anyone else good with one-to-one talking, but completely useless in groups?

[skim milk]

both in personal and professional life

 

[NatePo717]

yup.

Professionally, more than 6 or 7 people while I'm giving a presentation and I'm nervous as all hell. Fewer and I have no problems.
Personal, in large groups I'm more quiet since there's too much going on most of the time for me to get a word in. Otherwise I'm a regular chatterbox.

 

[olds]

I do better in groups. Probably because the pressure is on.

 

[Skeeedunt]

Sort of, mostly with new people though. Most of the time (well, half of the time) I can chat it up pretty well with someone I just met. Throw me into a group of strangers and I usually end up silent, despite my best efforts.

 

[Mrvile]

I am different in both situations and I'm quite successful in both. But I think that personal is a little bit easier.

 

[lightstar]

i'm the same way, but give me enough alcohol and i'm fine

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: lightstar
i'm the same way, but give me enough alcohol and i'm fine

:beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer:

 

[her209]

Its easier in groups for me because I don't have to be actively participating, socially of course.

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: her209
Its easier in groups for me because I don't have to be actively participating, socially of course.

I assumed he meant leading the group.

 

[spidey07]

You are good with one on one conversation because you pick up on clues when it is your turn to speak. You are a very passive person.

In a group you have to speak and if somebody else starts to speak while you are talking you have to give them body language clues that it is NOT their turn to speak. Finish your point and then ALLOW them to speak. If they interrupt you simply hold up your hand and say "I'm not quite done." Finish with a sentence or two.

I always like to throw in a lord of the flys reference by saying "HEY! I have the conch, let me finish and you can have it next" You make your point, you say your word and then you pass the conch and sit and listen.

 

[nageov3t]

nah, I'm pretty awkward and uncomfortable 1-1, but I find it easier to slip on a mask and fake it in groups.