Am i the only sane person left on this planet????

[Anubis]

ok im having a kind of delema. so im gonna rant for a sec. her goes

A while ago me and my GF who i had been with for over a year about 1.5 broke up and decided to take a break knowing that it would be hard for both of us. this first month or so of this break up happened over school break so it was ok. when we got back to school we had planned on getting back together with her but she said she wanted to be single for a lil while longer so i was like o what the hey. so what happens is that she starts liking this other guy and decides that she would rather date him then get back together with me. so im pissed and have every right to feel hurt and such. i was talkin to het today tellin her about how miserable i feel and she said sence we are just friends right now while we are dating other people that " as a friend of hers that i should feel happy for her because she is happy with the new dude" now to me this is pretty much the most fuc*ed up thing ive ever heard. why should i feel happy for her when i feel so bad. can sooeone answer me why i should feel happy for her when she did what she did?

 

[Ns1]

you shouldn't, you should despise that bitch for the rest of your life, but then realize the futility(sp is that's even a word) of it all and kill yourself now, seeing as how you're the only sane person left on this planet

=P


You got screwed buddy

 

[Atlantean]

you sound not too sane, when people break up, the chance that they will get back together is low. Don't take it out on her, she didn't mean to fall for another guy, it is just something that happens.

 

[TallBill]

hehe.. well.. i actually talked to my ex... and she was like.. im so happy that your finding someone else to go out with.. weird

 

[notfred]

You broke up with her. you lose. move along.

 

[Gonad the Barbarian]

She is trying to keep you on the back burner in case this doesn't work out with the other guy. Do you want to be used as someone's 'Plan B?' Cut her loose, she has played you, and let her know you know it and aren't going to take it. Let her know she is NOT your friend, and totally, completely cut her loose. And screw her sister if she has one.

BTW, I'm assuming the break was more her idea than yours, since she is the one that has hooked up with someone else already. Usually these 'breaks' come about when one person already has someone else in their sights.

 

[Anubis]

ok well i guess a little explnation would be in order. we broken up before actually and gotten back togther happened mor then once. this is because of how we feel about each other. this is gonna sound stupid but we both have a unexplainable love for each other and want to be with each other for the rest of our lives. we just have some things that need workin out so we take lil breaks. the thins is she telle me that she still loves me and wants to get back together with me sometime later. but said i should

"be happy now because she is"

this is what i have a problim with with because it dosent make any sence to me wht i should be happy for her when im not happy. it just dosent make any sence

and no i dont despise her or anything i just wanna know wht the fuc* im supposed to be happy for her?

 

[Atlantean]

date someone else to piss her off.

 

[pulse8]

Suck it up and get over it.

The girl found a guy she likes better. Sh!t happens. You'll get over it and find someone else. If you care about her happiness at all, then in some ways you should be happy for her. She's making herself happy and you should do the same.

Edit: And it's spelled sense

 

[Anubis]

Atlantean: im workin on that

 

[Nocturnal]

I've been in the same exact situation. I had to wait about five months I think. Within the five months she dated three other guys, wait four I think. And in the end she came back to me and we lasted another few months. Things didn't work out. Now I'm with a new girl.

 

[ceLLriOT]

If this is true love that you feel for her, are you really ready to marry her, do you think that if you had to make the decision today that you would pick her over any other girl on the planet? If so, you should tell her how much you love her and that if she makes the decision to be with another guy, you cannot stand by and wait for her (even if you will wait). Make sure she feels the same way about you as you do about her, and you should get your answer right there.

 

[Gonad the Barbarian]

<< Edit: And it's spelled sense >>



Or 'since.'

 

[Anubis]

o get off om my spellin i know its horrid

ceLLriOT: the answer is yes i woould take her right now over any other girl on this planet and we do feel the same way about each other the problim is we kinda have some problims which are gettin fixed by a llil understanding on both sides. and she said she didnt want to get back into a relationship with me untill she is sure that there will be no more hurt caused by either person. cause we have hurt each other in the past and every time we take a break its kinda messy. but we both do feel the same way and wanna make it work. i just dont think i should be happy for her

 

[pulse8]

How old are you?

 

[Anubis]

20 whats it matter

 

[ceLLriOT]

Being in a relationship, you have to accept that there is going to be hurt feelings. That is one of the responsabilities you have to take on when you date or marry. It's how you react to being hurt that is key, remember that she has feelings too. As far as she wanting to date other people, you shouldnt feel happy for her unless you truelly feel the guys she is dating will be benificial to her. If they are only temp positions or to make you feel jealous, then I dont think you should be happy for her. However, if she doesnt see you as being the one for her, then you should know that you either have to let go, wait for her to realize that, or accept that she will most likely cheat on you if and when you marry.

 

[pulse8]

<< 20 whats it matter >>


It matters a lot.

You're young and it's obvious that both you can your girlfriend are in a dysfunctional relationship.

Are you aware that there is probably a girl out there that you would probably love more and will not have to take "breaks" from because you have issues with each other?

You're blinded by what you consider love. You want advice? Ditch the girl and fix whatever it is you wanted to fix about yourself and find a girl that you won't have to take "breaks" from because you'll be in a healthier, happier relationship.

And the last thing you should do is get married.

 

[dfi]

You are the only sane person left. Or at least, I'm one of the insane ones.

"Take a break", to me, means "break up forever and ever unless ricky lake loses weight". And we all know how rare that happens.

dfi

 

[Noriaki]

I love one of my best friends who is with someone else. And I'm very happy for her that she has someone she is happy with.

It's not that hard to do, if you really love her, you should be made happy by her happiness.

Of course you have every right to be hurt by what she did...that's lame...
This girl never did that to me, she's never felt the same way about me and never led me to believe she was....you were played pretty bad...I'd be upset to.

But if you really love her, you would realize her feelings are important to, and if she is truly happy you shoudl find a way to be happy for her, and then you can stilll include her in your life as a friend only. If you think she's worth the effort.