Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: Rob9874
I waited for 21 years, and didn't make it to marriage. It's not worth it. Sometimes I think taking care of yourself is better.
This is a bad example and I love how people always use these kinds of numbers. Unless you came out of the womb wanting sex with a woman/man right away, you didn't wait 21 years. The time you waited was from the time you first wanted sex, but told yourself you must wait for marriage. As far as talking care of yourself is better you must be doing something wrong....rarily is taking care of one's self better....but it can be.
There are three types of people in this kind of 'mission' usually 1) the couple that have been dating since kids 2) the person not even dating 3) the person dating others but limiting to non-intercourse (they claim).
type 1 is the fairy tale crowd usually....they usually do indeed make it to marriage and then have sex, and then realize an adult relationship is a lot different than a childone one and divorce or live unhappily together. Rarily do these work out (rarily does a marriage work out today though, even if divorce doesn't happen there is a ton of infidelity)
type 2 usually uses the "I am a virgin by choice to justify their lack of sex" They never had the opportunity or did but were to scared by disease or inexperience to move forward.
type 3 is rare, but happen, perhaps more of them are lying in someway about it totally, I have known a few to have been caught by someone else saying they 'let them put it in for a second'....that is still sex, even if it's not to completion.
Bottomline however is most of the time sex is not a problem unless you let it be. Jealousy is the major problem with it. I am also not saying a man or woman that's done half the town is could either, I'd really question fidelity and trust on those with very high two figures and beyond as I have found most did cheat on others during their conquests.
If I was in my 30's or so and met a woman that was having sex since 15 or so and never in a serious relationship, a high number of partners may be expected. I can't let myself get upset about it. I can't expect her to honestly say the sex was not fun at all or that she should have just wasted her youth and waited for me to come along. It's nice to say those things, but not realistic.
So the things is do what you'd like, but don't preach about it. That's where the problem lies, it's not wrong to have premarital sex, and it's not wrong to wait. If you aren't waiting don't lie about it, if you have had 100 partners or 2 don't lie about it, and most important if you don't love someone don't lie about it.
If everyone was more honest I think relationships would be much longer lasting and comfortable.
I dont have teh herpez
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