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Awkward- my daughter's 14 year old boyfriend keeps chatting w/me on Facebook

Fritzo

Lifer
My daughter brought over a boyfriend a few days back. He plays guitar, so I showed him some of my music gear and I showed him how to play a few things.

The kid is nice enough, but has some self esteem issues, so I don't want to say "Hey, look, I'm 39, you're 14, and you're chatting with me more than my daughter..." I think he just wants a mentor (his mom and dad are split up), but it just makes be feel uncomfortable. I don't know why...probably afraid he's going to say something strange one day and Chris Hanson is going to show up and my door :'( Just the way the world is today

How should I handle it? Stop answering his chats?
 
He's just trying to get on your good side so he won't feel bad doing the horizontal mambo with your daughter. 😀
 
Threaten to hang him with guitar cords if he hurts your daughter?

Threaten to waterboard him with Fiji Water if he touches your daughter?

Answer his questions, but with a delay?
 
When I was 13/14 I talked with my girlfriend's uncle over AIM. It started with a group chat with my girlfriend, him, and a few of our friends. He was an engineer and we talked about some engineering related stuff which always interested me. He gave me some good advice about careers and stuff. Nothing creepy about it.
 
When I was 13/14 I talked with my girlfriend's uncle over AIM. It started with a group chat with my girlfriend, him, and a few of our friends. He was an engineer and we talked about some engineering related stuff which always interested me. He gave me some good advice about careers and stuff. Nothing creepy about it.


:😛ushes aside normal ATOT goofball posts to get to the good response::

Yeah, this is what I was thinking. It's just a bit strange. Seems to be a good kid, put pretty shy around his peers. Maybe I can give him some confidence and career advice.
 
:😛ushes aside normal ATOT goofball posts to get to the good response::

Yeah, this is what I was thinking. It's just a bit strange. Seems to be a good kid, put pretty shy around his peers. Maybe I can give him some confidence and career advice.

Dress like Santa, and ask him to come sit on your lap.



I would just reply to some of his posts others just leave alone.. he will get the idea.
 
I like the selectively answer questions tact, unless you don't mind the attention. People will sometimes latch onto me for whatever reason, and I'm not particularly personable, or chatty. Age doesn't mean much to me, I don't want to talk to anyone :^D

I guess the point is, I wouldn't worry about. If you enjoy answering questions, answer questions. If not, extricate yourself before you get stuck too tightly.
 
Awwww, man, don't decide to be less of a human being to a young kid reaching out for guidance because of some crappy reality show based fears, please.

Keep some boundaries, but respond like the human you may well be.
 
Tell your daughter to keep her creepy boyfriend away from you. Please video tape her facial expressions as you deliver this demand and post here.
 
This shouldn't be a problem as long as you don't start offering him dating advice. Just don't get sucked into your daughter's teenage romance-drama and you ought to be fine. Keep it restricted to music, education and life goals (which hopefully do not involve your daughter😛).
 
Dude, dude, dude.

You're going about it all the wrong way. Get in good with this kid, gaining his trust. Then, offer to trade the beer that you can easily buy from the store for weed that he can easily buy from someone in his school! It's a win-win.
 
take this opportunity to learn more about your daughter's boyfriend, in case he has some kind of hidden fucked-up side.
 
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