To the OP, I 100% agree with you!. I have tried linux in the here and there in the past 10 years, and always wanting to seek windows likeness and how close can they get to windows desktop functionality.
I have tried the latest ubuntu and sure it looks great, nowadays I really want to learn the technical side of linux. So, I set out to find a distro that basically does the base install, has a great getting started tutorial and thats enough information I would need to figure out my own "custom" build of linux from there.
A couple months back after looking into gentoo like distros(mainly because I love the system rescue cd distro which is gentoo based). I went and searched around and discovered Arch linux, basically very similar to bsd style init and gentoo, kinda hybrid bsd and linux. I loved it! at first I was overwhelmed but now, I have a arch linux install running my NAS computer I built from atom board and 1.5TB HDD.
Arch is the bomb when it comes to a base install and then allowing user to custom build from there, most effecient way...without having to be a HARDCORE linux fiend and stuff lol.
I love pacman too, awesome package management system.
I love the rolling release model, I just use fsarchiver to backup my system before doing huge system upgrades, that way something goes wrong...restore the file system =) great backup program.
I love the simpler BSD like init too, with rc.conf, so much nicer then sysv init style linux distros.
Arch taught me a crapload about linux too, I went from trying to wrap my head around the UFS style thinking to ... well, being completely comfortable with with most common command line commands and configuration files, and on and on. I used to fear the console, now I think everyone should learn to use it =) its so damn effecient!