Anyone else single after a failed engagement?

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Just thought I would check! If anyone wants the gory details, I might feel like ranting.

But I am single for the first time in three years, who's going out with me :cool:!!
 

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I am sorry to hear that man. Actually I think everyone is single after a failed engagement.
I am working on single after a failed marriage myself so maybe it is better to happen before a marriage if it is going to happen at all. I am not saying it is good for you but divorce is a mess.
 

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Skoorb, somehow I saw that coming...I think it is rant week.

iam4u2nv, valid point! Definitely better now than later, I am glad I saw that before it was too late

Oh, where to start...

Should I start with the THOUSANDS of dollars I lent her to bail her out of HER troubles? Oh, that I will PROBABLY (read never) ever see again... Or I guess I could start with the WAAAYYYY too expensive engagement ring. Which I am still trying to sell for a HUGE loss, if anyone is interested PM me please. Then there was always her inability to communicate, and the way that when things got tough for me, which they rarely did, SHE still needed to be the one that was worse off...

Oh the memories... Now it is time to start the dating game ALL over again, which I have. And let me be the FIRST to say... I don't miss the emotional chess match that is dating in this day and age. Even though I am only 25 :)

If someone BOUGHT the ring, that would MAKE my holidays...

Sorry for the short rant, I should have done it when it was fresher... Oddly enough, I am over it in 3 weeks...
 

mpitts

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RANT! COME ON!! :D

I went through a failed engagement years ago. Looking at my life now and my beautiful wife, I am glad I didn't marry that witch! :D
 
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Originally posted by: Skoorb
rant!!

There you go. Let it out.

The ring should sell if you put it on a certain auction site ... after all, one of the top times of year to propose is Christmas. :D

- M4H
 

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It's a beautiful thing having energy again! I am so much more active since becoming single! Going to the gym, eating better!
 

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Lets look at it in a brighter way, we'll both be single for the holidays this year. Way thats not so bright, but you know everytime around this time of year; I kinda get fruity. I dunno I feel like cooking, I go to aunts and uncle's homes (my parents can't stand to have me around) and hook up with the family. That's what you need pal, and WTH you spend so much money of her for man?? If a girl I've been dating started collecting money from me (for any reason), I just prepare myself for the worst and take back a few steps. This isn't going the way I planned. Hey this is an equal society right? Get your own friggin' money.

But thankfully I'm 20 and never been in a relationship more than a year at a time. Maybe I'm not so much of a long term guy (yet) but maybe it was right to let her go. Don't be pathetic little Deeko moping and whining so much. Time to buy some new shoes, maybe a hat and comfortable pair of slackers and go clubbin'. I end all my relationships (or at least try to on a positive note) so in the future I can still love the girls I've loved. Maybe you can do the same? No? Ohh well, let it go man. Be thankful for a job, health and pornography then man. :p;)

 

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Right on KGB...

ESP, about deeko. I replied to his thread. There is NO female that is worth that mess.
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As for the fam, they are about 10 hours north; luckily, i have some great friends around here so that is where I will be for the day of the Turkey. Should be good times!

as for why I spent mad cash, I hate seeing people (esp. those I care for) in trouble. Long story short, her parents suck; she was trying to get through college; she worked her butt off and still came up short. And I gave all I could and then some to keep her in school and what not. Lesson learned? Date girls with GOOD JOBS... or rich parents :D

Ah well, I am in great spirits; less to worry about now... just my problems :D
 

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Geeze it sounds to me like it was a great thing breaking up with her. You can get on with your life and it's almost certainly good that you didn't marry her :)

Goodluck with the ring!
 

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thanks! yeah, all in all DEFINITELY for the best...

Selling that ring is key to my economic future!

:)
 

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Well, if it makes you feel any better at least you got your ring back. I posted a thread a couple of weeks ago about a friend of mine, he still haven't got his ring back yet. And his fiancee was the one who broke the engagement. I am still trying to convince him to let me confront that biatch to get his ring back. But in the grand scheme of things, I think you are better off without her. I don't know what kind of "trouble" you had to bail her out of, but it can't be good.. so good for you for moving on without her. She smells like trouble from a mile away.
 

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Hey, don't feel so bad rookie, I have gone through 3 fail engagements and 1 failed marriage so far. I am thinking that I attract the wrong kind of guys. I am just too nice to tell them to hit the road. There were always signs of them being not that great of people for me to be with, but of course I ignored them and did what I wanted to anyways. At least you got the ring back, come to think of it, I have gone through three of the engagements without even a ring at all. Don't lose hope though, you will find someone worthy of what you have to give... and I am not talking about the ring either.
 

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Originally posted by: ontoyouAgain
Hey, don't feel so bad rookie, I have gone through 3 fail engagements and 1 failed marriage so far. I am thinking that I attract the wrong kind of guys. I am just too nice to tell them to hit the road. There were always signs of them being not that great of people for me to be with, but of course I ignored them and did what I wanted to anyways. At least you got the ring back, come to think of it, I have gone through three of the engagements without even a ring at all. Don't lose hope though, you will find someone worthy of what you have to give... and I am not talking about the ring either.
aren't you only like 22 or am i confusing you with someone else?

 

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well.. my girlfriend who i thougt was the one, that i did want to get engaged to.. broke up with me.. yeah yeah not that serious..

but i'm torn.. i hate the fact that im going to be miserable for a set amount of time.. and i hate that i have to 'fall into' another relationship.. i got sorta lucky with her.. before that it was 2 years of no girl/no real fun/life.. then i dated a chick for a month (old HS Friend) who didnt work out then her.. (which i met throguh an old HS friend)..

problem is that sums my list up of people i knew from HS that i can hook up with, so what to do now? i don't know where to begin, but i do know i had a taste of real happiness and i want it back!

to make things worse i work with my ex =\ so its either be friends with her or hate her, and i cant hate her though i want to sometimes..
 

"Just thought I would check! If anyone wants the gory details, I might feel like ranting.

But I am single for the first time in three years, who's going out with me !!"


Rant it, hon'. I promise I won't deconstruct it or rip you apart. ;) :D

Thankfully, I've never been proposed to in the true sense. I mean, I've been asked to be one's wife, but it was obviously nothing serious. Any mention of it scares me, so any man who really cares for me knows not to do that anytime soon. :D

However, for my potential hubby, listen: You're gonna stare straight into those beautiful eyes and see all of what you ever hoped for. You're gonna appreciate her and treat her right, so she'll never have to run away and hide from you and from ever marrying you. :p

[Eakers:] "aren't you only like 22 or am i confusing you with someone else?"

Eakers, you aren't mistaken. She's the one who provided us a link to her pic. And she had age 22 there and marital status as divorced. I am guessing she got married at an early age.
 

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Originally posted by: luvly
"Just thought I would check! If anyone wants the gory details, I might feel like ranting.

But I am single for the first time in three years, who's going out with me !!"


Rant it, hon'. I promise I won't deconstruct it or rip you apart. ;) :D

Thankfully, I've never been proposed to in the true sense. I mean, I've been asked to be one's wife, but it was obviously nothing serious. Any mention of it scares me, so any man who really cares for me knows not to do that anytime soon. :D

However, for my potential hubby, listen: You're gonna stare straight into those beautiful eyes and see all of what you ever hoped for. You're gonna appreciate her and treat her right, so she'll never have to run away and hide from you and from ever marrying you. :p
[Eakers:] "aren't you only like 22 or am i confusing you with someone else?"

Eakers, you aren't mistaken. She's the one who provided us a link to her pic. And she had age 22 there and marital status as divorced. I am guessing she got married at an early age.

You are right eakers, I am only 22. I was engaged when I was in highschool. Then that was split when he decided that he couldn't wait for me to graduate and him to get out of the military. A year later I got pregnant, and tried doing the right thing and get married. Oh was I so wrong by doing that. 2 kids later I got a divorce. I was 17 when I got married. 7 months after my divorce was final, I was engaged again. 2 weeks before the wedding, he decided that I wasn't really the one, and that he was too old for me. Then I got involved with a guy a month after that ended, ended up moving in with him, and that didn't last, which ended just a few months ago. Now I am 22 with 3 engagements and 1 divorce under my belt. Like I said, I attract the wrong men, and don't see it until it is too late. I guess they are ok in thier own little ways, but they just didn't click for me. Especially now after losing my leg, I am more self dependant than anyone I know, and stubborn about it too.


 

"Especially now after losing my leg, I am more self dependant than anyone I know, and stubborn about it too."

Huh? Is this to be taken literally? What happened? I haven't read any details by you anywhere implying the above. :confused: