Anyone have a friend such as this?

[LuckyTaxi]

Growing up my friend and I would have a friendly competition school wise. I never took it seriously but our parents would always tried to compare us to one another. I was the smarter one and he was the slower more simple minded individual. We're now 25 and he has since moved to Cali with his mom. He is now a nurse making like $3500/month AFTER taxes. I on the other hand makes $2000/month after taxes and upon hearing this he would rub it in. I try to explain to the moron that the cost of living in Cali is higher than that of Philly. besides he's some sort of a nurse and yes his field does pay more money. so what, i enjoy what i do.

anyways, i saw him a month ago and it seems ever since then he has taken things personally. His dad doesnt like me very much, only because he knows i'm smarter than his son and he doesnt want his son to "lose" to me. For me, it's complete nonsense and I could careless. However, it's irritating since he would call and talk about his job and now all of a sudden says his gf makes more money than me and that i cant compete with her business. I guess my real estate business isn't good enough for him and knowing that I'm worth approx $425k in real estate hurts him. It's not liquid but it is what it is.

Sorry to vent, but these are the type of friends I dont need in my life.

 

[Xonoahbin]

Oh yes I have someone like this in my life, however, they're not a friend
Let's just say this girl and her friends think they're so much smarter and so much better than I am, while they can't compete with half of me.

 

[JoeKing]

just remeber this, your penis is bigger than his. Right? Right?!?!

 

[sixone]

Some friend. You're wasting your time on this why?

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: NeonAura
Oh yes I have someone like this in my life, however, they're not a friend
Let's just say this girl and her friends think they're so much smarter and so much better than I am, while they can't compete with half of me.

Yea, he may make more money than me but he doesnt have half the brain he thinks he has. He's 25 and STILL doesnt have an undergraduate degree. Hmmmm, go figure. It really bothers me to know he still holds a grudge, even though he doesnt come out to say it. It bother me even more knowing I liked the kid and growing up I didnt care too much about who was smarter, etc...

It hurts very much to hear him talk down about me and my gf, but these type of ppl will never end up on top.

 

[no0b]

Originally posted by: sixone
Some friend. You're wasting your time on this why?

QFT

 

[gar3555]

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: NeonAura
Oh yes I have someone like this in my life, however, they're not a friend
Let's just say this girl and her friends think they're so much smarter and so much better than I am, while they can't compete with half of me.

Yea, he may make more money than me but he doesnt have half the brain he thinks he has. He's 25 and STILL doesnt have an undergraduate degree. Hmmmm, go figure. It really bothers me to know he still holds a grudge, even though he doesnt come out to say it. It bother me even more knowing I liked the kid and growing up I didnt care too much about who was smarter, etc...

It hurts very much to hear him talk down about me and my gf, but these type of ppl will never end up on top.

The fact that you let someone like that get to you means he wins...
just forget about him

 

[Xonoahbin]

Great way to think. Same damned way I think.

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: gar3555
The fact that you let someone like that get to you means he wins...
just forget about him

Oh i have, until he freaking calls. The worst part is our conversation would be nice and smooth at first and then he'll find a way to rub things in.

 

[Bryophyte]

Refuse to talk about money to him. Request your parents keep their mouths shut too.

 

[Epic Fail]

I think you have to pay off the mortgage first before claiming it as your asset.

 

[gar3555]

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: gar3555
The fact that you let someone like that get to you means he wins...
just forget about him

Oh i have, until he freaking calls. The worst part is our conversation would be nice and smooth at first and then he'll find a way to rub things in.

so don't answer the phone when he calls...its not hard...don't pick up the receiver

 

[walla]

i don't know. i would never ask my friends about how much they make. or IQ. or anything like that. it seems like that would only lead to envy, contempt, and the like.

 

[Vich]

Does he have a silly 2 year nursing degree? Hopefully the state legislature will make it mandatory that to become an RN u need to have your BSN ( Bachelors of Schience in Nursing (4 years in college)).

-Rich

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: yamadakun
I think you have to pay off the mortgage first before claiming it as your asset.

Taking into consideration what they are worth AFTER i fix them up.
No mortgage, own outright.

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: Vich
Does he have a silly 2 year nursing degree? Hopefully the state legislature will make it mandatory that to become an RN u need to have your BSN ( Bachelors of Schience in Nursing (4 years in college)).

-Rich

more than likely yes, now he's talking about becoming a doctor because his dad wants him to. I know him too well, he's not going to make it. I'm not putting him down, but he isnt cut out for graduate school let alone college.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: lilcam
Growing up my friend and I would have a friendly competition school wise. I never took it seriously but our parents would always tried to compare us to one another. I was the smarter one and he was the slower more simple minded individual. We're now 25 and he has since moved to Cali with his mom. He is now a nurse making like $3500/month AFTER taxes. I on the other hand makes $2000/month after taxes and upon hearing this he would rub it in. I try to explain to the moron that the cost of living in Cali is higher than that of Philly. besides he's some sort of a nurse and yes his field does pay more money. so what, i enjoy what i do.

anyways, i saw him a month ago and it seems ever since then he has taken things personally. His dad doesnt like me very much, only because he knows i'm smarter than his son and he doesnt want his son to "lose" to me. For me, it's complete nonsense and I could careless. However, it's irritating since he would call and talk about his job and now all of a sudden says his gf makes more money than me and that i cant compete with her business. I guess my real estate business isn't good enough for him and knowing that I'm worth approx $425k in real estate hurts him. It's not liquid but it is what it is.

Sorry to vent, but these are the type of friends I dont need in my life.

that is not a friend. move on.

 

[ScottyB]

Notice all the attacks on his friend's intelligence. Hmm...

 

[tweakmm]

Is the cost of living in Phily lower than that of Cali overall?
Where in Cali does he live?
I mean, Cali is a big state and Phily is a big city.

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: ScottyB
Notice all the attacks on his friend's intelligence. Hmm...

Well, someone has to let him know who he really is. It's because of me that kept him going as a kid. Everyone picked on him and it was me that told him he was a smart kid and to keep his head up. It seems as he got older, he wanted revenge on the world. I knew he wasnt as bright as he thought he was, but I never told him that. Now all of a sudden he's trying to use his incompetence to hurt me.

Everyone is right, I'm moving on.

 

[BrokenVisage]

Higher than here in Philly? Wow, good luck living out there.

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: BrokenVisage
Higher than here in Philly? Wow, good luck living out there.

Aren't apartments super high over there? $1200 for a 2 bedroom apartment?

 

[tami]

seriously, just stop telling him stuff. keep that information to yourself.

i had a friend whose parents aimed at "making" their children the smartest children in the class. that meant that their kids' free time would be spent doing nothing but studying. of their 5 children, there was one my age, and we were close friends (we lived across from each other as kids until i moved 5 blocks away). we were both smart, and we were placed in the gifted program at school, but by no means did our parents really compare us even though our school and community was relatively small.

at school, i was more prone to ask her how she scored on a test, how she performed on her SATs, and the like, but she simply wouldn't tell me. in a way, i guess that was the smarter move given that there was no grounds of comparison on which to base each of us. (if she didn't tell me something, i simply didn't tell share with her either.) she went to summer school each summer (to accelerate, not for refresher courses) and ended up switching schools in order to skip a grade. in the end, she came out "first" (as in graduated first), but i don't have any grounds on which to compare her to me intelligence-wise (who really cares anyway?) she does very well now, as do i. we are happy with our lives. our parents are good friends, and we both respect each others parents very much.

the point of my story? saying less means more. your friendship would have flourished if you both didn't compete with each other (it obviously was more than playful competition). at this point, if you two care to maintain a friendship (which looks bleak at the present), keep in touch but don't share salary histories or anything else. it's pretty immature when you tell your friends how much you're making at age 25.

the next thing you should do is just to brag about something that is false to get him to stfu (i got a side job selling crap on ebay and i'm getting $6000 a month!) -- and then start over again like real adults.

 

[DVad3r]

Yes your friend sounds pretty materialistic and narrow-minded. I can't stand to be around people who talk of jobs and money all the time, that's not what life is about anyway.

 

[hjo3]

Originally posted by: lilcam
Growing up my friend and I would have a friendly competition school wise. I never took it seriously but our parents would always tried to compare us to one another. I was the smarter one and he was the slower more simple minded individual. We're now 25 and he has since moved to Cali with his mom. He is now a nurse making like $3500/month AFTER taxes. I on the other hand makes $2000/month after taxes and upon hearing this he would rub it in. I try to explain to the moron that the cost of living in Cali is higher than that of Philly. besides he's some sort of a nurse and yes his field does pay more money. so what, i enjoy what i do.

anyways, i saw him a month ago and it seems ever since then he has taken things personally. His dad doesnt like me very much, only because he knows i'm smarter than his son and he doesnt want his son to "lose" to me. For me, it's complete nonsense and I could careless. However, it's irritating since he would call and talk about his job and now all of a sudden says his gf makes more money than me and that i cant compete with her business. I guess my real estate business isn't good enough for him and knowing that I'm worth approx $425k in real estate hurts him. It's not liquid but it is what it is.

Sorry to vent, but these are the type of friends I dont need in my life.

You're both shallow and tacky.