Asked about engagement ring diamond size

[JJ650]

Originally posted by: Mizugori
wow some of you guys are really screwed up. you're proposing to some bitch you don't trust to the point where you're gonna try to "bait" them with a cheap ring? holy shit. and you don't even give the women any credit, what you think a gold-digging whore couldn't see through your 'intricate plots'? HELLO SHE KNOWS HOW MUCH $$ YOU MAKE, THE RING'S NOT HER ULTIMATE GOAL, jesus you guys are just shit-brained STUPID.

It may not be her ultimate goal, but it's a damned good and expensive start.




I used my wife's mother's diamond. It is much more valuable than anything I was going to purchase. It was given to me to make a ring for her. It has more attached to it then just a few Benjamins and as it turned out, she like it the best when presented to her. It wasn't large or anything (.8 c?) but it turned out perfectly in the rings setting.

 

[drum]

Originally posted by: JJ650

Originally posted by: Mizugori
wow some of you guys are really screwed up. you're proposing to some bitch you don't trust to the point where you're gonna try to "bait" them with a cheap ring? holy shit. and you don't even give the women any credit, what you think a gold-digging whore couldn't see through your 'intricate plots'? HELLO SHE KNOWS HOW MUCH $$ YOU MAKE, THE RING'S NOT HER ULTIMATE GOAL, jesus you guys are just shit-brained STUPID.

It may not be her ultimate goal, but it's a damned good and expensive start.




I used my wife's mother's diamond. It is much more valuable than anything I was going to purchase. It was given to me to make a ring for her. It has more attached to it then just a few Benjamins and as it turned out, she like it the best when presented to her. It wasn't large or anything (.8 c?) but it turned out perfectly in the rings setting.

:thumbsup:
I recommend raiding the jewelry box as well. Holidays are the perfect time too!

sentimental value for the huge win. nice

 

[CycloWizard]

Originally posted by: TheSlamma

They say 2 months salary is expected for engagement rings.

"They" as in the diamond companies.

If people always lived by the schedule of "They" this country would be in the biggest debt.. oh damn....

This and all jewelry advertising is aimed at the women, not the men. The women then have ridiculous expectations that you trifle with at your own peril. I bought the ring just before I finished my PhD... It saved me around 10k if I went by the two months' salary metric. 😛

 

[Jack Ryan]

Originally posted by: JS80

Originally posted by: RKS

Originally posted by: sourceninja
I took my wife to the store and had her pick. It was a test. She picked a 500.00 ring. I bought it and used the rest of the money to help buy our first house.

Had she picked a 5000.00 ring, I wouldn't of asked her to marry me.

I proposed with a $19.57 CZ from Walmart and my wife accepted. The real ring was hidden underneath and it was quite a bit more but my wife passed the test.

lol a bunch of assholes. you guys "tested" your wife?

Agreed.

 

[DrPizza]

Originally posted by: EMPshockwave82
They say 2 months salary is expected for engagement rings. For those of us that don't want to have to take out a loan to buy the ring...... Maybe closer to 1 month.


Personally, I say he should just spend what he can spend on the ring and not worry so much about the size of the diamond.

Who is this "they"? Diamond & ring companies?

Like a few others, before we became officially engaged, I let my wife pick out her ring set (wedding band and engagement ring). $500ish (about 20 years ago.) She would rather that we saved our money for our house that we purchased; we put in the purchase offer the same week we were engaged. It was nice marrying someone who had fiscal priorities & placed a higher priority on a house than a piece of jewelry that, like all jewelry, was marked up about 400% above its actual value.

 

[FP]

Originally posted by: Jack Ryan

Originally posted by: JS80

Originally posted by: RKS

Originally posted by: sourceninja
I took my wife to the store and had her pick. It was a test. She picked a 500.00 ring. I bought it and used the rest of the money to help buy our first house.

Had she picked a 5000.00 ring, I wouldn't of asked her to marry me.

I proposed with a $19.57 CZ from Walmart and my wife accepted. The real ring was hidden underneath and it was quite a bit more but my wife passed the test.

lol a bunch of assholes. you guys "tested" your wife?

Agreed.

Double agreed. As another person already mentioned, if you are still at the "testing" phase with a woman you shouldn't be proposing. You should know who she is by that point.

And to all the folks who say buying an expensive ring is absurd, if one is able to afford it comfortably why not?

I agree putting off buying a house to afford a ring is stupid. But if a larger ring isn't beyond your means then what is the problem?

 

[edro]

He just wanted to get an idea of what a real world diamond size is.
You never really know unless you shop around a lot.

To all the "testers":
I understand that you want to make sure they are not gold diggers, but if you have questions about whether or not they truly love you, you shouldn't get married to begin with.

 

[AreaCode7O7]

Originally posted by: WhiteKnight
My sister in law's (sister of my wife) boyfriend is planning to propose to her soon and a few weeks ago he asked me about the size of the diamond in my wife's engagement ring. Is there any (realistic) reason why he'd be asking me this other than to establish a lower bound for his own purchase? I told him since I don't really care either way, but it seems a little smarmy. I like the guy but I can definitely see him feeling the need to get something bigger than what I got. He's just that type of guy. I should have told him it was either .2 carats or 1.8. 🙂

I'd go the other way and say I bought a big chunk of CZ. Leaves him to figure it out on his own without actually being able to compare with you.

 

[ruu]

It does sound kinda smarmy. 😛

In future, you could just say, "I dunno, man... I forgot, I don't remember that kind of thing very well. Why don't you ask my wife?" If he'd been sincere about the request, then he would ask your wife; otherwise, a comment like that should make him slink off.

 

[richardycc]

it could be a harmless question..maybe your wife's sister told him that your wife's diamond is exactly the size for her too, not too big not too small, and he wanted to know what size to look for in the store. I dunno.

 

[Descartes]

Originally posted by: Jack Ryan

Originally posted by: JS80

Originally posted by: RKS

Originally posted by: sourceninja
I took my wife to the store and had her pick. It was a test. She picked a 500.00 ring. I bought it and used the rest of the money to help buy our first house.

Had she picked a 5000.00 ring, I wouldn't of asked her to marry me.

I proposed with a $19.57 CZ from Walmart and my wife accepted. The real ring was hidden underneath and it was quite a bit more but my wife passed the test.

lol a bunch of assholes. you guys "tested" your wife?

Agreed.

Agreed * 1000.

If you don't know what your wife would prefer in a ring, you probably don't know her well enough to marry her in the first place. I would be willing to wager that most women would accept a man that offers a low-quality ring, but you'd be kidding yourself if you thought that many of those same women would not also highly prefer a better ring.

Unless she is completely anti-ring, and there are certainly some women that are, I see no reason to skimp on something that she'll likely enjoy for the rest of her life/divorce 🙂

 

[RKS]

Originally posted by: Descartes

Originally posted by: Jack Ryan

Originally posted by: JS80

Originally posted by: RKS

Originally posted by: sourceninja
I took my wife to the store and had her pick. It was a test. She picked a 500.00 ring. I bought it and used the rest of the money to help buy our first house.

Had she picked a 5000.00 ring, I wouldn't of asked her to marry me.

I proposed with a $19.57 CZ from Walmart and my wife accepted. The real ring was hidden underneath and it was quite a bit more but my wife passed the test.

lol a bunch of assholes. you guys "tested" your wife?

Agreed.

Agreed * 1000.

If you don't know what your wife would prefer in a ring, you probably don't know her well enough to marry her in the first place. I would be willing to wager that most women would accept a man that offers a low-quality ring, but you'd be kidding yourself if you thought that many of those same women would not also highly prefer a better ring.

Unless she is completely anti-ring, and there are certainly some women that are, I see no reason to skimp on something that she'll likely enjoy for the rest of her life/divorce 🙂

Everything I needed to know about my wife was listed on her internet profile. For the things I didn't know; I was able to ask some personal questions before she came over and we met. I was okay with her but her family/brothers made me uncomfortable.
The price of the ring was worth the price for such an (initially) exhilarating experience. I'll do it again once I get my finances in order.

 

[evident]

Originally posted by: EMPshockwave82
They say 2 months salary is expected for engagement rings. For those of us that don't want to have to take out a loan to buy the ring...... Maybe closer to 1 month.

that's fucking bullshit. whoever created that guideline should go to hell