At what point do you say screw it and walk away?

[j00fek]

i do it everyday at 3pm

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Just don't put yourself in a situation where you need to say "screw it" and walk away.
Plan things, save money, think your situation through.
Don't say yes if you are not absolutely ready for marriage.
Wrap it if you don't want kids. Don't anchor yourself for 18 years for 5 minutes of pleasure.
Consider the position you are applying for before you take it. Are there better jobs?
If you sign a contract, if you put your name on something, that's your word. Live up to you word or don't sign the contract.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: tweakmm

Originally posted by: Lonyo
What if the kids are the mistake? I'm sure JEDI's parents are wondering if they should walk away.

Zing!

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[PrinceofWands]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Just don't put yourself in a situation where you need to say "screw it" and walk away.

Situations often change over time, so what was fine initially is no longer fine a few years later. People change as well.

Plan things, save money, think your situation through.

The best laid plans, and all that. Save all you want, one good disaster and it's all gone and you're screwed. My point isn't that you shouldn't think, of course you should. But all your thinking and planning in the end isn't always going to be enough. Adaptability and openness to change is also necessary.

Don't say yes if you are not absolutely ready for marriage.

Ok, this one we're totally in agreement with. It was my error. However, it's not everyones. People change and so do situations. You can be totally ready for one part of your life and then find yourself not ready during another phase. Especially with the lifespan today divorce is just going to happen.

Wrap it if you don't want kids. Don't anchor yourself for 18 years for 5 minutes of pleasure.

We agree on this one too. Though no one can ever be truly prepared for the experience there are certainly some who are closer. Still, my previous statements apply somewhat. You shouldn't stay in a truly bad situation when there are alternatives. That doesn't mean abandoning your kids, just changing their environment to a healthier one.

Consider the position you are applying for before you take it. Are there better jobs?

Simply not feasible most of the time. You take a job because you NEED it usually. That leaves little room for being picky. Moreover, you can never know what it's going to be like until you're there. If you get in and the environment is counter to your being, getting out is better for everyone. You also change over time and positions won't always fit. Again, not saying you shouldn't be aware of things, but this isn't something you can pre-qualify.

If you sign a contract, if you put your name on something, that's your word. Live up to you word or don't sign the contract.

I agree you should always try, but more damage can be caused by staying sometimes. Admitting you're in a bad place and having the courage to change things is sometimes the better (but not always easier) option.