Am I the only one irritated by so called "friends" who only call when...

[soulcougher73]

I stopped taking calls from friends like that. I just don't answer anymore and eventually they stop calling.

This.

 

[zeruty]

fixed

Well if I fixed his computer, and had her number, I'd be hitting it.
But I chose to not call him back. So therefore you'd need to fix his computer first

Wow you hit the jackpot. Is the slut his niece?

Nah... while I have no doubt his nieces are sluts... He only treats white women as sluts, and usually only dates white women. One year while I was working with him, he had something along the line of 16 girlfriends... most thought he was being exclusive, but a few knew otherwise. Anyways, Christmas was coming up so he dumped them all. Saved lots of money on gifts...

 

[Kev]

What kind of friend calls to just "talk?" Especially 2 guys? I would rather be friends with someone who calls me to ask me something

 

[endervalentine]

What kind of friend calls to just "talk?" Especially 2 guys? I would rather be friends with someone who calls me to ask me something

this

I guess it also depends ... after we graduated from college, and everyone is working, the calls I get from friends are either, let's hang out, or asking for help or to borrow things. I actually think it would be weird if one of buddies called and just wanted to talk. If I was bored and wanted to see what everyone is doing, I would IM

 

[jlee]

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I guess it also depends ... after we graduated from college, and everyone is working, the calls I get from friends are either, let's hang out, or asking for help or to borrow things. I actually think it would be weird if one of buddies called and just wanted to talk. If I was bored and wanted to see what everyone is doing, I would IM

Works great if all your friends live on their computers. Mine don't. Texting works great for that, imho...usually someone will call if there's something to be discussed that requires a few minutes talking (i.e. snowmobiling this afternoon).

 

[Saga]

Many years ago, a few of us invented a term for people like that.

They're not friend-friends... these are people you know from Work,School,Gym,Bar,etc... people you wouldn't know if you didn't have a common location of association.

They are known as "friendships of convenience"

You're only friends with them because it's convenient.

I think the term you are looking for is "fairweather friend". A term which has existed far before you and/or your friends were even a blip on the radar.

 

[JS80]

Who the hell calls friends just to talk? What are you, a 14 yo girl?

 

[SlitheryDee]

I hate it when people call just to chat as well. My answer to the "hey, I was thinking about you. What's up"? calls is always "nuthin'"...silence...more silence...increasingly uncomfortable silence..."well bye". *hang up*

I just can't sit around and talk about nothing. During one of those calls I'm usually just sitting there thinking about whatever it is that I was doing that was interrupted by the call. Rest assured, if you call me at home without something really interesting to say, you're interrupting something I'd rather be doing that talking to you.

I don't understand how other people don't mind, in fact are just delighted to hear the phone ring. At my house, it always seems to ring when I'm in the middle of something I really don't want to drop.

Naturally I also hate it when someone calls me wanting me to do something for them because that takes even more of my time. Though at least then the call has a specific function. Minor social calls could be done away with and no one would be the worse for it. The fact that I never call anyone else "just because I'm thinking of them" OR to get them to do something for me without it being their paid profession makes calls of either sort doubly irritating.

 

[Rifter]

I know exactly what you mean. Im a Tow truck dispatcher and you would be amazed the number of people that will call me only when they need a tow truck because they either broke down or locked there keys in their car.

 

[ShawnD1]

they need something? I remember good times when friends would call each other to see "what's up" or talk. Now it's like "hello, how are you? By the way I was wondering if...."

psychopath

CHARISMATIC PSYCHOPATHS are charming, attractive liars. They are usually gifted at some talent or another, and they use it to their advantage in manipulating others. They are usually fast-talkers, and possess an almost demonic ability to persuade others out of everything they own, even their lives. Leaders of religious sects or cults, for example, might be psychopaths if they lead their followers to their deaths. This subtype often comes to believe in their own fictions. They are irresistible.

Sociopaths have always existed in varying form and to various degrees. They have been known by various titles. They have been studied using various techniques, and through the years their ailment has been blamed on various causes. But one thing never varies: all sociopaths share three common characteristics. They are all very egocentric individuals with no empathy for others, and they are incapable of feeling remorse or guilt. [The Sociopath Rebecca Horton (April 1999)]

While the psychopath has likes and dislikes and fondness for the pleasures that human company can bring, analysis shows that he is completely egocentric, valuing others only for their enhancement of his own pleasure or status. While he gives no real love, he is quite capable of inspiring love of sometimes fanatical degree in others.

He is generally superficially charming and often makes a striking impression as possessed of the noblest of human qualities. He makes friends easily, and is very manipulative, using his ability with words to talk his way out of trouble. Many psychopaths love to be admired and bask in the adulation of others.

With the lack of love, there is also a lack of empathy. The psychopath is unable to feel sorry for others in unfortunate situations or put himself in another's place, whether or not they have been harmed by him.[Gordon Banks]

Simply put: people who will pretend to be your friend just to get things from you are psychopaths.

Im a Tow truck dispatcher and you would be amazed the number of people that will call me only when they need a tow truck because they either broke down or locked there keys in their car.

How does towing my car help me gets the key out of it?

 

[DrPizza]

I got rid of my land line about 2 or 3 years ago. I stopped charging my cell phone last... June?

Join the club!

 

[ConstipatedVigilante]

I'll bend over backwards for people I know would return the favor. I tend to treat people with courtesy: I'll help them out, but if they don't respond in kind, I'll forget about them.

 

[destrekor]

People often forget there are words other than friend that can mean something similar.

I reserve the term "friend" in description of what are basically my closest, well.. friends. Very small circle, and sucks because they are hometown people and I won't be there forever, whereas it looks like they'll be sticking around there.

People down here at school, I haven't gotten that close with them. I talk, converse, hang out with, but aren't close. They are acquaintances. Granted, I might not say they are simply acquaintances when casually talking about them to others, except here, because that can get confusing. But a friend, to me, is someone who I will be there for if needed, and who will be there for me if needed. A relationship or pact that to me, is essentially one-step removed from a sibling, family without the blood or marriage ties.

 

[ShawnD1]

But a friend, to me, is someone who I will be there for if needed, and who will be there for me if needed. A relationship or pact that to me, is essentially one-step removed from a sibling, family without the blood or marriage ties.

Reminds me of this t-shirt my mom refused to buy for me when I was a kid:
"Friends help you move. Good friends help you move dead bodies of people you had to kill because they pissed you off"

 

[krylon]

I think the term you are looking for is "fairweather friend". A term which has existed far before you and/or your friends were even a blip on the radar.

owned

 

[Regs]

You got to start somewhere. It usually takes months if not years to form that relationship.

 

[Bateluer]

they need something? I remember good times when friends would call each other to see "what's up" or talk. Now it's like "hello, how are you? By the way I was wondering if...."

Maybe I'm just getting old and grumpy?

If you help them out, do they help you out?