Originally posted by: QueHuong
Originally posted by: PrinceofWands
It's not necessarily unreasonable, but neither is it your choice to make. If she thinks that's a good choice and can be happy with it, cool. If not, can you accept that she has no interest in employability/practicality? Would you be able to support her belief that college may not be about getting a job and be non-judgemental later if her financial options were severely limited?
I'm not making, nor am I trying to, any choices for her. I am providing arguments for the other side (which you view as disrespecting and refusing to accept her opinions), which is especially important since this decision could affect the rest of her life, if not at the very least opens and closes certain paths she can take.
I'm curious about something. In almost every single reply of yours, you accuse at least one person of not respecting differing opinions, and in my case, not respecting hers. As I have revealed very little of what I've said to her, how did you conclude that "I'm not ok with her being different"? You finally end by hinting that I'll be judgemental of her if the decision she makes turns out to be wrong, so now I'm quite annoyed.
As you gave me personal relationship advices, let me return the favor by giving you advices on your ambitions of becoming a teacher. You seem to make it a habit of riding a high horse whenever people disagree with you, accusing them of refusing to let other people hold their own personal opinions. Unless you only want to teach sheeps, you should get used to students expressing their disagreement with you without feeling they are disrespecting your opinions, especially if that class is going to be philosophy.
Furthermore, if you want to be a philosophy teacher, you should practice what you teach. Making assumptions for which there're little evidence for will not teach your students cogent reasoning. As I've revealed little of what I've said to her, the conclusions and accusations you make about the nature of our relationship can only be based on careless assumptions.
(And don't mistaken my choice of the word 'revealed' to mean I am hiding anything about my conversations with her. I purposely chose that word to show that you make hasty conclusions based on what is not there. Seeing your inclination for making assumptions, I felt this disclaimer is necessary.)
Learn to receive disagreements without accusing the speaker of disrespecting your opinions, and don't make assumptions for which there are no basis for are my two advices to you.