I saw someone else post this, seemed to nail it home pretty well
These fundamentalist and evangelical churches, and the families communities that surround them are based on a highly authoritarian power structure. They like that kind of structure. They think the country needs “strong leaders” that impose their will on the majority. They think that things like self-esteem and critical thinking are bad.
Now, not every Trump supporter grew up inside that extreme of religious authoritarianism, but it’s a matter of degree. And the fundamentalist and evangelical communities were explicitly for Trump. There is nothing about Trump that gives evangelicals pause, nothing they have to justify. Trump is their perfect leader. So many secularist/critical thinkers don’t get this. They think that Trump’s cruelty, lies, greed and misogyny should cause some sort of cognitive dissonance among the religious. But these people like the cruelty directed towards secularists, liberals, minorities/the others. They think “those people” need to be marginalized and put in their place.
Trump is the leader, the alpha. He’s not held to the same standards as everyone else. That’s why, when Trump calls some random public figure something shitty and that public figure calls him something not quite so shitty back, they can criticize the second person with a straight face. It’s simple to them. Trump is allowed to do that, much like a parent is allowed to spank their child. But the second person wasn’t allowed to do that, it’s like a child spanking the parent.
While most people generally think that a person in authority should hold themselves to a higher behavioral standard, these type of conservatives think the opposite. They think the authority figure gets to say and do what he wants and he doesn’t
owe anyone an explanation for his actions. That’s why he gets so nasty when a debate moderator asked him a tough question. They aren’t supposed to be allowed to talk to the President that way.