Anyone here in their 20s

[Jikininki]

Originally posted by: pclstyle

Originally posted by: Jikininki
I live with my parents..and I fully intend on leaving them once I save up enough money. My dad wants me to stay home forever tho and be the obedient daughter who takes care of them forever.

I'm all for taking care of them..but I dont need to be in the same house to do it. I'm the only 22 year old I know who has a 10pm curfew on weekdays and a 11pm curfew on weekends. It's ridiculous.

that is pretty ridiculous... that was my curfew in 7th grade, and then i started doing sports- and i got bumped to midnight.

are you asian? i am, but once i hit high school, a lot of the norms that applied to my friends (also asian) were no longer relevant. That and my dad began working overseas 11 months out of the year. And then when my mom joined him after a year, I became the sole resident of my home @ the age of 17. Heh.

yea..I'm asian. It's funny cause I was actally more free during high school than I am now. Apparently daddy doesn't trust his baby daughter to be out and about now that she can drive a car and has a boyfriend and is old enough to drink.

I don't know ANYONE..asian or otherwise who has it as bad as I do. Even my 2 cousins who are 20 and 21 get to do wahtever they want, come and go as they please. My mom's not so strict...but she's kinda like dad's enforcer so she does the guilt trip thing where it's "your daddy's yelling at me for you to come home..do you like seeing me get yelled at by your dad? waah waah".

GRRRRRRRRRRR.

 

[Amplifier]

I'm living with my parents and I'm 23. It isn't horrible, but I'd rather be back on my own. My house in Baltimore burned down so I'm going to be here for another 6 months at least.

 

[jimbob200521]

Still at home, but I'm 19. I plan on being moved out by the time I turn 20.

 

[IMaN00BieGF]

Staying there while your in school isn't bad, just move out when your done though and don't be a moocher.

 

[neegotiator]

Originally posted by: Jikininki

Originally posted by: pclstyle

Originally posted by: Jikininki
I live with my parents..and I fully intend on leaving them once I save up enough money. My dad wants me to stay home forever tho and be the obedient daughter who takes care of them forever.

I'm all for taking care of them..but I dont need to be in the same house to do it. I'm the only 22 year old I know who has a 10pm curfew on weekdays and a 11pm curfew on weekends. It's ridiculous.

that is pretty ridiculous... that was my curfew in 7th grade, and then i started doing sports- and i got bumped to midnight.

are you asian? i am, but once i hit high school, a lot of the norms that applied to my friends (also asian) were no longer relevant. That and my dad began working overseas 11 months out of the year. And then when my mom joined him after a year, I became the sole resident of my home @ the age of 17. Heh.

yea..I'm asian. It's funny cause I was actally more free during high school than I am now. Apparently daddy doesn't trust his baby daughter to be out and about now that she can drive a car and has a boyfriend and is old enough to drink.

I don't know ANYONE..asian or otherwise who has it as bad as I do. Even my 2 cousins who are 20 and 21 get to do wahtever they want, come and go as they please. My mom's not so strict...but she's kinda like dad's enforcer so she does the guilt trip thing where it's "your daddy's yelling at me for you to come home..do you like seeing me get yelled at by your dad? waah waah".

GRRRRRRRRRRR.

haha i'm asian too and my mom pulls the guilt trip thing off real well, but I was able to come and go as I please by like 17 or so. I'm a guy tho, asian parents seem a whole lot more strict on their daughters.

 

[clickynext]

I'll most likely stay with parents until undergrad is over. Just much easier, asian family as well.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

I would just rather have a roommate and share an apartment.
I'll do what I need to do, but I don't have to like it.

 

[puffff]

Originally posted by: IMaN00BieGF
Staying there while your in school isn't bad, just move out when your done though and don't be a moocher.

mooching what?

food? thats easy, just pay for groceries once in a while. utils? offer to pay for internet then. these are rather small costs that a family shouldnt bicker over anyways.

 

[TheChort]

Im 23 and i live at home
I moved out last year for school, now im back home while I'm in between schooling. No problems. My parents dont bug me, and they give me my space. PLus, my mom does my laundry

Jikininki, sorry to hear about your situation. There was a Christian Indian (dot not feather) girl i went out with a couple times last year whose father was just like that. In fact she lied to her father and told him classes went to 5pm every day just so she didn't have to go home early from school. I took her to dinner and had to get her back to her car by 10pm so she could drive home.

What i never got was why she didn't fight him. Most fathers I know just melt for their daughters anyway.

 

[Tremulant]

I'm 21, live at home. Probably will stay living at home until I finish college (I should've been done by now, but I effed up a few times... =\)

However, my room is in the garage, so I stay out of the way for the most part.

Edit: I pay for my car, my schooling, all the dry cleaning, and I help out around the house when I can. I feel that I earn my take.

And my mom does my laundry too. :heart:

 

[pclstyle]

Originally posted by: TheChort
Im 23 and i live at home
I moved out last year for school, now im back home while I'm in between schooling. No problems. My parents dont bug me, and they give me my space. PLus, my mom does my laundry

Jikininki, sorry to hear about your situation. There was a Christian Indian (dot not feather) girl i went out with a couple times last year whose father was just like that. In fact she lied to her father and told him classes went to 5pm every day just so she didn't have to go home early from school. I took her to dinner and had to get her back to her car by 10pm so she could drive home.

What i never got was why she didn't fight him. Most fathers I know just melt for their daughters anyway.

If she fought, she'd probably (in the eyes of her parents) become one of "those other kids" that her father always feels the need to inform her about. You know, the type that doesn't listen to their parents, is headed on the express train for self-damnation and hell...

When different people weigh alternatives, they place their emphasis in completely different areas.

 

[pclstyle]

Originally posted by: KarmaPolice

Originally posted by: pclstyle

Originally posted by: Jikininki
I live with my parents..and I fully intend on leaving them once I save up enough money. My dad wants me to stay home forever tho and be the obedient daughter who takes care of them forever.

I'm all for taking care of them..but I dont need to be in the same house to do it. I'm the only 22 year old I know who has a 10pm curfew on weekdays and a 11pm curfew on weekends. It's ridiculous.

that is pretty ridiculous... that was my curfew in 7th grade, and then i started doing sports- and i got bumped to midnight.

are you asian? i am, but once i hit high school, a lot of the norms that applied to my friends (also asian) were no longer relevant. That and my dad began working overseas 11 months out of the year. And then when my mom joined him after a year, I became the sole resident of my home @ the age of 17. Heh.

That would be sweet to be that indepentant at a young age. I would have learned a lot from that heh. My parents are pretty sheltering...but I think i am well adjusted now.

While it would be cool to have your own house at that age I would miss my parents too much, and at that point I was still dependant on them.

Also....my parents would never move and leave me and my brother behind while we were in highschool.

Yeah... although by the accounts of all my peers, it seemed ridiculously "awesome" to be in my particular situation- i definitely had more than a few woes.

Money was never a problem, neither was learning to be responsible or keeping myself motivated (i'm pretty sure my mother made damn sure of that before she left) but man- you get really, really lonely on those weekday nights when your friends are busy studying for exams, or you just had a huge fight with your girlfriend and all your friends are preoccupied with their own families.

Although I don't look at my experience with distaste at all, and I wouldn't give up where I'm at now (with regards to my life) for anything- I still sometimes wonder how it would have been had I grown up a bit differently.

So parents- if you're considering leaving your kids during that prime season of maturation (16-21), make damn sure they know you love them -- even if it means coming home 6 times a year from a country on the opposite side of the planet.

 

[Jikininki]

Originally posted by: TheChort
Im 23 and i live at home
I moved out last year for school, now im back home while I'm in between schooling. No problems. My parents dont bug me, and they give me my space. PLus, my mom does my laundry

Jikininki, sorry to hear about your situation. There was a Christian Indian (dot not feather) girl i went out with a couple times last year whose father was just like that. In fact she lied to her father and told him classes went to 5pm every day just so she didn't have to go home early from school. I took her to dinner and had to get her back to her car by 10pm so she could drive home.

What i never got was why she didn't fight him. Most fathers I know just melt for their daughters anyway.

Yea...i lie a lot. I used to tell them I have night classes that run til 9:30pm every other night so i can see my bf. Instead of saying i'm going to the bf's house..i lie and say I'm meeting some girl friends for lunch/dinner. Instead of saying i'm going to a bar with a friend..I say we're giong to see a movie then grabbing a bite afterwards at applebees or a diner (so I can stay out later).

I can't fight dad...we grew up fearing him...i still do. He might've provided for me financially all my life (until I got a job, anyway)...but he wasn't really affectionate or kind. I know he's mellowed out a lot now that he's older but he is still a scary guy. He's not a big guy..but he knows how to use silence to fear someone into submission.

While I knwo he can't force me to stay in my room for the rest of my life and he would never hit me I just cna't get past the fear...plus there's mom with the guilt trip thing cause if he's ever really angry with me or my siblings my mom's the one he'd yell and rant at and I don't like seeing mom upset.

sigh... lol. it really sucks being asian sometimes.

 

[Baked]

Hella disposable income per month FTW! j/k

 

[Wildapes]

I do now after basically living on my own since I was around 17... but I have a decent job and make ok money and also pay rent, buy all my own stuff etc. My life has been pretty crappy up until this point (I am 24 now)

I didn't get along with my parents when I was younger.. they made it extremely difficult for me (both are divorced live in different states and live entirely different lifestyles...)

Oh and it beats living in the worst imaginable apartment living off ramen with a herd of retards stomping on the ceiling at all possible hours...(something I had to do for a few years....)

 

[markgm]

I bought my first house when I was your age, so I guess I'd find it awkward to move back in.

 

[Asharus]

No but I wish I did to save about 850 a month

 

[skrilla]

I had been mostly living on my own since I graduated high school, with the exception of about a year when I was a sophomore in college. I'm 27.

Then I moved back in with my parents three months ago when the townhome attached to mine caught fire and I was forced out.

It was weird at first and I kind of felt like an intruder for camping there. I felt like I had to call them at night when I would be out all night to let them know. I just wanted to be back in my place. But we got used to each other. Luckily, I am back at my place now....my Dad and I were kind of getting on each others nerves more and more often.

 

[silverghost]

I went into the Army after High School, then when I was done with my 4 years, moved back in with my parents. They where pretty cool with it after a month or two of readjusting to one another and butting heads with them. I didn't move out again till I was 27 with a girlfriend I was dating, that didn't work out after a year, so moved back in with them for a couple months while I was closing on my condo and fixing it up. I see them usually once a week at my place or go over their place for dinner on Wednesdays Then again I'm only 10 minutes from them and 15-20 minutes from where my sister lives.

 

[Ctrackstar126]

Im 21(white) and live with my mom. I dont have any plans on moving out anytime soon. Even if I had a really good job and moved out I would move her in with me.

She also doesnt bother me but I guess her being a single mom and me being her only son does that.

 

[zendari]

Originally posted by: rh71

Originally posted by: zendari
My parents moved out of the house permanently at 18. I don't know why its so acceptable for our generation to remain there in their mid 20s.

they moved out and gave you the house or what ?

Mid-20s isn't bad... it's when you're late 20s and supposedly settled with a regular job that living with parents at home is "unacceptable". When you're mid-20s... you are still saving for your own house and settling with a good job. What's so unacceptable about that ?

For me, I was 24 when I bought my house with my fiancee (she did the same before that). Wasn't going to happen if we moved out at ~20 without a full time job and renting every month. Someone should start a poll to see who ends up where when ____.

No, I was referring to my dad specifically moving out of my grandfather's house.

Part of being an adult IMO is living on your own.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

I think I will get a second job instead. Stay where I am now.

 

[Jassi]

Originally posted by: logic1485
I am, but I am Indian, so that's different