lucky. I havnt seen the dawn of my happiness. And if I did it passed in such a fleeting moment that no lasting impression was obtained. I can see mylife now. Ill be the guy in the corner of the bar, weeping over the chances he had, and the ones he lost. I think im going to go cry now.
lucky. I havnt seen the dawn of my happiness. And if I did it passed in such a fleeting moment that no lasting impression was obtained. I can see mylife now. Ill be the guy in the corner of the bar, weeping over the chances he had, and the ones he lost. I think im going to go cry now.
*hug*
I hope you're on one of those heights of pure joy right now!
How was your trip? Hopefully the flight was good, no delays or anything. Did you get to see family?
Family? That's always a good thing...
I like reading your posts, you bring warmth to this forum, you're a good person.
Grasshopper
Last week a buddy at work said it looked like I'd just lost my bestfriend, I think that sums it up pretty well.
Originally posted by: grasshopper26
*hug*
I hope you're on one of those heights of pure joy right now!
How was your trip? Hopefully the flight was good, no delays or anything. Did you get to see family?
Family? That's always a good thing...
I like reading your posts, you bring warmth to this forum, you're a good person.
Grasshopper
"Lahwng Eyeland" was great... saw all the lights on one of the beaches... got great pics... Manhattan was awesome (ate at The Tea Box)... and yeah, hanging out with my big sister was probably one of the best memories I'll ever have. We didn't get along so good as kids but now it's so clear that we love and admire each other... I had to keep from crying when she left me off at JFK.
I don't like her being in NYC. I want her back home.See? Joy and Sorrow, ever connected...
*hug*
I know that feeling, I've been there myself. I also know that it isn't easy to snap out of it, no matter how many times people will say that.
I wish you were here, we'd try our darnest to cheer you up.
Oh no, please don't think that... First your friends want to be burdened by your fears and concerns, that is why they are your friends. Second, knowing why you are sad doesn't always enable you to fix the "problem". Sometimes it is something you have to work through, sometimes it just takes time, and sometimes it takes a little of both.
That's all that is required, you do not need a reason. If you're sad, then you're sad, those feelings are 100% real and honest. Please don't be ashamed of it, it isn't something you should feel bad about. Accept that you're sad, sometimes that's enough.
Have you said what you just typed in this post to your friends? Try saying those exact words to them, I'll bet you get a lot more support and help from them, they probably don't really know how sad you are. Just tell them, they will be there for you...
Sometimes that is true too...
*hug*
Grasshopper
I'm happy, but I'm annoyed(temporarily) that I still don't have electricity. OMG but I'm still posting on ATOT from my friend's house... Back to Hot Deals....
Originally posted by: Azraele
Lol, I think this goes beyond what a shoulder can cure, but thanks for the offer.
If I cheered you up, even a little bit, then it's worth it...
Look on the bright side squirt, you have friends here who care about you, that is never a bad thing...
*hug*
Grasshopper
I just like to debate things here, so im gonna fight this argument.
You have some good examples. and The Prophet is full of wisdom both realised and unrealised. If my dog were to die, then I would be left with almost nothing. He is my only friend that has stayed with me sience my move. He doesn't talk much but we understand eachother. Now if he were to die, where is my joy? I could never replace him, could never find his equal. No joy.
My situtation with girls is at its lowest. See my first post in this thread for a more detailed look at it. But take a look at this. No matter what I do, the women turn their backs. I either get the cold shoulder or get a warm smile with a gentle no. No real joy, no connection, just a bottomless pit of despair that I have cast my body into.
I dont know, weak arguments, but I disagree with you. Mabye tomorrow ill hit this up with something more coherent.
Originally posted by: Isla
"Lahwng Eyeland" was great... saw all the lights on one of the beaches... got great pics... Manhattan was awesome (ate at The Tea Box)... and yeah, hanging out with my big sister was probably one of the best memories I'll ever have. We didn't get along so good as kids but now it's so clear that we love and admire each other... I had to keep from crying when she left me off at JFK.
See? Joy and Sorrow, ever connected...
Without sorrow, we could know no joy...A thought I think might apply to you:
I know God will not give me anything I can't
handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me
so much.
-- Mother Teresa
*hug*
Grasshopper
Azraele
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I'm gonna agree with this, you can't know one without the other. Say a person was 'happy" all the time and had never known sadness. How could they truly be happy without those sad days to compare their state of happiness to? It'd be like a blind person, how could they know color, when all they see is dark?
Sure.
The Hug, Thom Gunn
It was your birthday, we had drunk and dined
Half of the night with our old friend
Who'd showed us in the end
To a bed I reached in one drunk stride.
Already I lay snug,
And drowsy with the wine dozed on one side.
I dozed, I slept. My sleep broke on a hug,
Suddenly, from behind,
In which the full lengths of our bodies pressed:
Your instep to my heel,
My shoulder-blades against your chest.
It was not sex, but I could feel
The whole strength of your body set,
Or braced, to mine,
And locking me to you
As if we were still twenty-two
When our grand passion had not yet
Become familial.
My quick sleep had deleted all
Of intervening time and place.
I only knew
The stay of your secure firm dry embrace.
*hugs* (feel better Azraele)
Cheers !
The Hug, Thom Gunn
It was your birthday, we had drunk and dined
Half of the night with our old friend
Who'd showed us in the end
To a bed I reached in one drunk stride.
Already I lay snug,
And drowsy with the wine dozed on one side.
I dozed, I slept. My sleep broke on a hug,
Suddenly, from behind,
In which the full lengths of our bodies pressed:
Your instep to my heel,
My shoulder-blades against your chest.
It was not sex, but I could feel
The whole strength of your body set,
Or braced, to mine,
And locking me to you
As if we were still twenty-two
When our grand passion had not yet
Become familial.
My quick sleep had deleted all
Of intervening time and place.
I only knew
The stay of your secure firm dry embrace.
*hugs* (feel better Azraele)
Cheers !
sometimes we have to make our own happiness
which is why i know this will pass, in time i'll figure out what is really bothering me and make the appropriate changes to my life and fix it up. but until then i can't stop living because life goes on. as much as i'd like to spend everyday just laying in bed and feeling sorry for myself realistically, that is not the way i am going to start feeling better and it most certainly isn't an effective way to make a better future for myself.
i find it helps if i give myself little "assignments" such as "call one person, try to see one person, go to the gym, walk the dog, go shopping, do this assignment, do this homework" it gets me active and gives me time to stop thinking about being sad and makes sure i get stuff done i need to do.
i also have lists of things that i do when i'm sad to take my mind off of why i am sad.
The greatest unhappiness that I know is the search for happiness. I used to be profoundly unhappy. It was pure black. There was no hope and no escape. Life was utterly completely and totally meaningless. I happened upon Zen and discovered that life is utterly completely and totally meaningless. AHAHAHAHAHA! An interesting addendum that. Son of a bitch if it wasn't true.
I stopped looking for happiness and it started looking for me. A Zen saying.
I stopped looking for happiness and it started looking for me. A Zen saying.
Yah, I think I'm happy.
Finals are over. I made an A in my EMT-IV class.
I got some excellent comments (and a recommendation) about striving to be a great EMT-IV
I got hired on at an EMS station, just have to get my license in the mail
Got a new girls phone number
Christmas is around the corner.
I just bought a few materialistic items (A40, Dell Axim)
Life is pretty good, and the future appears bright.
peace
sean
Finals are over. I made an A in my EMT-IV class.
I got some excellent comments (and a recommendation) about striving to be a great EMT-IV
I got hired on at an EMS station, just have to get my license in the mail
Got a new girls phone number
Christmas is around the corner.
I just bought a few materialistic items (A40, Dell Axim)
Life is pretty good, and the future appears bright.
peace
sean
Originally posted by: AdamDuritz99
Yah, I think I'm happy.
Finals are over. I made an A in my EMT-IV class.
I got some excellent comments (and a recommendation) about striving to be a great EMT-IV
I got hired on at an EMS station, just have to get my license in the mail
Got a new girls phone number
Christmas is around the corner.
I just bought a few materialistic items (A40, Dell Axim)
Life is pretty good, and the future appears bright.
peace
sean
Power to the EMT-IV. Im getting my EMT-B this spring. I already have my First Responder. I am hoping to be a paramedic or Flight Nurse or someting along those lines. It depends if I can get myself out of this hole.
Zebo
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- Jul 29, 2001
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Originally posted by: Moonbeam
The greatest unhappiness that I know is the search for happiness. I used to be profoundly unhappy. It was pure black. There was no hope and no escape. Life was utterly completely and totally meaningless. I happened upon Zen and discovered that life is utterly completely and totally meaningless. AHAHAHAHAHA! An interesting addendum that. Son of a bitch if it wasn't true.
I stopped looking for happiness and it started looking for me. A Zen saying.
Never heard of it (well maybe in Seven years in Tibet) have any starter book recommendations?
I heard The Three Pillars of Zen is good, but I don't know for sure. I have no idea what I read. I never paid any attention to who or title. I go for the meaning. Very annoying when trying to hold a literate conversation.
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