An honest question from me...When do they get it?

[Scarpozzi]

I think it all depends on where you come from and how much failure you get hit with early on. You see, people learn more from failures than successes. If you have a helicopter parent insulating you from the SUCK that is this world, you're going to get hit with that ton of bricks when you leave the nest. Those who go to college, fail instantly and return to the safety of their mommy's basement are going to continue to live in a fantasy land.

BoomerD said the same thing in fewer words.

 

[BoomerD]

Based on Mayne's many "I'm a total failure" threads, I don't think HE "gets it," Why the hell would he expect someone living in his house to "get it?"

 

[Mayne]

words hurt man.

Where is my safe-zone?

 

[Kaido]

words hurt man.

Where is my safe-zone?

 

[Kaido]

I think it all depends on where you come from and how much failure you get hit with early on. You see, people learn more from failures than successes. If you have a helicopter parent insulating you from the SUCK that is this world, you're going to get hit with that ton of bricks when you leave the nest. Those who go to college, fail instantly and return to the safety of their mommy's basement are going to continue to live in a fantasy land.

BoomerD said the same thing in fewer words.

The crazy thing is, there's a lot of insulation with helicopter parenting. My best friend growing up had helicopter parents. On through college & getting a job as well. He got scholarships, didn't have to work in college, and found a nice cushy job. He's never really felt the mean side of life. I remember taking him to boy scouts once and he couldn't handle it. On the flip side, he is a very diligent & hardworking person, so it's not like he's a bum or mooching off his parents or society or anything...he just really hasn't had to feel what it's like to scrape through life at times, to have financial anxiety, to live in a scary neighborhood, or to really even wonder what he's going to do with his life.

 

[herrjimbo]

What BoomerD said.This is the only answer that is acceptable.

 

[Mai72]

Once read that life is just one big game. Try not to take it too seriously. Way too many people get attached to how you should act or be when you're at a certain age. IMO, that type of logic leads to pain. There are many paths. What makes me happy, isn't necessarily going to make you happy.

So, to answer your question. It depends. As long as you're happy and you're content with your life that's great. But, don't get upset when the world passes you by because you wanted to chill all day and you were lazy. Everything comes with a price.

 

[brianmanahan]

Once read that life is just one big game

and somebody once told me the world was gonna roll me

 

[Scarpozzi]

The crazy thing is, there's a lot of insulation with helicopter parenting. My best friend growing up had helicopter parents. On through college & getting a job as well. He got scholarships, didn't have to work in college, and found a nice cushy job. He's never really felt the mean side of life. I remember taking him to boy scouts once and he couldn't handle it. On the flip side, he is a very diligent & hardworking person, so it's not like he's a bum or mooching off his parents or society or anything...he just really hasn't had to feel what it's like to scrape through life at times, to have financial anxiety, to live in a scary neighborhood, or to really even wonder what he's going to do with his life.

A lot of families prop up their kids. I feel like my career has been easy to attain, physically easy to do (computer stuff), but never paid me a lot in salary.... that's left me picking up slack by working hard physically outside of work. The kids I worry about are the ones who can't get cushy jobs or fall into a good career when they're told by their peers to expect a six figure income. Expectations vs reality can really do a number on your mental health if you don't have friends helping you adjust you expectations and goals to things more attainable and maintainable. My expectations have always been low.

 

[Pulsar]

and somebody once told me the world was gonna roll me

Well you aren't the sharpest tool in the shed.

 

[ch33zw1z]

The crazy thing is, there's a lot of insulation with helicopter parenting. My best friend growing up had helicopter parents. On through college & getting a job as well. He got scholarships, didn't have to work in college, and found a nice cushy job. He's never really felt the mean side of life. I remember taking him to boy scouts once and he couldn't handle it. On the flip side, he is a very diligent & hardworking person, so it's not like he's a bum or mooching off his parents or society or anything...he just really hasn't had to feel what it's like to scrape through life at times, to have financial anxiety, to live in a scary neighborhood, or to really even wonder what he's going to do with his life.

That's sounds not half bad.

Starting with nothing is not easy.

 

[Dr. Zaus]

Well you aren't the sharpest tool in the shed.

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