Okay, I'll try to keep this as simple as I can (yeah, right):
BACKGROUND:
- Jack and Tyler are friends for a few years. Tyler would always drive Jack around, helped him move out of his house when his mom kicked him out, let him stay in his house when he didn't have anywhere to go.
- Jack has some problems, namely depression. He gets obsessed with girls and has a hard time dealing with it. He's had more girlfriends than I've ever had, about 5, in the course of two years. Three of the relationships were more than 5 months long.
So, Tyler really like this girl, lets call her Melissa. They have been hanging out recently and have grown quite fond of one another, and they really want to date. The only thing that is stopping them from dating is that Melissa used to go out with Tyler's really good friend, Jack. Their relationship ended 6 months ago, and since then Jack has gotten a new girlfriend, and is physically involved with her, but he says he still loves Melissa.
Well, Melissa doesn't love Jack. She has moved on, but Jack constantly emails her and whenever they hang out she hates it, and he ends up crying because he says he still loves her. He sends her emails where he says that she is "lying to herself" and "retreating into a shell" and that if she has any deceny left in her she will still be friends with him, even though she can't stand what he is doing to her.
Flash forward to today. Tyler has talked to Jack and told him that he wants to date Melissa, and that he has liked her since before they were ever together (which is true). He doesn't want it to destroy their friendship, but he does want to try to be with Melissa, and Tyler feels that Jack needs to move on and stop being selfish. If he really cares for Melissa he should let her make her own choice, and if he doesn't want her to go out with other people, he shouldn't have ever broke up with her, and then a week later started dating the girl he is currently with.
Basically, Jack said that Tyler can date Melissa, but that it would be weird for him and would cause him pain. Tyler has said that it would cause both him and Melissa a lot of pain if they can't be together. So now Tyler has a choice:
1. Deny his feelings, and don't date Melissa. It will probably hurt her, and it will hurt Tyler, but he would sacrifice his feelings for Jack's feelings, even though Tyler would have a hard time doing it.
2. Go with his feelings, and date Melissa. It would hurt Jack, but Tyler doesn't really date too often, and hasn't had a girlfriend in 2 years, so its something he would like to try.
So its either Tyler and Melissa's feelings get sacrificed, or Jack's feelings get sacrificed. Either way since the subject has been brought up Jack and Tyler's friendship won't be the same, and that sucks.
So Anandtech, say what you think... And sorry, no cliff's notes.
BACKGROUND:
- Jack and Tyler are friends for a few years. Tyler would always drive Jack around, helped him move out of his house when his mom kicked him out, let him stay in his house when he didn't have anywhere to go.
- Jack has some problems, namely depression. He gets obsessed with girls and has a hard time dealing with it. He's had more girlfriends than I've ever had, about 5, in the course of two years. Three of the relationships were more than 5 months long.
So, Tyler really like this girl, lets call her Melissa. They have been hanging out recently and have grown quite fond of one another, and they really want to date. The only thing that is stopping them from dating is that Melissa used to go out with Tyler's really good friend, Jack. Their relationship ended 6 months ago, and since then Jack has gotten a new girlfriend, and is physically involved with her, but he says he still loves Melissa.
Well, Melissa doesn't love Jack. She has moved on, but Jack constantly emails her and whenever they hang out she hates it, and he ends up crying because he says he still loves her. He sends her emails where he says that she is "lying to herself" and "retreating into a shell" and that if she has any deceny left in her she will still be friends with him, even though she can't stand what he is doing to her.
Flash forward to today. Tyler has talked to Jack and told him that he wants to date Melissa, and that he has liked her since before they were ever together (which is true). He doesn't want it to destroy their friendship, but he does want to try to be with Melissa, and Tyler feels that Jack needs to move on and stop being selfish. If he really cares for Melissa he should let her make her own choice, and if he doesn't want her to go out with other people, he shouldn't have ever broke up with her, and then a week later started dating the girl he is currently with.
Basically, Jack said that Tyler can date Melissa, but that it would be weird for him and would cause him pain. Tyler has said that it would cause both him and Melissa a lot of pain if they can't be together. So now Tyler has a choice:
1. Deny his feelings, and don't date Melissa. It will probably hurt her, and it will hurt Tyler, but he would sacrifice his feelings for Jack's feelings, even though Tyler would have a hard time doing it.
2. Go with his feelings, and date Melissa. It would hurt Jack, but Tyler doesn't really date too often, and hasn't had a girlfriend in 2 years, so its something he would like to try.
So its either Tyler and Melissa's feelings get sacrificed, or Jack's feelings get sacrificed. Either way since the subject has been brought up Jack and Tyler's friendship won't be the same, and that sucks.
So Anandtech, say what you think... And sorry, no cliff's notes.
