to feed
everyone. In other words, I would like to give you the
place with the same agreement of 4 hours, free tap
beer, $2 shots, free pool, side all to yourself closed
off, free pizzas, etc. for no charge because of this.
However, I need you to move the date either to this
Friday or the following Friday or Saturday. I know
this is probably going to be a ton of phone calls and
work for you but I am really stuck here and am trying
to make the best of it all. Hence, I am trying to give
you everything for free if you could move the date.

The only other options for us is for you to continue
as planned but I would either have to move up the time
to like 4 or 5 o'clock for four hours or leave the
time as is but I can't guarantee complete privacy on
the one side. IE, the girls will be tough to do.

Again, Matt, you can tell me to go to hell and I would
understand. I know this is a major inconvenience and
is completely f'ed up for you. Believe me, I do
realize that. But I hope you understand that I was
COMPLETELY told that this was all taken care of and
then I get threatened to get sued for breaking the
contract or pay these guys like $5000 for cancelling!

Matt, let me know what/if there is anything we can
work out here. I am really trying to make this right.
Also, if you have any other ideas, I am open to
hearing them.

Joe


Wedding is next weekend, so that rules out his best option. Plus, I have a lot of out of town people coming in for this (one from Austria is already in, some from southern Indiana, some from Missouri, Ohio, etc).
Thanks for screwing us over.......
Guess it is time to book the bus we reserved just in case....



Cliff notes:
Bar owner tells us 3 days before bachelor party that he double booked the room we reserved and that we can't have the party there.

 

[DainBramaged]

Wow, sounds like he wanted to have you as a satisfied customer.

 

[IHateMyJob2004]

Whahhhhh....

I'm sure if you ran a business, you would never make a mistake like this. NEVER.

The guy ist trying to fix things and do the best he can. If you really are mad, you and your friends are all anal.

 

[KeyserSoze]

Maybe talk to him, and see if he knows any other bar/establishment owners that can accomodate you? Obviously, he won't be getting the money. But if he wants to keep you satisfied, as it sounds that he does....then he might be able to help you on that angle.



KS

 

[CRXican]

should have had the bachelor party sooner, weekend before is cutting it close

not your fault though

 

[Uppsala9496]

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004
Whahhhhh....

I'm sure if you ran a business, you would never make a mistake like this. NEVER.

The guy ist trying to fix things and do the best he can. If you really are mad, you and your friends are all anal.

If I cashed the deposit, no, I would not make this mistake. Considering we were booked back in December, him double booking is pathetic. Numerous conversations were had concering the entertainment would could bring in. So, it's not like we booked in December, and then didn't talk to him again until today. It's a total BS move on his behalf.

I have a lot of people coming in from out of town and out of country. So, having it earlier wasn't an option.
We talked to the guy. His only option was the following weekend which is the wedding weekend.

 

[silverpig]

This Friday's a no-go?

 

[codeyf]

Originally posted by: silverpig
This Friday's a no-go?

 

[Injury]

Sounds to me like he's trying to be accomadating and do his best to work it out. Call him, tell him what you want that can be reasonably done. If you have to make too many changes, then too bad for him.

 

[Spike]

Sounds like the bar dude is being very accomodating with his obvious screwup. He is giving you the place for free with free drinks to move it. Calm down and see about another night. Mistakes can be made, even with 6 months of advanced notice, it's not worth getting your panties in a twist over. I know weddings are a stressful time but take a deep breath and go over the options with a few of the other attendees to get their take on it. It will probably all work out, just calm down and think.

-spike

 

[skace]

Sounds like an honest email and he feels like crap. Or maybe I'm just a sucker. Who knows. Sucks either way.

 

[huesmann]

Why don't you see how many bachelor-party-goers you can cram into a bathroom?

 

[meltdown75]

guess you'll have to party on ATOT... :laugh:

 

[SouthPaW1227]

Dag, as much as I'd be upset, he's human and he messed up. I'll admit double booking is easy to do, I've done it to myself a bunch of times, and even to friends.

I hate it for ya bro. Here's what I'd suggest: ask the bar manager for some compensation for all this, use that cash to rent a bus and go somewhere crazy w/ your pals. Make the best of it

 

[isasir]

Why don't you see if you can still have it on Saturday, but have him cover it free of charge. Then promise to get out whenever that band comes in. Basically, get back whatever money you put down, then use that to get a limo or something. If it's free beer at a bar, you'll be pretty liquored up (for free!) and then you can hit the town and have a good time elsewhere. Seems like a good deal all around, given the circumstances.

 

[BigJ]

If I read the e-mail correctly, he's giving you all of what your original arrangement was for free.

I'd take the date for this coming Friday with as many people as I could muster, and then next Friday have the real bachelor party.

 

[Kelemvor]

See if he knows anyone at some other place that might have an opening because the date can't change. Or just move up the time. Sounds like he's going out of his way to try to make things right but it's out of his hands at this point.

 

[dquan97]

Originally posted by: BigJ
If I read the e-mail correctly, he's giving you all of what your original arrangement was for free.

I'd take the date for this coming Friday with as many people as I could muster, and then next Friday have the real bachelor party.

yeah, he sounded like he's trying to make it up to you by offering to provide the same accomodations for free. take him up on it.

 

[Preyhunter]

If you kept it on the same day but had it earlier, could you still get it for free? Then, you could use the money that would have gone on this for something else. Why do you HAVE to have dancing naked ladies at the bar, or do you have to? Could you not have the hired strippers go to someone's house, or everyone just go to a strip club?

You're getting too worked up over a silly party. Think about it...in the grand scheme of things, is this party gonna change anything? Can you not have a good time with your friends (and possibly dancing nekkid chicks) somewhere other than this bar? I'm afraid you're building this party up into something so big that you're gonna feel let down when it's all said and done. When you think back to this party years from now, what are you going to remember? Is it gonna be how you spent your last night out with the guys as an unmarried dude and had a blast doing the single male bonding thing? Or is it gonna be "That was the coolest freakin' bar I've ever been to!"? You need to be thinking about the reason and purpose of the party, not the location. Especially if it's just a bar and not some place like the Playboy Mansion or Taj Mahal.

 

[Ns1]

he fvcked up but he's trying REALLY hard to fix it

 

[PanzerIV]

I know I would be irritated too but it seems this guy is doing everything in his power to help you out. I agree with Preyhunter's assesment. Maybe he's a really good liar but his apologies and offer seem pretty genuine.

 

[BigJ]

Originally posted by: PanzerIV
I know I would be irritated too but it seems this guy is doing everything in his power to help you out. I agree with Preyhunter's assesment. Maybe he's a really good liar but his apologies and offer seem pretty genuine.

Yep. Honestly I know a lot of places that would just say "Sorry man, nothing we can do about it" and tell you to be on your way. This guy is picking up your tab, getting you free pizza, and free use of his place for what, the cost of your deposit?

So you're spending a little extra money, but I figure the money you're saving on booze, food, and actual cost would be more than enough to go out somewhere else on that actual Friday.

 

[ironcrotch]

Just go to vegas

 

[HombrePequeno]

I would ask him if there were any other places that he knows of that could accomodate all of you. The guy is trying to be as nice as possible about the situation. If you're nice back, he'll probably help you find another place and possibly help foot the bill.

 

[psiu]

Good advice by Preyhunter about not getting too worked about "the GREATEST BACHELOR PARTY EVAARRR!11!!!!".

Mine was....simple. Bar/restaurant for dinner and drinks with 6 of my closest friends, then they had an awesome surprise....we went bumper car racing

Then back to the apartment to get the N64 out for some Turok 2, and Super Monkey Ball action on the Gamecube. A good night all around.

At a friend of mine's wedding (he got married first, then was my best man) his best man hadn't come up with any ideas so I had to step in....with drunken bowling!!!

Lots of fun, and lots of memories.