You know, it can be funny to show people systems with slightly different buildouts to get their reactions. One of my job sites has a Dell workstation with the Xeon version of that chip (6-core 12 thread something or other) with 24GB ram and a relatively low end professional GPU, running on a raid set of SAS drives. The other day I brought in my spare laptop, which is nothing special, i7 SB, 8GB, etc, but it has a new Toshiba 256GB Q-Series Pro SSD (about identical to Samsung 840 Pro in performance), and the guy was swearing up and down that my laptop was ten times faster than his desktop, and thinking about 'upgrading' to it. I ended up ordering him a set of SSDs to move the SAS drives to storage duties.
Anyway, back to this one, I bet if a gamer used these configs back to back, without being able to check device manager or look in the case :
Intel 4960X, 32GB DDR3-2400, 2TB 7200RPM HDD, 2GB GT640 DDR3
with
AMD Trinity 750K, 8GB DDR3-1600, 256GB Samsung 840 Evo, 1GB 750ti
That he would swear up and down that the Trinity was the MUCH faster system.
So the OP's friend might just have compared machines built for different purposes. A 3960K with a crappy GPU and HDD will feel like a total dog compared to an i3 with a great GPU and an SSD.