Are sarcastic expressions of homosexual lust a common form of insult?

[HamburgerBoy]

I don't get it. What is it supposed to mean? Through much of my life, insults directed towards me have been along the lines of "Woah there sexy, how much?" and such, which I always assumed to be sarcastic attacks on my physical appearance. Those mostly stopped when I was middle/early high school aged, but just now (~twenty minutes ago) while waiting at a pedestrian crosswalk, there was a group of four individuals, one of them a youngish (probably freshman/sophomore) typical skinny white kid said "Hey, hey you!", I look over at him, "Yeah, you! You're so fucking sexy! I want to fuck you in the butt!" at which point he begins jaywalking, turns around halfway across, points his finger at his region of excrement expulsion, and repeats "Fuck! You! In! The! Butt!" His girlfriend/friend of female sex then starts giggling.



I was really tempted to say something similar to him but I lost most of my willpower/courage several years ago.

So, for those of you that have experienced such incidents, how often does it affect you, and what is your general appearance/composition? I'm admittedly a small guy (5'7" 130lbs) and also apparently look young for my age, but I don't think that I'm so fugly that it is worth commenting on. Have you ever confronted the aggressor in such a situation?

I was planning on finishing up a presentation for a seminar practice run I have to give tomorrow, but right now I'm irritated (and it's usually not easy for that to happen). Already I feel that this is getting it off my chest, however.

 

[FoBoT]

dude, that sucks
that would make me very angry

 

[Howard]

Should've fucked him in the butt.

 

[sjwaste]

Common? Not to any extent that I've seen. In that sort of situation, there's really not a whole lot to say - you have a little high school dude making a scene in front of his friends. What exactly are you supposed to do? You probably weren't singled out, you were just conveniently located. Smile and move on.

Many years ago, I was 5'7" and 130 lbs myself. Back then, if the kid was the same age as me, I'd probably have told him to come over and give it a try. But I assume you're an adult, or at least a few years older than the kid, so just walk away.

This world is full of idiots. You're going to meet a lot of them. You might even be one of them (in many ways, I sure am). Confidence can't be taught, though. If you want to acquire it, you'll need to work on it. Hitting the gym did a lot for me when I was your size. But eventually you need to just start walking around and talking to people as though you're automatically in charge of the situation. Then, shit like this won't bother you.

 

[PottedMeat]

you're supposed to say "what?" with your hand up to your ear as he jaywalks. when he stops to respond, he gets hit by a car and you walk away.

 

[Oil]

The problem is you failed to maintain your stance of dominance

 

[lxskllr]

That's never really happened to me. I've had a couple people make clever comments about my kilts, but they said it friendly enough that I let it go. I'm 6'4" ~200# though, so I probably never heard as much bullshit as I otherwise might have.

 

[DominionSeraph]

Try growing out of whatever weird mental state is both singling you out as a target and making you unable to respond.

 

[Imp]

I usually play along for even take it up a level.

One guy made fun of me about gayness (I'm only metro), and I sexually harassed him for a few months...

 

[MagnusTheBrewer]

Try growing out of whatever weird mental state is both singling you out as a target and making you unable to respond.

So, the OP can be known as pony boy too.

 

[Doppel]

This is why when I'm outside of the house it's either in my car or a retail establishment. I like to avoid interaction with the beggars and misfits as much as I can.

 

[Imp]

This is why when I'm outside of the house it's either in my car or a retail establishment. I like to avoid interaction with the beggars and misfits as much as I can.

Or do what I do... put on a cap (bald,it's a requirement), huge sunglasses, and hoodie. Ultimate anti-social, leave me alone stance. If only I smoked, that would just totally finish the outfit.

 

[JulesMaximus]

We need pics of you in a speedo before giving advice of this type.

 

[Arik5405]

We need pics of you in a speedo before giving advice of this type.

This. So we can decide if you are actually worth butt fucking or not.

 

[DominionSeraph]

So, the OP can be known as pony boy too.

For that he need only go down to Hot Topic:

But what he's saying is, "I can't handle the snarky haters."
He needs to be more like Applejack.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

Common? Not to any extent that I've seen. In that sort of situation, there's really not a whole lot to say - you have a little high school dude making a scene in front of his friends. What exactly are you supposed to do? You probably weren't singled out, you were just conveniently located. Smile and move on.

Many years ago, I was 5'7" and 130 lbs myself. Back then, if the kid was the same age as me, I'd probably have told him to come over and give it a try. But I assume you're an adult, or at least a few years older than the kid, so just walk away.

This world is full of idiots. You're going to meet a lot of them. You might even be one of them (in many ways, I sure am). Confidence can't be taught, though. If you want to acquire it, you'll need to work on it. Hitting the gym did a lot for me when I was your size. But eventually you need to just start walking around and talking to people as though you're automatically in charge of the situation. Then, shit like this won't bother you.

FWIW he was probably college aged, a couple years younger at most (this happened right off of campus). It's not necessarily a matter of confidence in my size; in middle school people would try to pick fights with me or laugh at me or whatever and by 6th grade I was practically expelled because I fought back too aggressively. That instilled a behavioral change making me unwilling to fight back. To be perfectly honest I do probably see myself as a target unnecessarily, however. Due to many experiences in the past I frequently harbor victim fantasies of being accosted in similar situations and then lashing out, usually in a sexual manner as well, and I tend to look at people as threats.

I remember taking a proficiency exam just prior to college enrollment, the hallways were empty and most kids were in the courtyard thing. One kid starts knocking on a door outside between the courtyard and the hallway I was in, looking through the window right at me. This was automatically translated into "I want to fight you bitch" in my mind. I stop walking and glare at him through the window until another kid behind me opens the door. The first kid walks by me and says "What's your problem? I just needed to use the restroom, ass." (The door was locked)

But still, can I assume that these insults are only made because the aggressor feels they have the upper hand? I've noticed that this only happens when I'm by myself as well, and when the aggressor is in the company of others. Maybe it all originates from some sub-human pack mentality.

 

[lxskllr]

But still, can I assume that these insults are only made because the aggressor feels they have the upper hand? I've noticed that this only happens when I'm by myself as well, and when the aggressor is in the company of others. Maybe it all originates from some sub-human pack mentality.

A lot of pansies are only badasses when they're in groups. You used to see that with a lot of (quasi)skinheads. When alone they'd shuffle along looking at the ground, and only grew balls when traveling in a group. In that group, they'd only hassle people who they perceived weren't a threat.

 

[Soundmanred]

this only happens when I'm by myself .

So...always?

 

[Number1]

If you're walking around wearing makeup and high heels then yes, it might attract a few comments.