SO theres this girl that I went out with 4 years ago. We had a great relationship (long distance). She came to visit for a week, and we talked on the phone quite often. She did get a bit jealous because at the time I had a female friend which she thought I liked, so she was always checking up on me. I couldnt handle the pressure of that so I called it off. Strange times..
FFWD 4 1/2 years later.. I get back in touch with her and so we started talking about why things transpire the way they did. I gave her some closure to why things happened the way they did and she was happy for that. But she has found someone and they bought a home together and they've been together for nearly 4 years. I feel freaking awful for getting back in touch because now it's stirring all these emotions and even she admits. "I've been with this guy for 4 years and this is the first time we've spoken in 4 1/2 years. Why do I feel confused all over again?"
I have feelings for her but there isn't much I can do about them since she is happy and I would hate to ruin everything she has.
We've been talking about our past for the last two days and I don't know where this is all going to lead to, but I don't know if I should continue to talk to her or call it quits all together? I mean, damn, it's painful to never talk to her again, yet damn, I would be an asshole if I ruined anything they had going.
What should I DO???
update
We talked over the phone for the last two days, and it was fine at first as if we were just friends. I kept it at that mutual level and never tried to hint or overstep my boundries. Her bf knows that we're getting in touch again and just chatting and is totally cool with it. So we spoke this morning and all was well, then she started telling me that she feels it is difficult for her to have a conversation without bringing up the past. I asked her if there are questions unanswered about so we can try to put it aside. She still feels like shes always asking herself what we could've been. Then she says she wishes that I was an asshole instead, so it would be easier for her to get over me. She feels guilty for talking to me even though all parties are aware and understands. She agrees it's just her that needs to leave behind the past and enjoy the friendship that we have.
In the end, we both agreed that it is best that we simply stopped talking. Damn I'm gonna miss her.
Happy ending?
FFWD 4 1/2 years later.. I get back in touch with her and so we started talking about why things transpire the way they did. I gave her some closure to why things happened the way they did and she was happy for that. But she has found someone and they bought a home together and they've been together for nearly 4 years. I feel freaking awful for getting back in touch because now it's stirring all these emotions and even she admits. "I've been with this guy for 4 years and this is the first time we've spoken in 4 1/2 years. Why do I feel confused all over again?"
I have feelings for her but there isn't much I can do about them since she is happy and I would hate to ruin everything she has.
We've been talking about our past for the last two days and I don't know where this is all going to lead to, but I don't know if I should continue to talk to her or call it quits all together? I mean, damn, it's painful to never talk to her again, yet damn, I would be an asshole if I ruined anything they had going.
What should I DO???
update
We talked over the phone for the last two days, and it was fine at first as if we were just friends. I kept it at that mutual level and never tried to hint or overstep my boundries. Her bf knows that we're getting in touch again and just chatting and is totally cool with it. So we spoke this morning and all was well, then she started telling me that she feels it is difficult for her to have a conversation without bringing up the past. I asked her if there are questions unanswered about so we can try to put it aside. She still feels like shes always asking herself what we could've been. Then she says she wishes that I was an asshole instead, so it would be easier for her to get over me. She feels guilty for talking to me even though all parties are aware and understands. She agrees it's just her that needs to leave behind the past and enjoy the friendship that we have.
In the end, we both agreed that it is best that we simply stopped talking. Damn I'm gonna miss her.
Happy ending?
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