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Anyone here NOT an introvert? Maybe an ambivert?

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Very much extrovert. Being out and around people feed my energy. My wife is complete opposite. I most often strike up a conversation around strangers.

Myers-brigs always gets ENTJ or P.

Our marriage is a great balance. She reels me in and I reel her out. She is empowered by me. She feeds off my extro
 
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lxskllr said:
SKORPI0 said:
10 question Introvert-Extrovert Test

mine - Extrovertedness: 55%
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I got 50%. Some of those answers didn't apply at all. Dunno if it would make a difference.
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Yeah....the answers there, no, they just don't suit me.
2) It is Thursday night.
Friday morning will surely follow, and Saturday after that. I'm quite certain of it.

3) It is 9:30pm on Saturday. Your cellphone rings and you do not recognize the telephone number.
Why is it not set to Silent, or turned off?

9) Do your peers (not friends) see you as...
Wait, wouldn't I need to interact with them in order to know this? 😀




spidey07 said:
Very much extrovert. Being out and around people feed my energy. My wife is complete opposite. I most often strike up a conversation around strangers.
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My college roommate was like that. Other people were his addictive substance of choice.
Fortunately, he was also quite understanding of the way I reacted to other people, particularly since I was then stuck living 1) in a strange building, 2) in close quarters with a bunch of very large 18-year-old toddlers out on their
own for the first time, 3) in a room with another person, and 4) with nowhere to go to properly get away from everyone and everything, and therefore was fairly stressed almost continuously for the entire semester.

He would very kindly go elsewhere to do his "be around people" thing.



Edit: Here we go, I just found the source of this comic. (DeviantArt...enter at own risk. 😛)
The talk of "energy" sounds a bit wacky, but it ends up feeling like that. Being around people is draining, to the point of being exhausting if it continues for long enough. So if I'm going to be around someone, it had better be well worth it. 🙂 (Or it had better be well-buffered, like an Internet forum.)

"Because this energy is a limited resource, they tend to see extroverts as obnoxious predators..."
Yeah, pretty much. Or simply rude. Extroverts see it as perfectly acceptable to harass quiet people. "Don't be shy! Come on! Participate!" Even the minor details of life exhibit these signs. At work, you can't qualify for the employee-of-the-month running if you don't "actively participate" at company picnics or parties. Oh joy. Large groups. Lots of chattering. Noise. Constant small talk about nothing.
Nnnnnope!

Introverts don't incessantly harass them to go sit quietly somewhere, alone. "Go be by yourself! Go on! Hush up in a quiet room!"



Bleh.
Back to my hamster ball, complete with aloneium solitudinate armor plating. :sneaky:
 
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That's the main difference. What feeds your energy vs zaps it.
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It'd just be nice if some of the more insistent extroverted sorts would figure out that they need to lay off. People who prefer keep to themselves sometimes aren't damaged for god's sake.
 
I'm mostly on the Introvert side. I don't mind going to an outing with lot of people but after it's done I'm glad to be back home and it's not something I'd want to do all the time. If there's no food I will see little to no reason to go to such an outing, because I show up mostly for the food. 😛
 
Introvert.

I'm fine talking with people, but I just wear out throughout the day. 9am things are great, by 6pm I'm done with people and ready to be home or just on a walk with my wife.

Most extroverts I know are the exact opposite, they start out slow and actually get more energy the more they hang out and are ready to keep socializing into the night.
 
I think more than anything, I am apathetic.. I don't know for sure probably because I'm too lazy to find out.

According to that "test".. I'm "balanced". Probably the first time that's been said about me. :sneaky:
 
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I am very much an extrovert. Learned to be. I learned early on that people respond to charismatic, confident, characters much more readily than the meek and reserved. Shaping this position has been one of primary contributions to my success, especially at work.
 
Introverted people are probably either narcissists or ugly. It seems unnatural for social animals to be antisocial?
 
Zeze said:
You think all animals are extroverts?
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Hard to really comment on the emotive capacity of other less evolved mammals or other animals. I realize being anti-social isn't equivalent to being introverted, so i guess i qualify the previous statement with strong introversion.

Other animals aren't self-aware and don't carry emotional baggage. People become weird around high-school age, where our previous optimism, open and trusting nature turns into something else. Many people decide during this age to make it a lifelong goal to avoid embarrassment etc. "Difference" is usually cruelly pointed out. Or if someone is self-absorbed and not really interested in his fellow man, then he'd appear to be introverted as well, maybe.
 
justoh said:
Hard to really comment on the emotive capacity of other less evolved mammals or other animals. I realize being anti-social isn't equivalent to being introverted, so i guess i qualify the previous statement with strong introversion.

Other animals aren't self-aware and don't carry emotional baggage. People become weird around high-school age, where our previous optimism, open and trusting nature turns into something else. Many people decide during this age to make it a lifelong goal to avoid embarrassment etc. "Difference" is usually cruelly pointed out. Or if someone is self-absorbed and not really interested in his fellow man, then he'd appear to be introverted as well, maybe.
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That's a big broad stroke for how someone turns into an introvert.

I know people....

* That were extremely outgoing as a kid, shy during teens, then outgoing again in 20-30s.

* Were shy as a kid, outgoing during teens, then mellow out to introvert in adulthood

* Or pick any of the all possible combinations.

Introversion/extroversion isn't a product of puberty. It's tons of factors. Some introversion is hard-wired by your nature.
 
Zeze said:
That's a big broad stroke for how someone turns into an introvert.

I know people....

* That were extremely outgoing as a kid, shy during teens, then outgoing again in 20-30s.

* Were shy as a kid, outgoing during teens, then mellow out to introvert in adulthood

* Or pick any of the all possible combinations.

Introversion/extroversion isn't a product of puberty. It's tons of factors. Some introversion is hard-wired by your nature.
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Definitely.

<-- Naturally kept to myself, or enjoyed things that just didn't require the participation or presence of another person, and when it did become necessary, I preferred the company of adults and teachers, rather than those my own age. (They were just too....well, childish and immature. Go figure.)
The years spent at school taught me that other people are very rarely worth the trouble.
 
Zeze said:
That's a big broad stroke for how someone turns into an introvert.

I know people....

* That were extremely outgoing as a kid, shy during teens, then outgoing again in 20-30s.

* Were shy as a kid, outgoing during teens, then mellow out to introvert in adulthood

* Or pick any of the all possible combinations.

Introversion/extroversion isn't a product of puberty. It's tons of factors. Some introversion is hard-wired by your nature.
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It kind of was the story for me- in high school, while I wasn't really picked on, I was also wasn't very accepted. I tried very hard to get noticed and impressing people. I sucked at sports (which is about all girls at our school cared about), so I poured all of my energy into music. While people were impressed that I could play guitar really well, the 80's music tastes were synthesizers and drum machines, so guitar music didn't really do much for me. I also developed a cynical sense of humor as a defense mechanism. I could make people laugh, which actually got me more attention, but by then everyone had their own circles and I was on the sidelines. Girls wanted guys that were able to carry a ball from point A to point B faster than anyone else, and guys only wanted to hang out with other guys that could carry a ball equally well.

At some point, I gave up trying to get people to like me and learned to enjoy my own company. The ironic thing is all of the traits I had in high school turned out to be highly desirable as an adult, and now I'm always getting invited to things. However, the damage is already done and to this day I can't stand being around large groups of people. I don't really have any friends I hang out with, I don't go to non-family social gatherings, and I have to force myself to make small talk with people I don't know really well. I have difficulty showing any kind of affection- nothing makes my skin crawl more than my relatives giving me a hug ( my wife's family is full of huggers), I have to make an effort to say "I love you" to my wife or parents, and I'm not affectionate to my kids at all (I do things for them, I fix their problems and support their actions, but not much into physical contact or affection).

I blame the majority of this on high school.

Cliff notes: I'm really screwed up, but I'm OK with it.

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I was in sales for a large portion of my life, so I can talk to anyone and have an enjoyable conversation.

The downside to that is that I also learned how much I really dislike most people and given the choice, I'd rather not talk to most of the population.

So I'm a stuck up social butterfly. Classify me how you like.
 
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