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Originally posted by: slycat
bf moved in as in FULL TIME?...like living there for good? hell he better pay for shits or i call landlord...tell her u'll not take it anymore....doesn't wanna listen, adamant?...call landlord. get him thrown the fvk out.

he was to be on the lease, i asked her to do it last month.. and she said he will.. i asked her the other day and she said "oh he is going to be on it"..

i just cant help feel suddenly she might go "oh because he is not on the lease you are paying the full 475 that you were doing barring last month" or whatever.. even though he didnt move in last month (december) we did split it 3 ways.. he wrote her the check.. or whatever they did between themselves.

its a weird feelings..

end of this term if this dosnt work out im moving to my own place. its better that way.. i have full control of what i do.
 

Attrox

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The bf doesn't have right to live there if his name is not on the lease.
You have 3 ppl living there now instead of 2 based on the agreement.

Staying 1 or 2 night there is okay, but living permanently? no way. Ask him to pay rent too or kick his a$$ out the door.
 

wheresmybacon

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If I were you I'd seriously start thinking about at least planning to move out. Don't do it yet, but tally up your bills, check out some places around town, and be ready to bail if she's unwilling to make some changes. Being stuck in a bad living situation is almost worse than being stuck in a bad job. Maybe it's worse....

I tried living with my former friend and her BF (she had him move in just like your situation), and it lasted a couple months. It ended with us all hating eachother. Good times. :(

My advice: never ever ever live with couples if you can afford not to.
 

BooGiMaN

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is the apartment's heater a gas or electric heater?

im sure her blanket and space heater are what drove up the bill....

lay down the law ...

and wouldnt it be better if he wasnt on the lease...that way they cant gang up and force you out...you still have leverage...

you guys get in a fight ..he not on lease...guess who you can force to get the fvck out....
 

InterpolAgent

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Oh yeah, I forgot, before you confront her...TAKE CARE OF THE LEASE SITUATION!! I had a few friends that were screwed over because of crap like that.
 
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Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
is the apartment's heater a gas or electric heater?

im sure her blanket and space heater are what drove up the bill....

lay down the law ...

and wouldnt it be better if he wasnt on the lease...that way they cant gang up and force you out...you still have leverage...

you guys get in a fight ..he not on lease...guess who you can force to get the fvck out....

the heater is electric..

by nature i dont like to fight unless i am fighting for something.. i believe in Ahimsa, or non violence. I prefer to take things as it comes and deal with it unless i cant take it anymore.
However i hate being violent with fists.

I have a feeeling her electric blanket and space heater is the cause.. As for moving out an leverage, at this point if he is not on the lease, i got leverage. If i get forced out on something, or if i have to move out i will look for a studio which frankly might end up being more expensive but then i got what the things the way i want.
 

halik

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if her b/f is permanent, he best be paying for the utils and the stuff he uses.

And there would be no way I'd move out if someone else starts pull crap like that. Especially since hey boyfriend is living in an appt for 2 people
 

Queasy

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Tell your roommate to go to the bf's place. If he doesn't have a place of his own, make him pay rent and utilites. If he fails to pay rent and utility, kick him out. If roommate complains, kick her out and enjoy your Fortress of Solitude.
 

Black88GTA

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The space heater is almost certainly what put the bill up. Most of those use about 1500 watts. For comparison, my 27" CRT TV set uses 110w, DVD player uses 17w, VCR uses 18w..you get the picture. "Energy Star" doesn't mean $hit.

Sounds like a bad situation. You need to lay down the law and put that guy on the lease NOW, so he is legally obligated to pay rent and you don't get stuck footing the bill later. Good luck.
 

gutharius

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Originally posted by: Attrox
The bf doesn't have right to live there if his name is not on the lease.
You have 3 ppl living there now instead of 2 based on the agreement.

Staying 1 or 2 night there is okay, but living permanently? no way. Ask him to pay rent too or kick his a$$ out the door.

DITTO!
 

gutharius

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Originally posted by: Black88GTA
The space heater is almost certainly what put the bill up. Most of those use about 1500 watts. For comparison, my 27" CRT TV set uses 110w, DVD player uses 17w, VCR uses 18w..you get the picture. "Energy Star" doesn't mean $hit.

Sounds like a bad situation. You need to lay down the law and put that guy on the lease NOW, so he is legally obligated to pay rent and you don't get stuck footing the bill later. Good luck.

DITTO!
 

gutharius

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IF all else fails provide the apartment complex and your roomate 60 days notice or intent to move out and terminate lease. It may be 90 days notice, check your lease. That will either raise her eyebrows and cause some reform or you will be onto a better life without this drama in it.
 

iversonyin

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i suggest you lay out a written contract as to rent and utilities payment and make them sign it....this is to protect you in the future (since her bf officially move in. everything should split 3 ways and also put in the term of what would happen when the bf move out-splittin the bill 1/2 again etc..)

also lay down some house rules to make yourself more comfortable-(no making out/sex in living room/kitchen..etc...)

third,make friend with the bf. why? you have to live with him, mind as well be friend with him

and last, take advantage of her when bf is not around.

if you can't stand it, move out and find a new roomate (it will be jus as much hassel as u r having now)

gettin urself a gf will also help out ur situation





 

Stark

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you need to get the bf on the lease then tell them you're only paying 1/3 of the rent+utilities.
 
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UPDATE

So they come in and they bring the new bill for this month.. and now they want it even cooler... because the bill is 67..

I hate this bitch and her bf.. i mean i rather stay warm. i told them.. and frankly they dont want to.. she has her reasons.. she goes my aunts bill is lesser than that.. and she says she doesnt use the space blanket.. even so i dont uderstand how it can be that high.. even with it off 10 days..

I said 69 is fine.. its still below.. and they bring up the cost of the bill and lack of money!!!!!!

 

Nebor

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Alright, so let me get this straight:
1) You think it's too cold
2) They think it's too cold
3) Heat is too expensive
4) You don't like them

The solution seems simple. Set the apartment on fire while they sleep. It takes care of all the above problems.
 

b0mbrman

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Well, that part's easy as it's just facts you're discussing. Call the electric company and have them break it down to her how her space heater is driving up the costs and not the thermostat
 

iversonyin

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get urself one of those energy saving space blanket and a small heater to hide in ur room

burn woods/coals in living room while they are there to stay warm
 

eakers

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a space heater will just make your electric bill go through the roof so i am not sure if that is an option.