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Are you honest with yourself?

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odz

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I used to have a friend who was obsessed with a girl that he liked. Then after he asked her out and was turned down he claimed that he didn't really like her anyways, and that she was actually kind of ugly after he thought about it.
It amazed me how he could tell himself these lies to soothe his damaged self esteem, and actually believe it.

So, are you honest with yourself?

And not just with relationships, I'm talking about anything in life...
 
Yes.....no.....yes....no....well sometimes....no.....yes....albatross....yes.....ummm....no......yes........wait what was the question?
 
98% yes.

There's that 2%, but I don't think that I lie to myself about it, I actually don't know that 2%. 😀
 
Originally posted by: odz
I used to have a friend who was obsessed with a girl that he liked. Then after he asked her out and was turned down he claimed that he didn't really like her anyways, and that she was actually kind of ugly after he thought about it.
It amazed me how he could tell himself these lies to soothe his damaged self esteem, and actually believe it.

So, are you honest with yourself?

And not just with relationships, I'm talking about anything in life...
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thats just your friends way of dealing with things. It obviously worked.
 
Your friend was using a defense mechanism; you can't fight nature sometimes.

Deep down I think most people are honest with themselves; they just put on a show every now and then to protect their image.
 
If your question is "Do you delude yourself about your basic realities regularly?" my answer is no,like Popeye I know what and who I am and can cheerfully live with it, I yam what I yam works for me. I am not a 20 yr old fashion model, don't have the wealth of Bill Gates and Tom Cruise probably won't be beating down my door for a date,oh well such is life 🙂

If your question is,"Do you take every rejection and possible slight the world has to offer and use it to beat yourself senseless with it?" the answer is no !! the world is full of people who are only to eager to try to make me feel like crap in an effort to make themselves feel better, why should I help them ? A lot of the hurt people inflict upon others has more to do with their internal garbage than it does with actual flaws in the person they are hurting, wisdom lies in being able to discern a fair and true critism and the static generated when somebody's using you as an emotional garbage dump !
 
Originally posted by: baffled2
Tom Cruise probably won't be beating down my door for a date,oh well such is life 🙂
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Well you can keep hoping, I know my wife is partial to Tim McGraw.
 
yes.
but that doesn't mean that sometimes, i try to convince myself of something that i am not.

those moments are rare.
 
I think we're all guilty of some form of rationalization or another, and it would be a blatant lie if I said I was honest with myself all the time. Denial is a common tool used to temporarily waylay the full effect of reality. I think we all do it, to some degree. Or do you deny that? 😉
 
Most of the time, but sometimes I just rationalize with myself and make myself believe what I want, although I dont really believe.
 
Yep I am verry honnest with myself, and pessimist by experiance. I guess I learned a few things
1. nice guys finish last
2. the road to hell is paved with good intentions
3. always go for whats sure, if there is any chance you cant get it, you most certainly wont
4. No guts no glory(contradiction with #3 witch I guess is my main problem)
 
Originally posted by: Dark4ng3l
Yep I am verry honnest with myself, and pessimist by experiance. I guess I learned a few things
1. nice guys finish last
2. the road to hell is paved with good intentions
3. always go for whats sure, if there is any chance you cant get it, you most certainly wont
4. No guts no glory(contradiction with #3 witch I guess is my main problem)
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1. Nice guys don't always finish last, they get beatin and battered and slaughtered and slapped... then finish last.
2. Hell Jyeah
3. Nothing is ever sure
4. You're right about this... No Guts No Glory.

You're probably asking what the point of my reply is... there isn't one. =) Just thought I'd like to add to the pessimism of the original quote.
 
Yes, didn't used to be though.

It actually takes a fair bit of self-esteem and self-confidence to do so. Both quantities of which I had very little. Fortunately I have a lot more of both now, along with a healthy dose of self-respect.

I'm honest with myself, and I know myself pretty well.

I don't usually share a lot of that information with other people, but I don't BS myself.
 
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