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BD2003

Lifer
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Originally posted by: gigapet
the way i see it.......even if I disappeared for 10 years.....came back in my mid 30s......would I be that far behind??? I don't think I would. I could get a decent paying job and be re established in a couple of years.

By all means, go for it. I'm not trying to persuade you from not doing it, only trying to point out that living on a beach teaching english is not the panacea you are imagining it to be, because from the sounds of it, anything is better than your current demoralizing office job.
 

pontifex

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Originally posted by: gigapet
quitting your nice desk job, selling your house, car and your belongings and just moving to some foreign land to teach english or something... where the weather is warm, the people are warm, the lifestyle is laid back and people actually work to live and not live to work.......


Even though by most peoples standards they would say I have accomplished a great deal and am doing very well for myself......I can't help but wake up every morning miserable feeling like i'm wasting my life away......


am i alone here?


i agree somewhat. it owuld be nice to get away where the weather is nice and just not have to worry about working. just be able to do something you enjoy every day or just go out and be able to spend time doing things you enjoy or doing new things.

sitting in an office all day dealing with all the crap that entails is just awful.
 

puffff

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Originally posted by: gigapet
the way i see it.......even if I disappeared for 10 years.....came back in my mid 30s......would I be that far behind??? I don't think I would. I could get a decent paying job and be re established in a couple of years.

10 years.. you might gone too long to easily get re established. but no one will notice you've been gone a year or two. i slipped back into society after a year with no problems whatsoever.

i highly encourage you to do it.. with the intention of coming back after a year. if, after a year, you find you're cut out for that lifestyle, simply dont come back.
 

6StringSamurai

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My idea of throwing it all away is an 5 million dollar home on a remote island, fed with a fiber connection, a swiss bank account and supermodel with a couple of swedish maids....oh wait....thats upgrading my life, not throwing it all away....sits back down...
 

Proletariat

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Originally posted by: gigapet
quitting your nice desk job, selling your house, car and your belongings and just moving to some foreign land to teach english or something... where the weather is warm, the people are warm, the lifestyle is laid back and people actually work to live and not live to work.......


Even though by most peoples standards they would say I have accomplished a great deal and am doing very well for myself......I can't help but wake up every morning miserable feeling like i'm wasting my life away......


am i alone here?

I think about it all the time...

Climbing the mountains in the Himalayas and come back fvck up all the idiots...

You can always dream.
 

pontifex

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Originally posted by: LolaWiz
we (husband and i) often talk about leaving and i hope we really do someday (maybe in 5 years, maybe more, maybe less)
but where we want to go, housing prices are crazy and jobs hard to come by, yet we still have that dream or hope.

I say, life is short, why not make the best of it. Do what you want (if you can) and see what becomes of it.

If you can accept what *could* happen in a worst case senario, then you are ready to do it.
Life is full of experiences, not bad or good... just experiences. It's what you make of it.

thatst he problem. you need money for everything and if you don't have it, you're screwed.
 

Eltano1

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After getting the bad news that I did not get the job that I applied for, that feeling is growing bigger and bigger inside me. I tried to convince my wife to sell everything here and leave, but she really makes good money at her job, and is hard for her to made a decision like that, with not garanties that she will make the same in another place.
No matter what I do, study, present myself, trying to keep up with technology, never is enough for the hiring people, they always want more for less.

I have two boys (26 and 23) they have jobs (thanks to God) and are healthy as well as my wife and myself.

I wants to move and live a happy life, with not stress and not to worry about the future, I will take care of that.

Sorry, but I needed to rant a little bit

Eltano
 

manlymatt83

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Originally posted by: gigapet
quitting your nice desk job, selling your house, car and your belongings and just moving to some foreign land to teach english or something... where the weather is warm, the people are warm, the lifestyle is laid back and people actually work to live and not live to work.......


Even though by most peoples standards they would say I have accomplished a great deal and am doing very well for myself......I can't help but wake up every morning miserable feeling like i'm wasting my life away......


am i alone here?


I'll go with you.
 

Proletariat

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Originally posted by: BD2003
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: thelanx
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: BD2003
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: BD2003
The grass is always greener on the other side. Think about how ironic what youre saying sounds - you want to go somewhere else, so you can teach english, so people can hopefully live the kind of life you abandoned because you take it for granted.

You dont have to live across the world to live like that. You can do that right here.


I don't agree

What dont you agree with? Youre fantasizing about a place that does not exist.


there are plenty of opportunities to teach english in other countries with tropical climates and local beaches.

and I also don't agree that I take it for granted....I have alot of stuff whoopty doo....I'd probably be more happy living in a 600 sq foot shack by the beach with a bicycle.

Sure the novelty is great, it is so different from your current state, but don't you think with a shack and a bike you'd get bored after a while and wish for internet and other modern amenities? Not to mention you might not like teaching english after a while.

no I could easily live without all this bullsh1t. movies, video games, forums.....blah blah
and the english job wouldjust be something to start off.....If i got board maybe i could run tours for american tourists....possibilities are endless because I would have nothing keeping me tied down anywhere. Pick up and go whenever I wanted

But youre failing to see the obvious irony which should raise immediate red flags. The students there are not learning english for the hell of it - theyre learning english to go to american universities, to take "american style" jobs.

If theyre already living in the promised land, why are they so eager to leave?

Everything you are thinking of still comes back to america in one way or another.

The fact of the matter is, you can already live without all this BS. There are plenty of places in america, canada, etc that fit exactly the mold you describe. You don't have to have a stressful job, there are millions of them to choose from, right here. There are plenty of beaches, plenty of laid back people on those beaches etc...

Believe me, I know where youre coming from. I've been there, done that. Ive made changes in my life due to those exact thoughts. I've decided that working in an office wasnt the greatest thing - I tried other things, and working in an office is degrading in a very strange way, but there are much worse things.

Running away isnt the solution. Making the best of what you have, and changing your perspective likewise, is the solution.

No matter what you do, or no matter where you go, you WILL get used to it. That is part of our human psychology that is ingrained in us...it keeps us from staying in one place too long. I love the beach too. People who live on the beach, want to see the city. People who live in the city, want to see the beach. You aren't the exception to the rule - you have a human brain like the rest of us, that works in the same way.

It sounds to me like you need a career change, stat.

No sometimes you just get sick of all the racists, nerds idiots from the midwest etc. etc.

Sometimes you just want to get away. I think about it all the time. Living a pure life in some monastery, learning what lifes really about.
 

Barrak

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We act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements of life, when all that we need to make us really happy is something to be enthusiastic about.?

-Charles Kingsley
 

purbeast0

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I have thought about this, specifically after I came back from Aruba. I checked what it would take to get a job in Aruba, but in all honesty, getting a job over there is near impossible for a foreigner. I'm not saying I would work there forever, but to work there for like even 2-3 years would be awesome.

After seeing the movie Into The Blue, I got this feeling again that I would love to live in a place like that, doing small jobs and living much more relaxed.

 

Proletariat

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Originally posted by: purbeast0
I have thought about this, specifically after I came back from Aruba. I checked what it would take to get a job in Aruba, but in all honesty, getting a job over there is near impossible for a foreigner. I'm not saying I would work there forever, but to work there for like even 2-3 years would be awesome.

After seeing the movie Into The Blue, I got this feeling again that I would love to live in a place like that, doing small jobs and living much more relaxed.

It was because of Jessica Alba wasn't it?
 

purbeast0

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Originally posted by: Proletariat
Originally posted by: purbeast0
I have thought about this, specifically after I came back from Aruba. I checked what it would take to get a job in Aruba, but in all honesty, getting a job over there is near impossible for a foreigner. I'm not saying I would work there forever, but to work there for like even 2-3 years would be awesome.

After seeing the movie Into The Blue, I got this feeling again that I would love to live in a place like that, doing small jobs and living much more relaxed.

It was because of Jessica Alba wasn't it?

Not one bit.
 

Proletariat

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Originally posted by: purbeast0
Originally posted by: Proletariat
Originally posted by: purbeast0
I have thought about this, specifically after I came back from Aruba. I checked what it would take to get a job in Aruba, but in all honesty, getting a job over there is near impossible for a foreigner. I'm not saying I would work there forever, but to work there for like even 2-3 years would be awesome.

After seeing the movie Into The Blue, I got this feeling again that I would love to live in a place like that, doing small jobs and living much more relaxed.

It was because of Jessica Alba wasn't it?

Not one bit.

Just playing man :)
 

manlymatt83

Lifer
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I have to say that I was just thinking about this last night. I live in South Jersey right now, and I LOVE the beach down here and LOVE the laid back life style. There is no traffic, not a lot of busyness, etc. But I stress, because the highest salary down here is $50,000 if that in my field, where in North Jersey (where life is a lot more "busy"), I can make some more money to pay off bills, debt, etc.

I have high blood pressure, and I know its partially due to stress... yet i think most of it is stress of school. I am going to miss South Jersey --- the beach, laid back life style, etc... but the hard part is, I haven't met a lot of friends down here, at least not a lot of CLOSE friends. By moving to North Jersey, yeah I'll have the busy life, but I'll still enjoy my daily runs, and my weekend trips to the beach in the middle of the night where I can just relax and have time to myself. I think a mix of both is good.

Although I did live in Belize for a month, and I LOVED it down there (and by belize I mean the central, 3rd world portino of the country). They are so laid back, no Internet, hardly any working phones, just nature, and the jungle. I absolutely adored it. Hopefully one day I'll be rich so I can go down there for months at a time and volunteer. But in the end, with my health problems, and debt, and all, I think I'm at least partially tied to this current society.

 

CalvinHobbs

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Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: BD2003
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: BD2003
The grass is always greener on the other side. Think about how ironic what youre saying sounds - you want to go somewhere else, so you can teach english, so people can hopefully live the kind of life you abandoned because you take it for granted.

You dont have to live across the world to live like that. You can do that right here.


I don't agree

What dont you agree with? Youre fantasizing about a place that does not exist.


there are plenty of opportunities to teach english in other countries with tropical climates and local beaches.

and I also don't agree that I take it for granted....I have alot of stuff whoopty doo....I'd probably be more happy living in a 600 sq foot shack by the beach with a bicycle.

and I also don't agree that they would be wanting to live an american lifestyle.


such places exist and i've been to one of them, where people are laid back, where a wonman can walk at night fearless, where everybody tells you good morning even though you're a stranger, where people eat foods made from they grow, i.e mostly vegetables,fruits,fishes,meat from animals they rear...etc...such places exist my friend, you'll believe only if you've been to one of them, before visiting Rodrigues(the island i'm talking of) i did not believe that a place where the atmosphere is relaxed and laid back etc exists...well i was wrong
 

purbeast0

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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
I have to say that I was just thinking about this last night. I live in South Jersey right now, and I LOVE the beach down here and LOVE the laid back life style. There is no traffic, not a lot of busyness, etc. But I stress, because the highest salary down here is $50,000 if that in my field, where in North Jersey (where life is a lot more "busy"), I can make some more money to pay off bills, debt, etc.

I have high blood pressure, and I know its partially due to stress... yet i think most of it is stress of school. I am going to miss South Jersey --- the beach, laid back life style, etc... but the hard part is, I haven't met a lot of friends down here, at least not a lot of CLOSE friends. By moving to North Jersey, yeah I'll have the busy life, but I'll still enjoy my daily runs, and my weekend trips to the beach in the middle of the night where I can just relax and have time to myself. I think a mix of both is good.

Although I did live in Belize for a month, and I LOVED it down there (and by belize I mean the central, 3rd world portino of the country). They are so laid back, no Internet, hardly any working phones, just nature, and the jungle. I absolutely adored it. Hopefully one day I'll be rich so I can go down there for months at a time and volunteer. But in the end, with my health problems, and debt, and all, I think I'm at least partially tied to this current society.

Belize is hopefully my next vacation spot in September. The place looks beauiful and not very "touristy" yet, but just enough to look like a wonderful place.
 

KMFJD

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I'm attempting to do something like that as well, been saving up for almost 2 years now, planning on leaving around the end of september, just sick of the commercialism, me first attitude of our society in general. Anyone know of any good(cheap) travel agents to get me 1/2 way across the world?
 

gigapet

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I've gotta make a decision soon......I'm giving my self an ultimatum....i will not be living in the northeastern US by the end of 2007. If i havent gone already by that time I'm dropping everything, selling my crap and peacing out.

Mark my words ATOT.
 

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Lifer
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Originally posted by: KMFJD
I'm attempting to do something like that as well, been saving up for almost 2 years now, planning on leaving around the end of september, just sick of the commercialism, me first attitude of our society in general. Anyone know of any good(cheap) travel agents to get me 1/2 way across the world?

Good for you!

See, this is the solution everyone needs. You get away from 'commercialism' and those who like it don't have to suffer other complaining about it.

If only more people thought this way....
 

KarmaPolice

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Originally posted by: gigapet
I've gotta make a decision soon......I'm giving my self an ultimatum....i will not be living in the northeastern US by the end of 2007. If i havent gone already by that time I'm dropping everything, selling my crap and peacing out.

Mark my words ATOT.

I just laughed at your choice of words...peacing out lol.

Anyway. I am young..and I dont know what I want to do when I graduate. At the moment I am a accounting / Finance major. I dont know if I will like working in an office..and doing some of the jobs that it entails. My uncle seems to have a really good job and enjoys it in finance, but I dont know if I will ever be that succesful.

I am studying abroad in Japan next semester...I might end up being there for a year if I like it. I lived there as a little kid and decided I wanted to go back and see it as an adult. I often wonder like everyone else what it would be like to just go, have fun, and see the world. My question is..how can people do this? Where does the money come from...you cant just get a job in random countries...you need money to airplane tickets...you need a lot of things...
 

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Originally posted by: gigapet
quitting your nice desk job, selling your house, car and your belongings and just moving to some foreign land to teach english or something... where the weather is warm, the people are warm, the lifestyle is laid back and people actually work to live and not live to work.......

Even though by most peoples standards they would say I have accomplished a great deal and am doing very well for myself......I can't help but wake up every morning miserable feeling like i'm wasting my life away......

am i alone here?

There is no Utopia. Your idealistic view of "some foreign land" doesn't exist.

Many, if not all, quaint civilizations have either been commercialized for tourism (see Santorini, Greece and just about all of the Carribean) or are so far behind the times (see most of central Africa) that living there would simply cause more problems.

Life isn't like some movie where you can get away to some wonderful place and escape all of your problems. To experience peace is something internal. Obtaining wealth, and allowing yourself to be free of all of the burdens a lack of money causes, is one of the easiest ways to obtain peace - which is why so many people take that path.

My impression of you is that you are a well-off (financially) individual, and have always been well-off. I could be wrong, but you fit the mold fairly well.

As they say, money is the most important thing in the world unless you have it.

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