<< Apparently I ordered most of the components for a new computer last night >>
In my book you're better off now. 
<< Apparently I ordered most of the components for a new computer last night >>
In my book you're better off now. I am going on 7 years myself and reading your story was extremely hard. I cannot even imagine what that would feel like. Good luck, you sound like you have a great attitude in your second post. Just take care of yourself and it will all work out eventually.
Dag
Dag
If things work out, I'll be happy. If they don't, I'll curse and rant, throw things around the house...
Just don't throw the computer around
Just don't throw the computer around
There, I'm not the only one! Some people go shopping for clothes or shoes, or car parts or tools... When I'm depressed, I go shopping for computer parts! (Which usually leads me deeper into depression, since lack of monetary funds are usually what got me depressed in the first place ... )
Anyway, keep your chin up Amok! Things have a way of working out the way they should in the long run. It's just the short-term that has a way of hurting like hell...
JHutch
)Anyway, keep your chin up Amok! Things have a way of working out the way they should in the long run. It's just the short-term that has a way of hurting like hell...
JHutch
Ahhh good Amok,
Sounds like you're doing what any good computer lover does when things don't go his way... order components!! I'm glad to know that I'm not the only guy that knows that a new piece of hardware or two arriving via mail/UPS/FedEx is the perfect way to cheer up!
I have to admit that I've never needed SO much cheering up as to order a $1500 monitor. Frankly, the level of inebriation required for me to do that would less resemble mere drunkeness and be more on the level of an "out of body experience". :Q Glad to know that you came to your senses before it was too late on THAT one. Be sure and tell us all about the specs of the remainder of the system that's coming.
-Brian
Sounds like you're doing what any good computer lover does when things don't go his way... order components!!
I'm glad to know that I'm not the only guy that knows that a new piece of hardware or two arriving via mail/UPS/FedEx is the perfect way to cheer up! I have to admit that I've never needed SO much cheering up as to order a $1500 monitor. Frankly, the level of inebriation required for me to do that would less resemble mere drunkeness and be more on the level of an "out of body experience". :Q Glad to know that you came to your senses before it was too late on THAT one.
Be sure and tell us all about the specs of the remainder of the system that's coming.-Brian
It's the good way to follow Amok.
My english isn't good enough to give you the support you deserve but I'm with you anyway.
Take care. There is always sun after the rain...
My english isn't good enough to give you the support you deserve but I'm with you anyway.
Take care. There is always sun after the rain...
Assimilator1
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Sorry to hear the bad news Amok ,I can only hope for you that things get sorted out.
BTW ,a couple of things worth mentioning ,try to avoid drinking at all ,keep yourself busy ,meet friends, family etc ,try to avoid being by yourself for long.Keeping yourself busy & meeting up with friends etc will help prevent you thinking about it too much when there is little you can do about it.(It worked for me in the past ,maybe this isn't for you so feel free to ignore it if you want!)Save the thinking for when you are able to talk to her.
Take care
Mark
BTW ,a couple of things worth mentioning ,try to avoid drinking at all ,keep yourself busy ,meet friends, family etc ,try to avoid being by yourself for long.Keeping yourself busy & meeting up with friends etc will help prevent you thinking about it too much when there is little you can do about it.(It worked for me in the past ,maybe this isn't for you so feel free to ignore it if you want!
)Save the thinking for when you are able to talk to her. Take care
Mark
Hehe, my only problems with drinking are usually when I do meet up with friends (most of them are heavy drinkers ). And just because everyone is seeming to read deeply into the fact that I was pretty wasted last night, I hardly ever have more than two or three drinks in a single week.
I have always wanted a a big flat screen monitor, and last night I was in just the mood to get one. Thank goodness I straightened up before they sent the order out though! I did have to change another thing or two about my orders. I downgraded my cpu a bit, from a 1GHz TBird to a 700MHz duron that I plan on overclocking . And I decided that I could settle for a GeForceMX instead of the DDR Radeon that I ordered. Well, here's the specks on what I did end up with for those of you that are curious:
Duron 700
Abit KT7
40GB 7200rpm IBM hard drive
GeForce2MX
128MB PC133 Cas2
Cheap pci sound card
17" monitor
And I'm confiscating the 8x4x32 CDRW from the old computer and leaving her with the DVD drive
Well, after I talk some sense into her over the next couple of months I'll have a second computer. At least one good thing will come out of all this.
). And just because everyone is seeming to read deeply into the fact that I was pretty wasted last night, I hardly ever have more than two or three drinks in a single week.I have always wanted a a big flat screen monitor, and last night I was in just the mood to get one
. Thank goodness I straightened up before they sent the order out though! I did have to change another thing or two about my orders. I downgraded my cpu a bit, from a 1GHz TBird to a 700MHz duron that I plan on overclocking . And I decided that I could settle for a GeForceMX instead of the DDR Radeon that I ordered. Well, here's the specks on what I did end up with for those of you that are curious:Duron 700
Abit KT7
40GB 7200rpm IBM hard drive
GeForce2MX
128MB PC133 Cas2
Cheap pci sound card
17" monitor
And I'm confiscating the 8x4x32 CDRW from the old computer and leaving her with the DVD drive
Well, after I talk some sense into her over the next couple of months I'll have a second computer. At least one good thing will come out of all this
.Some thoughts.
She may be cheating on you and you don't know it.
If that's the case, move on.
The fact that she wants the computer may say something.
Does she use the computer a lot or does she need it for work?
If not, maybe she thinks that you spend too much time with it.
If this is the case you still have a chance because she really want's you and is mad/hurt that she doesn't get enough of you.
Good Luck.
She may be cheating on you and you don't know it.
If that's the case, move on.
The fact that she wants the computer may say something.
Does she use the computer a lot or does she need it for work?
If not, maybe she thinks that you spend too much time with it.
If this is the case you still have a chance because she really want's you and is mad/hurt that she doesn't get enough of you.
Good Luck.
amok: Just read your post today and I feel for ya dude. I went through a divorce (7 years married) about 6 months ago and although it's not fun, life does go on. One bit of advice that I'd offer is start thinking for yourself right now. If she truely feels that it's over and there's no chance of getting back together it's best to accept it and start planning what to do. If the two of you don't have any children it will be a lot easier since there's only material possessions to divide.
On a side note, I'm with Curt's (post above) thinking on this. There's 2 possibilities. One is she's cheating on you. The other is she's jealous of the time you spend with your computer. To be honest, I think if it was the latter she'd have a talk with you before abruptly walking out. Then again, I'm a pessimist and my wife did cheat on me (with her boss of all people). Anyway, be prepared and make sure you start looking out for number 1!
Good luck,
Rob
On a side note, I'm with Curt's (post above) thinking on this. There's 2 possibilities. One is she's cheating on you. The other is she's jealous of the time you spend with your computer. To be honest, I think if it was the latter she'd have a talk with you before abruptly walking out. Then again, I'm a pessimist and my wife did cheat on me (with her boss of all people). Anyway, be prepared and make sure you start looking out for number 1!
Good luck,
Rob
RaySun2Be
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Amok,
Sorry to hear about this. It really sucks.
Nothing to be embarassed about either, we are "family" of sorts, and a team, and sometimes life sucks.
I truly know that a joy shared is a joy increased, and a pain shared is a pain lessened.
Danc said a lot I agree with, and I know somewhat of your pain. My wife and I were separated about 10 years ago, there was a lot of anger and fighting in our case. No one was cheating, but we argued all the time.
Through being apart, and marriage counseling, we determined that she had some issues that she was dealing with that had nothing to do with me, but I ended up being the brunt of the resulting anger from those issues. She worked through them, we worked through them, and have been together ever since.
All I can say is that if both of you are serious about working things out to the point of getting back together, Give her some space to work things out and listen to what she is trying to say, don't use the separation as an excuse to run-around (cheat), try to work things out (sober), and get counseling if you need it. if after that things don't work out, you both will know you gave it your best shot, and getting back together wasn't meant to be.
And you should know by now that trying to understand where a woman is at using a logical, rational thinking manner will get you as far as beating yourself in the head with a hammer will.
Sorry to hear about this. It really sucks.
Nothing to be embarassed about either, we are "family" of sorts, and a team, and sometimes life sucks.
I truly know that a joy shared is a joy increased, and a pain shared is a pain lessened.
Danc said a lot I agree with, and I know somewhat of your pain. My wife and I were separated about 10 years ago, there was a lot of anger and fighting in our case. No one was cheating, but we argued all the time.
Through being apart, and marriage counseling, we determined that she had some issues that she was dealing with that had nothing to do with me, but I ended up being the brunt of the resulting anger from those issues. She worked through them, we worked through them, and have been together ever since.
All I can say is that if both of you are serious about working things out to the point of getting back together, Give her some space to work things out and listen to what she is trying to say, don't use the separation as an excuse to run-around (cheat), try to work things out (sober
), and get counseling if you need it. if after that things don't work out, you both will know you gave it your best shot, and getting back together wasn't meant to be. And you should know by now that trying to understand where a woman is at using a logical, rational thinking manner will get you as far as beating yourself in the head with a hammer will.
OK, first of all, she needs the computer for research and data gathering purposes. She uses it for that purpose all the time as is. Hell, it takes a lot of work to be a surgical resident .
Secondly, I know she's not cheating on me. You would just have to know the type of person she is to understand that she would never even consider that. If she wanted to "date" other people, she would break off our relationship before doing so, and she would be honest about her reasons. She wants to make this work. She's already set up counseling (God, I hate psycholgists!). I think she's just going through a midlife crisis a few years early.
And none of you have to worry about me getting ripped if it does come to a divorce. As the only heir to a fairly sizeable chunk of businesses/stocks/cash, my father required me to get a prenump before we were married (hehe, how do you think a person who has spent 8 of the last 9 years as a student has a house that's paid for? That was my price for having to get a prenump). I'm not going to suffer any real financial hardships from this apart from her lost income.
As I said earlier, despite the fact that the overall situation is not very logical, I always take an analytical approach to things. I'll give it my best shot, but if it doesn't work out life goes on.
Thanks again for everybody's support, but I believe its time to let this thread die. I'll let you all know if everything works out.
. Secondly, I know she's not cheating on me. You would just have to know the type of person she is to understand that she would never even consider that. If she wanted to "date" other people, she would break off our relationship before doing so, and she would be honest about her reasons. She wants to make this work. She's already set up counseling (God, I hate psycholgists!). I think she's just going through a midlife crisis a few years early
. And none of you have to worry about me getting ripped if it does come to a divorce. As the only heir to a fairly sizeable chunk of businesses/stocks/cash, my father required me to get a prenump before we were married (hehe, how do you think a person who has spent 8 of the last 9 years as a student has a house that's paid for? That was my price for having to get a prenump
). I'm not going to suffer any real financial hardships from this apart from her lost income. As I said earlier, despite the fact that the overall situation is not very logical, I always take an analytical approach to things. I'll give it my best shot, but if it doesn't work out life goes on.
Thanks again for everybody's support, but I believe its time to let this thread die. I'll let you all know if everything works out.
I'm sorry for you man.
I know that you feel miserable right now.(Own experience..)
But hey...there are a lot of other fun things to do!
Go out, have a great time. Enjoy cracking the RC-5 code (as soon as you have a new computer).
I know that you feel miserable right now.(Own experience..)
But hey...there are a lot of other fun things to do!
Go out, have a great time. Enjoy cracking the RC-5 code (as soon as you have a new computer).
Assimilator1
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I had to say ,nice new PC you've got coming
BTW ,that was 1 expensive screen you 1st ordered! ,just as well you caught it in time!
BTW ,that was 1 expensive screen you 1st ordered! ,just as well you caught it in time!
amok: Glad to hear you've got things straight and I really hope everything works out for you.
Rob
Rob
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