Another NTIPAGT (never thought I'd post another girl thread)

Kelvrick

Lifer
Feb 14, 2001
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That was interesting. GF calls yesterday and says she needs to talk to me. She shows up, we sit down, she tells me that she's been thinking about this week and had to come out. She told me she's been going clubbing the last year or so (only 8-9). Yea, not that bad at all but then we had a deal where she doesn't go clubbing (because I don't like the scene) and I don't hit up the strip clubs (obvious why she doesn't like it).

So talk talk, blah blah and at one point I'm laughing and say is that all? Then it continues to where she's still young, wants to have fun without having something holding her back. I ask her if she's slept with other guys and she says no, just dance with random people.

I asked her how she'd feel if I danced with random girls, she doesn't like it. THen I tell her I can't be in that kind of relationship and that she has a choice to make:

Spend the night and then proceed through the weekend together, or get up and I'll walk her to her car.

She's crying and just sits there, telling me she doesn't know what to do. I tell her I love her and all that good stuff, but she has to do what she thinks will make her happier. She gets to the door, we have a nice long hug, she leaves. I cry, call up friends who proceed to show up with booze.

On the plus side, its a windy as hell day today in Sacramento with fires, so I had an excuse when I came to the office of why my eyes were all red and bloodshot (ash).

Cliffs:
Break up with gf
Go to wizz after drink fest
Wake up on bathroom floor by knocking on door and ("why the fvck is the bathroom locked, and where's Kelvrick")

EDIT: Not really asking advice, just had to vent considering I'm at the office now and can't just bawl to my friends. I don't wanna bring my personal life into my professional life.
 

Kelvrick

Lifer
Feb 14, 2001
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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
How old are you?

23, she's 22. First boyfriend/girlfriend scenario. Thought of among friends as first to be married, told that its rare that a first relationship to go all the way by the older friends and relatives.

Yes, I am thirsty.
 

nakedfrog

No Lifer
Apr 3, 2001
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Originally posted by: Kelvrick
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
How old are you?

23, she's 22. First boyfriend/girlfriend scenario. Thought of among friends as first to be married, told that its rare that a first relationship to go all the way by the older friends and relatives.

Yes, I am thirsty.

Yeah, just don't dwell too long, you'll be fine.
 

Feneant2

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May 26, 2004
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That is a very common story with women. It's funny, you give them your all, make sure they have it the best they could, but they just don't think that's enough and want to see what else is out there.

The worst part of this is that at the first sign of trouble or abuse or whatever, she will call you.
 

Kelvrick

Lifer
Feb 14, 2001
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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: Kelvrick
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
How old are you?

23, she's 22. First boyfriend/girlfriend scenario. Thought of among friends as first to be married, told that its rare that a first relationship to go all the way by the older friends and relatives.

Yes, I am thirsty.

Yeah, just don't dwell too long, you'll be fine.

Yea. Just boozing for now and riding the motorcycle (now upgraded to baby number 1 instead of 2).

I figure I should wait a few days before I start hitting the strip clubs and such and do something I regret later.
 

Dacalo

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Mar 31, 2000
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Originally posted by: Kelvrick

Yea. Just boozing for now and riding the motorcycle (now upgraded to baby number 1 instead of 2).

I figure I should wait a few days before I start hitting the strip clubs and such and do something I regret later.

Goldclub Centerfold? :D
 

Kelvrick

Lifer
Feb 14, 2001
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Originally posted by: Dacalo
Originally posted by: Kelvrick

Yea. Just boozing for now and riding the motorcycle (now upgraded to baby number 1 instead of 2).

I figure I should wait a few days before I start hitting the strip clubs and such and do something I regret later.

Goldclub Centerfold? :D

Soon, soon. I'm hoping to take advantage of can night. :D
 

reverend boltron

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Nov 18, 2004
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Originally posted by: Feneant2
That is a very common story with women. It's funny, you give them your all, make sure they have it the best they could, but they just don't think that's enough and want to see what else is out there.

The worst part of this is that at the first sign of trouble or abuse or whatever, she will call you.

QFT

Man, that is so true. Seriously, that is so frustrating. I had a similar situation with that, and the girl just kept on coming back when she ran into trouble, even after repeatedly telling her, "Look, you need to stay out of my life. I'm not your boyfriend anymore, I don't want to be your boyfriend anymore, and you need to figure this stuff out for yourself." But she just kept on coming back. No respect I tells yah. No respect.

It'll be okay though, after a bit it really gives you a lot of experience that will help you out, just be calm, cool, and collected. Don't freak out, don't write any emails at 3 in the morning, and don't call her. If you do decide that you want to write her a letter or something, write it, and don't send it or give it to her for at least a day. I can't tell you how many times I have gotten crazy emails that were sent late at night.
 

Riverhound777

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Aug 13, 2003
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Originally posted by: Dacalo
Originally posted by: Kelvrick

Yea. Just boozing for now and riding the motorcycle (now upgraded to baby number 1 instead of 2).

I figure I should wait a few days before I start hitting the strip clubs and such and do something I regret later.

Goldclub Centerfold? :D

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