anyone else facing their mid-twenties life crisis?

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GhettoPeanut

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your fvcking lame, to old for college girls, can't go for divorced women...why not go for the whole range of girls IN YOUR FVCKING AGE GROUP! moron.
 

neilm

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Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
Originally posted by: neilm
Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
oh crap dude, you're 26 and single?

I hate to say it but you're SOL

What's wrong with being 26 and single? Better than rushing out to get hitched, that would be classed as "SOL"!


The prime times to actually discover a mate that you can really enjoy for a lifetime has got to be your late school years (late HS/college). Anytime after that you're left with "looking" for someone, which hardly ever works out as good. Yeah, I was sarcastic, but I mean...
Ack don't talk a load of shite... where did you get this ground breaking study anyway? Thats the mind set most Americans have too: "If I don't find someone at school I'm doomed for life, oh no!!", when in fact you are still pretty immature at around 18years old, alot of people get married at that age over a crush they have over someone, thinking its really love.

Just dunno what the big hurry is to be honest, you supposedly have the rest of your life, so why think about marriage at 18? To be honest I'll be out enjoying my life until all that commitment stuff starts, then I will be financially sound, and wise enough to make life long decisions. While you will be running about at 40 odds in a mid-life crisis acting 20 (that is of course if you did get married young).

 

daveymark

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Originally posted by: GhettoPeanut
your fvcking lame, to old for college girls, can't go for divorced women...why not go for the whole range of girls IN YOUR FVCKING AGE GROUP! moron.



how old are you?
 

Fritzo

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Originally posted by: Son of a N00b
*sniff sniff*

you'll wish this will happen when you are 40 and one day you realize you have accomploshed nothing and you only have 1 life.....

Hell, I'm 34 and feel like that now. I get all these crazy ideas of what I could do, but it would involve leaving my family (which I would never do). I've come to accept mediocrity :)
 

PingSpike

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Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
But that has nothing to do with fvcking them.

Our tastes, and thus our opinions, are on completely different playing fields.

Hey, I think our tastes have more in common than you think...

But if you can't find a good steak, sometimes you settle for a hamburger.
 

MrMaster

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Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
Originally posted by: neilm
Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
oh crap dude, you're 26 and single?

I hate to say it but you're SOL

What's wrong with being 26 and single? Better than rushing out to get hitched, that would be classed as "SOL"!


The prime times to actually discover a mate that you can really enjoy for a lifetime has got to be your late school years (late HS/college). Anytime after that you're left with "looking" for someone, which hardly ever works out as good. Yeah, I was sarcastic, but I mean...

I'm 28 and recently single again. I have to disagree with the SOL part and agree with the smart enough not to get hitched part. I almost married my college sweetheart. Spent 5 years with her. Thank heavens I didn't because it just didnt' work out.

Oh and 25 was a turning point year for me as well. People are just not mature enough. Yourself and everyone else think is mature, probably isn't if they are under 25. I thought ideal that they be out of college and that must mean they are mature. Yeah right!! Found out the hard way that is soo not true.
 

Cal166

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Have a couple of beers. We have all experienced the down side of life. It will get better.
 

azazyel

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Originally posted by: Fritzo
Originally posted by: Son of a N00b
*sniff sniff*

you'll wish this will happen when you are 40 and one day you realize you have accomploshed nothing and you only have 1 life.....

Hell, I'm 34 and feel like that now. I get all these crazy ideas of what I could do, but it would involve leaving my family (which I would never do). I've come to accept mediocrity :)

So true, but for me it's that I have accepted contentment. I enjoy my life and I am happy most of the time but it's hard not to think of "what if?" But for me the risk of loosing what I have now for something that might not be attainable just doesn't make sense.
 

asm0deus

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mid twenties crew representin, im 25 and its a PITA, but hey it could always be much worse. lately been making big mistakes and learning big lessons, but definitely trying to wear a smile through it all. luckily the job/housing/auto scenario is taken care of for the most part, just have to find someone worth sharing it all with. this mid twenties crisis time frame is really great for creativity though, pick up a guitar a pen or a paintbrush and goto town.
 

xXped0thugXx

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Originally posted by: Reel
Kinda crappy but here is some email forward your topic made me think of:

The Quarter-Life Crisis
by unknown

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.

You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.

You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.

One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while wining the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.


That pretty much sums it up. I hate everything:|
 

91TTZ

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Originally posted by: rudeguy
I am 26, will be 27 next month. I am too old for immature girls and college chicks.
/end life

That is so false! NOBODY is too old for college chicks.
 

Fritzo

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Originally posted by: azazyel
Originally posted by: Fritzo
Originally posted by: Son of a N00b
*sniff sniff*

you'll wish this will happen when you are 40 and one day you realize you have accomploshed nothing and you only have 1 life.....

Hell, I'm 34 and feel like that now. I get all these crazy ideas of what I could do, but it would involve leaving my family (which I would never do). I've come to accept mediocrity :)

So true, but for me it's that I have accepted contentment. I enjoy my life and I am happy most of the time but it's hard not to think of "what if?" But for me the risk of loosing what I have now for something that might not be attainable just doesn't make sense.

I could have persued a music career, I could have started my own business...there's lots of things I could have done. But when I step back and look at what I have now- a beautiful wife, two perfect kids, two good incomes, a house, 2 cars, and a very comfortable lifestyle, it gets easier to accept my choices :)

I still have the music bug though. I play whenever I get the chance, so that feeds that desire somewhat. My own business is way too risky at this stage of the game, so I'll always be someone else's "boy", but I can live with that.
 

lokiju

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quote:
Originally posted by: NiKeFiDO
im a 20 yr old not-fat virgin. me > you (i think?)



Is that a good thing?
 

dderidex

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Originally posted by: blazert40
I'm a 25 y/o seeing/dating a 29 soon to be 30 y/o.

So I guess this is my mid 20's crisis?

And whats this shyte that older women know what they want? I've never been with a girl/lady in my life thats as flaky as her!

But damn she's hot! :D

For DAMN SURE!

My wife is 35 and is the nutiest nut I've even seen cracked.
 

lokiju

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Originally posted by: dderidex
Originally posted by: blazert40
I'm a 25 y/o seeing/dating a 29 soon to be 30 y/o.

So I guess this is my mid 20's crisis?

And whats this shyte that older women know what they want? I've never been with a girl/lady in my life thats as flaky as her!

But damn she's hot! :D

For DAMN SURE!

My wife is 35 and is the nutiest nut I've even seen cracked.

Man don't get me even started again, last night was no improvement on the situation, I'm supposed to take her out on a date Saturday and depending on how it goes will help me decide if I want to continue with the madness.

I hate the games that are associated with relationships and she apparently loves them.