Anyone else just having a bad year?

[Buttzilla]

was bad, very bad, everything i cared about was taken away or left. Got fired, dump, best friends turned their back on me, broke, family shitted on me for everything that went wrong.

I got lucky though, met a great person that became my career advisor. kept me busy assigning me tasks to motivate me. told me to take a job, any job that comes my way.

so i started off doing manufacturing for an old company i used to work for, that was at the end of last year. fast forward to now, i've gotten 3 promotions, flown 100 flights around the US, visited almost every pro football/baseball team. hung out with tom brady for 2 days at his house, met steven tyler, michael vic, and shit ton other athletes i dont' know (wasn't a sports fan until recently )

got health insurance, a savings, pay is okay, can't complain since i had nothing a year ago.

oh, 1 million southwest points saved! so, life is good right now. couldn't ask for more.

 

[SaDiZTiKStyLeZ]

Yep.
When I thought I had put last year behind me, far as jail goes, they finally decided to put me in the system, after having been lost in the system for about 6 months.
Of course they didn't give any fucks about the bad time I was going through, nor the mess I went through being forgotten in jail for 3 weeks & lost in the system for 6 months before they decided to put me through the court.

Dealt with a shitty job until end of July. Fucked with my depression & anxiety on a semi-regular basis.
When was laid off, found out since fucker didn't report wages, that I couldn't collect unemployment.
Contemplating on trying to get disability, because it's not too easy finding a job that doesn't have customer service involved. Anxiety & shit head customers aren't too cool.
Had back-to-back interviews for a month after being laid off, but nothing panned out & has been dead since.

After the court giving me the run-around for several months, they finally decided to sentence me, after I had been laid off.
The fines total more than I currently have in savings. I was saving to make some investments to make more money too...

Was playing designated driver for a bit to earn a few bucks. After gas/food/cover was paid for, I was making up to $50 a night.
Last time I did that, was on last stretch home, after dropping off everyone. Turned from road that was 45mph to a 20mph. Was on auto-pilot not paying attention to my speed & didn't recall seeing any signs & my GPS didn't update immediately soon as I turned on that road. Didn't realize I was speeding until it was too late & got a ticket.
No good deed goes unpunished, huh?
I'm wondering if it's possible to plead not guilty, since it wasn't intentional?

When being sentenced, they informed me that I had a 3-month suspension, starting at time of my arrest, & left it at that. So that suspension would have been long over with.
A few days after getting that speeding ticket, courts finally decided to file my shit with the state & got notice of suspension, and it's a 1 year suspension. However, I'm going to file to get those 3 months credited towards the 12 months & bring it down to 9.
Soon as I can afford getting SR22 insurance on car, I'm going to apply for a restricted drivers permit, so I can at least get back on the road looking for work.

I applied for Medicaid & they denied me because I don't have children or clinically diagnosed disabilities. Despite having been diagnosed with high blood pressure & having all the signs of an impending heart attack.

I've looked into trying to get work everywhere in walking distance, but it's been dead. Not surprising.

I did get a letter in the mail about the jail getting hit with $7.2mil bill over inmates being imprisoned past the amount of time that they should have been released.
Everybody who came through was telling me that I could file suit for not being released in set amount of time that I didn't see a judge or go to court.
So I file claim & can collect. I hope it's a decent cut. At least 1K would help a lot far as getting back on track goes.
I'm sure if I had a good lawyer, or someone who wanted to work pro bono & get their cut, I could have possibly made a whole lot more than what I'll be getting.

Lately I've just been focusing on my YT endeavors like it's a job itself. I suck at everything else I do. At least I can make some money off that. Just needs to grow bigger & better.

Really hope things are beginning to improve, or will happen real soon. It's gotten real tough. I've been trying to sell stuff, but not quite sure how I'll make it through the next few months without having to close my bank account, again.
Just trying to get things back & track is all. Some stability for once in my miserable existence would be nice right about now.

 

[OverVolt]

was bad, very bad, everything i cared about was taken away or left. Got fired, dump, best friends turned their back on me, broke, family shitted on me for everything that went wrong.

I got lucky though, met a great person that became my career advisor. kept me busy assigning me tasks to motivate me. told me to take a job, any job that comes my way.

so i started off doing manufacturing for an old company i used to work for, that was at the end of last year. fast forward to now, i've gotten 3 promotions, flown 100 flights around the US, visited almost every pro football/baseball team. hung out with tom brady for 2 days at his house, met steven tyler, michael vic, and shit ton other athletes i dont' know (wasn't a sports fan until recently )

got health insurance, a savings, pay is okay, can't complain since i had nothing a year ago.

oh, 1 million southwest points saved! so, life is good right now. couldn't ask for more.

This is precisely what I'm doing

was bad, very bad, everything i cared about was taken away or left. Got fired, dump, best friends turned their back on me, broke, family shitted on me for everything that went wrong.

Yea this was due to my family changing socioeconomic status, I went to fancy private schools and no one could relate "what you mean college ISN'T free I jus... I just don't understand! Why do you work on the weekends lets party bro!!!" I still like my old friends but there was just nothing in common anymore once our problems were of a totally different nature. There was nothing I or they could do to prevent everyone from drifting apart.

 

[Wreckem]

Take a look at the tuition inflation rates. Gen X was the last generation through college without enormous debt. Its actually not possible, its really not! Go do the math on how much debt servicing one pays compared to their after-tax income for various careers. Gen Y is going to have alot of broken expectations. Gen Y is 19-29... ish.

Most who went to grad school are in Debt hell, those who got a good bachelors in anything STEM turned out alright, especially with a little mommy and daddy help for emergencies like broken down car or getting sick, that type of thing. Anyone liberal arts got screwed. I'm generalizing alot, but its actually the majority facing that type of situation now and people try to ignore it.

Do me a favor and google CA's state college tuition hikes this year in %.

Gen Y/Millennials are those born 1981/1982(still being debated) to 2004.

 

[TridenT]

Yep.
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Sounds a bit rough, but also sounds a lot like your own fault. Get 30 job interviews but don't fucking get a job from any of them? What the fuck?

 

[hans007]

Gen Y/Millennials are those born 1981/1982(still being debated) to 2004.

Most people say its 1981 to 2000 or so. I am gen y by like 2 weeks by that metric

 

[SaDiZTiKStyLeZ]

Sounds a bit rough, but also sounds a lot like your own fault. Get 30 job interviews but don't fucking get a job from any of them? What the fuck?

Yep. I can admit I fucked up. But also it wasn't a situation I wanted to be in from the start.
If I would have been able to hold down a steady job, at something I didn't suck at, enough to live on my own, I would have been alright.

Last year - found out my ex of 8 years got married.
Working a temp job staying busy only thing that kept me together for a few weeks after finding that out, but then that ended & they hired the other guy instead of me. Back to being unemployed.
Ended up in psych ward.
Kicked out the house. Shipped off to IN.
Knew it was a bad idea before going there. I already had my own problems without my dads' wife giving me shit. After a week of her constant bullshit, packed up my shit, got in the car & into panic mode trying to call everyone seeing if I could crash on someones' couch. At that time, I had enough funds to float on for a few months & help out too. But nobody wanted to help out... Then got caught up.
After getting out of jail, came back to town & lived out of my car for a couple months. I should have went straight from psych ward to homeless. At least I wouldn't have a record right now. It was already hard enough getting a job with a clean record & degree.

Then yea, that month of job interviews. Some of them were looking for experience I didn't have. Round trip drives for 2 hours for all of 15min interviews was bullshit. Staying positive - it was interview experience.

Right now, I just want to move on & put it all behind me. I have much more important shit to focus on.

 

[SSSnail]

How about this for perspective:

A bunch of people died
Millions don't have powers, shivering in the cold
Thousands lost their homes, all their personal belongings

That's just over the weekend. Need some more perspective? I can take you to other countries...

 

[Vic Vega]

I've had a good year. Wife and I doubled our annual income, bought an enormous home, lost a bunch of weight. If next year is this good I'll be ecstatic.

 

[SaDiZTiKStyLeZ]

How about this for perspective:

A bunch of people died

I would have traded places with any of them. Would be better than how things are now. I'm sure any one of them were of more value to society than I am.

 

[Buttzilla]

This is precisely what I'm doing



Yea this was due to my family changing socioeconomic status, I went to fancy private schools and no one could relate "what you mean college ISN'T free I jus... I just don't understand! Why do you work on the weekends lets party bro!!!" I still like my old friends but there was just nothing in common anymore once our problems were of a totally different nature. There was nothing I or they could do to prevent everyone from drifting apart.

it's all perspective, my advisors wife recently passed away (from cancer), his son is a delinquent (ended up shipping him to bootcamp), his daughter...well, yeah.

what he told me was, life has a weird way of handing you shit, i'm lucky in that:
- i'm young and good looking
- i'm persistant and educated (got my MS in biology)
- i have a blank canvas to rework my life

i just need to stay focus, keep myself busy, achieve small victories to boost my confidence (hence completing my daily goals/tasks)

don't blame other people, don't blame your friends/family for turning on you, responsibilities changes as you get old and it changes you.

found out my advisor is the director of IT at oracle. he's chinese and was born in brazil, came to the US and started working as a casio watch repairman, took classes on networking and IT management, got into oracle 20 years ago and the rest is history.

 

[Baked]

Yes, I just went on a LEGO buying binge and bought 4 large LEGO Technic sets. I'm up to 16 sets this year...

 

[EagleKeeper]

Lost granddaughter who we had not seen in 15 years.

Wife and I were planning to see her the week end after we lost her.

 

[madoka]

Yes, I just went on a LEGO buying binge and bought 4 large LEGO Technic sets. I'm up to 16 sets this year...

That's no Lego buying binge. This is a Lego buying binge:

I was so close to getting pulled over for this.

 

[SSSnail]

Madoka, did you rob a Lego warehouse, buying for your store, found an unlocked Lego delivery truck or what?

 

[TridenT]

That's no Lego buying binge. This is a Lego buying binge:

I was so close to getting pulled over for this.

What the fuck?

 

[shortylickens]

That's no Lego buying binge. This is a Lego buying binge:

I was so close to getting pulled over for this.

What the fuck? Are you some kind of nut like I see on those TV shows?

 

[TridenT]

What the fuck? Are you some kind of nut like I see on those TV shows?

Yeah, seriously... Also, where the fuck does the guy get the money? Those things are expensive... and I don't even know if 5 stores would hold that many let alone 1.

 

[Imp]

Shitty year because I finished by master's and realized that I only like one narrow sub-field within my field and hate the rest. School was also a major distraction from all my other issues, mainly career and job related, so everything I've been ignoring for 2 years came flooding back over the summer. Just feel lost a lot of the time. Slowly figuring it out.

 

[Svnla]

Suggestions to the youngings without jobs in here.

If you are still young and have no families/ties ups, why not get a job as a truck driver or in the oil and gas fields? Yes, they are rough and not glamour but they pay is decent and you can learn a lot and move up the ladder.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[repoman0]

Can't complain at all - 2012 is looking to be a lot better than 2011 for me.

2011 - Grandmother died, long term girlfriend broke up with me, hated my research/advisor, still in school so had no money, uncle killed himself nothing good happened last year.

2012 - graduated magna cum laude with my BSEE at a very good school, got 3 job offers within 3 months with zero experience - all above 60k and 2 above 75k, love the job I picked - radar/sensors engineer at a federally funded research lab, bought my first car and love to work on it obsessively, put on 30lbs of (mostly) muscle over the past year (now 5'10 170) thanks to hard work at the gym and a decent diet.. not too bad. Although I did get in a car accident that cost me over $3.5k to fix and still owe $50k+ in student loan debt + car payments - still can't complain because the salary offers I got were ridiculously higher than I expected.

 

[Screech]

There are two kinds of dudes: those who can get gfs, and those who bitch about how there aren't any hot women.

And I go to caltech, so complaining about seattle.....lol. Get a hobby and meet people that way.

But to be serious, this year has been pretty good to me. In the next week might get really good or really shitty, but whatever.

 

[TridenT]

There are two kinds of dudes: those who can get gfs, and those who bitch about how there aren't any hot women.

And I go to caltech, so complaining about seattle.....lol. Get a hobby and meet people that way.

But to be serious, this year has been pretty good to me. In the next week might get really good or really shitty, but whatever.

I have more hobbies and go out more frequently than most people. I have been all over Seattle and out hundreds of nights. There's not anything worth seeing here.

 

[shortylickens]

There are two kinds of dudes: those who can get gfs, and those who bitch about how there aren't any hot women.

And I go to caltech, so complaining about seattle.....lol. Get a hobby and meet people that way.

But to be serious, this year has been pretty good to me. In the next week might get really good or really shitty, but whatever.

You know jack about shit.

Theres at least 3. I am the third. And I'm not alone.
Plenty of us arent having any trouble finding girls, its getting them to like us.

 

[rbV5]

Haven't had a bad year since 2009.