Anybody not "partying" tonight and generally don't like to?

[TallBill]

FYI - Partying = cocaine use

 

[SaDiZTiKStyLeZ]

I haven't been to a party, in probably, years.
I quit doing drugs over 3 years ago.
I really don't drink anymore. Not because I don't want to, but ever ytime I have in the past year, no matter on how good my mood was pre-intoxication, it really pulled up all my depression & anxiety.
I've been offering to be designated driver the past 2 months & people still don't fuck with me.

 

[Leros]

I fall into introverted category as well. I find socializing in loud, crowded places to be exhausting. I also find meeting new people to be exhausting. This means I don't enjoy clubs, loud bars, "college" parties, etc. I don't mind doing these things very occasionally, but it really does drain me and becomes unpleasant fairly quickly.

My idea of a good time is hanging out with a few good friends. Maybe going to a quieter bar where we can get a table to sit and can actually talk to each other without shouting.

I also don't like to socialize more than a few days a week (small things like lunch don't count). I really enjoy my alone time and feel overwhelmed if I don't get it. The only exception to this was my previous girlfriend (now my ex). I was able to spend infinite amount of time with her and still feel comfortable. I've never had that experience with anybody else, not even good friends, previous girlfriends, or family.

 

[Raduque]

I don't consider myself a social creature, but I'd love nothing more to go hang out at the bar with some friends, get drunk, stumble home, and trip into bed.

I unfortunately have to work till around 1am Sunday morning, so blah.

 

[weflyhigh]

Before I was 21, I'd go out thurs(if anything was going on)/fri/sat. When I turned 21 it started becoming tues/weds/thurs/fri/sat every week and then 50/50 on sunday and monday.

I dunno, I guess it's addicting. But as long as my grades were decent and I didn't drop out, who cares. I met a core group of probably 10 people I know I will be friends with for the rest of my life.

I feel like when I go out I get mentally stimulated. Interacting with people (esp girls) is like a skill and I enjoy getting good at it. I have so many connections now - feels good getting texts all the time from random people asking to do random things

I'd much rather go out, talk to other people, learn about them/their lives, maybe meet up with a girl, etc. than stay at home and just continue doing the same stuff I had been doing from 4pm-8pm

I've seen redbull advertisements that say "because no one looks back and wishes they got more sleep in college". I agree with that. if it's a random night of the week, you have no school work, why NOT go out? You can get drunk on <$10 if you do it right and you gain nothing from staying in. you don't have to black out and be hungover

 

[Leros]

Before I was 21, I'd go out thurs(if anything was going on)/fri/sat. When I turned 21 it started becoming tues/weds/thurs/fri/sat every week and then 50/50 on sunday and monday.

I dunno, I guess it's addicting. But as long as my grades were decent and I didn't drop out, who cares. I met a core group of probably 10 people I know I will be friends with for the rest of my life.

I feel like when I go out I get mentally stimulated. Interacting with people (esp girls) is like a skill and I enjoy getting good at it. I have so many connections now - feels good getting texts all the time from random people asking to do random things

I'd much rather go out, talk to other people, learn about them/their lives, maybe meet up with a girl, etc. than stay at home and just continue doing the same stuff I had been doing from 4pm-8pm

I've seen redbull advertisements that say "because no one looks back and wishes they got more sleep in college". I agree with that. if it's a random night of the week, you have no school work, why NOT go out? You can get drunk on <$10 if you do it right and you gain nothing from staying in. you don't have to black out and be hungover

You're clearly an extrovert. Going out all the time would be miserable for a lot of people.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

I've seen redbull advertisements that say "because no one looks back and wishes they got more sleep in college".

lol, I just noticed those same advertizements recently. And I happen to completely disagree.

 

[Baked]

Since I'm neither hot/cute, or mixed race, or have a big cock, I generally don't get invited to party with the group. It's cool though, no going out like your typical young Americans have allowed me to save up enough money to put a 30% down payment on a 3 bed/2 bath condo in a quiet, mid/high income village complex. Could've bought a Porsche too if I didn't fuck around with my money right after college.

 

[TridenT]

Before I was 21, I'd go out thurs(if anything was going on)/fri/sat. When I turned 21 it started becoming tues/weds/thurs/fri/sat every week and then 50/50 on sunday and monday.

I dunno, I guess it's addicting. But as long as my grades were decent and I didn't drop out, who cares. I met a core group of probably 10 people I know I will be friends with for the rest of my life.

I feel like when I go out I get mentally stimulated. Interacting with people (esp girls) is like a skill and I enjoy getting good at it. I have so many connections now - feels good getting texts all the time from random people asking to do random things

I'd much rather go out, talk to other people, learn about them/their lives, maybe meet up with a girl, etc. than stay at home and just continue doing the same stuff I had been doing from 4pm-8pm

I've seen redbull advertisements that say "because no one looks back and wishes they got more sleep in college". I agree with that. if it's a random night of the week, you have no school work, why NOT go out? You can get drunk on <$10 if you do it right and you gain nothing from staying in. you don't have to black out and be hungover

Eh. I've gone out a lot (similar to you, almost every night) and it's not that great unless the people make it great. (Rarely the case, people are bland. Generally girls are ugly. Maybe 1/100 girls is somewhat attractive.)

That said, I wish I got more sleep and look back and wish I got more sleep. People who don't wish that, don't have insomnia.

 

[SlitheryDee]

Yeah, I'm no fan of places filled with loud noise and people. Every time I find myself in one all I can think is "wtf am I doing here"? I have no fun at all, I'm constantly on edge from the noise and the people. I usually find myself counting the seconds until I can leave. I don't know what good can come of recognizing an introvert though. It's not like we need a special "introvert club" for us to not go to. We are solitary creatures. We stay home.

 

[manimal]

FYI - Partying = cocaine use

oh so thats what it means. Cool.

Think snoops fingernail is for boogers or coke?

 

[Ultrabook]

Some of those extroverts are then extremely irritating. Telling one of them that you don't like spending time with people constantly is like delivering a logical paradox to a 1950s movie robot, except instead of exploding, they just experience a quick glitch, then restart right back into trying to get you to participate in some social activity. The idea that being around people could possibly be a negative experience simply does not exist for them. You might as well tell them that you have a dog that is made of hyperspace. It's just not something that makes sense for them.

Forum-based socializing is ok. It's text, I can take long pauses whenever I want to, and I can switch to another tab whenever I want to.

Exactly! Thanks for nailing it! It's nice to know I'm not alone in seeing the universal reaction of extroverts. I just don't even bother explaining it to them anymore.

I do like forum based socializing for the same reasons. Too bad we can't switch tabs IRL

 

[joutlaw]

Not up for the club scene at all, but do enjoy spending times with friends and family on the weekend.

 

[Fritzo]

You're just growing up. I got sick of the "gotta party!" attitude in my mid 20's. At 41, my favorite thing to do on a Friday night is go home from work, take a nap until 7pm eat a late dinner, and watch a movie.

Of course I'm married, so I don't have to worry about going out and finding a hole to put it in (which I think is what drives partiers in the first place.)

 

[William Gaatjes]

I swear if another person says I'm a loser for not going out and partying and getting drunk Friday night, I'm going to think I'm an alien from Mars. WTF is so great about it? You go to the club, pay to get in, drinks are expensive as hell, can't hear jack squat, women just tease you and go there to get their egos stroked and free drinks and then you go home and wake up with a hangover. How is that fun? I was thinking I had an anti social personality disorder or maybe even autism or aspergers until i read this on stumbleupon http://briankim.net/blog/2007/10/top-5-things-every-extrovert-should-know-about-introverts/

That's so me. I hate partying. It leaves me with no energy. I like being alone and reading or surfing the web. I think this society elevates extroverts way too much. Introverts need to be recognized. It's almost like we're shamed if we act out our introvert nature.

I'm going to catch up on the walking dead tonight, season 2. Anybody else not partying and just staying in and chilling and being OK with it?

Do not worry. You are not alone.
I enjoy a party to see how people behave, enjoy the views and act a little crazy myself. But only once in a while. For rest and to mentally recharge, i need to be alone or around people that "radiate" inner peace just as much as i do. Or i start to feel uncomfortable because the other people get this restless ticks behavior because i do not care for the usual popular mindless chit chat.

For me sometimes it seems most extroverts do not seem to have inner peace or at least cannot enjoy it when they do. I agree with the statement of mmtech.

You're what's called an introvert. Social situations exhaust you and your find you need quiet time to recharge. Extroverts, the party people, are the opposite. They need social stimulation to relax. The autism thing is bullshit. Nor do you have a disorder. About a third of the population is introverted so you're definitely not weird.

 

[Merad]

Partying has zero appeal to me.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

Does anyone not feel exhausted in social events, but simply uncaring at best to highly irritated and uncomfortable at worst? Like, I'm exhausted on ordinary occasions, but if I was forced into a large social event in which people were trying to get me to do x or y, I would be sweating adrenaline and eventually switch from avoidant to argumentative. Sometimes I feel like I'm more anti-social than introverted.

 

[Ultrabook]

Good to know that this is just a sign of growing up. Lets me know I'm on the right track.

 

[pelov]

Girl
I can't understand it why you want to hurt me
After all the things I've done for you.
I buy you champagne and roses and diamonds on your finger -
Diamonds on your finger -
Still you hang out all night
what am I to do?

My girl wants to party all the time

Party all the time
party all the time.
My girl wants to party all the time
party all the time.

She parties all the time - party all the time

She likes to party all the time - party all the time

party all the time - she likes to party all the time

party all the time.
[ From: http://www.metrolyrics.com/party-all-the-time-lyrics-eddie-murphy.html ]

Girl
I've seen you in clubs just hanging out and dancing.
You give your number to every man you see.
You never come home at night because you're out romancing.
I wish you bring some of your love home to me.

But my girl wants to party all the time
. . .
My girl wants to party all the time
. . .

Party
party
party she likes to party all the time.
She likes to party all the time -
She lets her hair down
she lets her body down:
She lets her body
she lets her body down.
Party all the time - do you wanna get any party
yeah.
Party all the time - party all the time.

 

[ViviTheMage]

I agree OP, I don't party, or drink at all...so much other fun stuff to do on any given day, even a friday/sat night that I would rather do.

shit, I have never been to a club, or a strip club, some people think that is weird, but I could give twoooo shits.

 

[Saint Nick]

I was big into drinking/partying up until about age 22. Since then I've been just trying to accomplish life goals. meanwhile my friends are still getting drunk nightly and working retail. I guess I can understand.

 

[gorcorps]

Yeah I don't do much drinking anymore (25 yrs old) though I never did the club thing at all. At most we'd go out to a bar that had decent drink specials. These days though bars are too loud, or too expensive, and I'd rather just hang out at somebody's place with my own store bought beer.

 

[SlitheryDee]

Does anyone not feel exhausted in social events, but simply uncaring at best to highly irritated and uncomfortable at worst? Like, I'm exhausted on ordinary occasions, but if I was forced into a large social event in which people were trying to get me to do x or y, I would be sweating adrenaline and eventually switch from avoidant to argumentative. Sometimes I feel like I'm more anti-social than introverted.

I feel all of those things so intensely that it exhausts me. That's what I assumed the op meant. For me it's high levels of irritation and discomfort for the first hour or so which leads to sort of "giving up" on the whole situation and resigning myself to a relatively quiet corner.

 

[OverVolt]

If I'm quiet, extroverts think something is wrong with you.

If I talk, extroverts think I'm arrogant. I really just run with it too. My condescending tone is usually from their dumbass small talk

Extroverts think of things symbolically without actually understanding them. You say desk and they think of a desk from TV, you say party and they think of what a party should be. The shorter and dumber what you say to an extrovert, the better. For example you know you are talking to an extrovert if they clip the decimals off any numbers they mention in talking. You are talking to a super extrovert if they clip it down to the nearest 5% or 10%.

If you say "This party is going to suck because they have nothing but cheap beer" Their brain explodes because all they can think of is parties from TV and parties are fun. They can be such dumbasses, and thats why nattie light was invented.

Most of the retarded socially pressured things I see happen, happen to extroverts. You can pressure those dipshits into anything, like doing stuff they don't actually enjoy at a party because "parties are fun!"

 

[Paul98]

If you dislike the loud music, you can get some decent ear plugs like the ones musicians wear. You will be able to hear a lot better people around you also. I have a couple friends who do that when going out.

You don't have to get waisted, but you do have to go out with people you enjoy about being around. Find places you actually like going out to. Sounds to me like you are going out to shitty bars.