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Aunt's having a baby at 44

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Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: DVad3r
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: DVad3r
The news today came as a shocker to me at work. My aunt, who is now 44 years old, is pregnant with her boyfriend that she intends to marry in July.

Just FYI, my aunt has been married/divorced twice already, and she has a daughter from her first husband which is almost my age.

I believe this is a terrible decision, not only because she is 44, but because she is a pretty irresponsible person in life.

I feel sorry for 3 individuals:

1. My cousin (her daughter)
2. The guy that marries her
3. The baby when it is born

Also no pics guys, but just to satisfy the mass perverts here, my aunt is very good looking.
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I don't see it as a terrible decision. I hope the baby is born healthy and is brought up in a happy home. That's all a kid would want.
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I hope so too, but if you knew my aunt you would know she is not responsible at all. Her kid (my cousin) went through a lot of strife in life because of her. I won't get into any specifics but it wasn't pretty.

My aunt's the type of person that is very self centered, she goes out several times a week, likes to party, and if she is tired nothing will get done. She used to leave my cousin alone crying or pass her to other people for days at a time because she was out having "fun" or sleeping.

My main thing I'm praying for now is that the kid comes out healthy with no physical or mental disabilities.
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How old is the baby's father?
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He's 39 I think.

 
OP, that does sound like trouble in the way you describe it. Having another child at the age of 44 would be questionable for even a normal parent. My friend went through major psychological issues because his parents were the age of his friends grandparents.
 
Originally posted by: Dumac
OP, that does sound like trouble in the way you describe it. Having another child at the age of 44 would be questionable for even a normal parent. My friend went through major psychological issues because his parents were the age of his friends grandparents.
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Yup exactly. For a normal person to go through with a decision like that would be questionable, aunt certainly doesn't fall into that category at all. When her kid will be 20 she will be 64, that is total madness.
 
Originally posted by: DVad3r
Originally posted by: Dumac
OP, that does sound like trouble in the way you describe it. Having another child at the age of 44 would be questionable for even a normal parent. My friend went through major psychological issues because his parents were the age of his friends grandparents.
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Yup exactly. For a normal person to go through with a decision like that would be questionable, aunt certainly doesn't fall into that category at all. When her kid will be 20 she will be 64, that is total madness.
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And just what exactly is wrong with that? My dad was 67 when I was 20. I really think you're just being selfish or possibly jealous that she's having another family.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: DVad3r
Originally posted by: Dumac
OP, that does sound like trouble in the way you describe it. Having another child at the age of 44 would be questionable for even a normal parent. My friend went through major psychological issues because his parents were the age of his friends grandparents.
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Yup exactly. For a normal person to go through with a decision like that would be questionable, aunt certainly doesn't fall into that category at all. When her kid will be 20 she will be 64, that is total madness.
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And just what exactly is wrong with that? My dad was 67 when I was 20. I really think you're just being selfish or possibly jealous that she's having another family.
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Or... you know... maybe he's concerned about the increased health risks and issues as mentioned above. I know somebody who went through the same thing.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: DVad3r
Originally posted by: Dumac
OP, that does sound like trouble in the way you describe it. Having another child at the age of 44 would be questionable for even a normal parent. My friend went through major psychological issues because his parents were the age of his friends grandparents.
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Yup exactly. For a normal person to go through with a decision like that would be questionable, aunt certainly doesn't fall into that category at all. When her kid will be 20 she will be 64, that is total madness.
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And just what exactly is wrong with that? My dad was 67 when I was 20. I really think you're just being selfish or possibly jealous that she's having another family.
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Or maybe you are just being defensive as your family was presumably in the same position (assuming your mom is not significantly younger than your dad)
 
Wow, I'm 42 and my youngest will be heading off to college in just a few months. I cannot imagine starting all that again. More power to her if that's her decision.
 
Originally posted by: DVad3r
The news today came as a shocker to me at work. My aunt, who is now 44 years old, is pregnant with her boyfriend that she intends to marry in July.

Just FYI, my aunt has been married/divorced twice already, and she has a daughter from her first husband which is almost my age.

I believe this is a terrible decision, not only because she is 44, but because she is a pretty irresponsible person in life.

I feel sorry for 3 individuals:

1. My cousin (her daughter)
2. The guy that marries her
3. The baby when it is born

Also no pics guys, but just to satisfy the mass perverts here, my aunt is very good looking.
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1) Congratulations to your Aunt
2) You don't say how old you are
3) You know the rules
4) BAN
5) Profit for us.
 
Originally posted by: DVad3r
I believe this is a terrible decision, not only because she is 44, but because she is a pretty irresponsible person in life.
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But she's probably never started a thread like this without pics. So I ask you, who is the biggest failure now?
 
Originally posted by: dainthomas
Originally posted by: DVad3r
I believe this is a terrible decision, not only because she is 44, but because she is a pretty irresponsible person in life.
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But she's probably never started a thread like this without pics. So I ask you, who is the biggest failure now?
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:beer::beer::beer:

lol
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: DVad3r
Originally posted by: Dumac
OP, that does sound like trouble in the way you describe it. Having another child at the age of 44 would be questionable for even a normal parent. My friend went through major psychological issues because his parents were the age of his friends grandparents.
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Yup exactly. For a normal person to go through with a decision like that would be questionable, aunt certainly doesn't fall into that category at all. When her kid will be 20 she will be 64, that is total madness.
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And just what exactly is wrong with that? My dad was 67 when I was 20. I really think you're just being selfish or possibly jealous that she's having another family.
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That has to be the dumbest response of all time. Think about what you are saying...some people have pointed that out to you a little...

Plasmabomb:

I'm 24.
 
Originally posted by: DVad3r

That has to be the dumbest response of all time. Think about what you are saying...some people have pointed that out to you a little...

Plasmabomb:

I'm 24.
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Aside from any health concerns what is really the problem here? Are you saying it's wrong to have a child at age 44? If she can have a healthy baby then more power to her and hubby. What's the magical age where you think it's too old?

My best friend was also born when his mom was over 40, best parents ever.
 
Having a baby at 44 is not as bad, what makes this bad is the fact of having sex without being married. What if she never ended up getting married. Something happens or w/e and the relationship does not work out. Now that kid grows up in a screwed up family where the father is not even really a father, or, with no father at all. Commitment, Marriage, THEN sex. At least that way when you have kids and are committed to your SO the kid grows up in a normal stable family. (well, not always, but at least there's a decent chance, the other way is guaranteed unstable if the marriage never happens).
 
Whats the big deal about her being 44? My mom was 46 when she had my sister and there were zero complications.
 
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