Am I nitpicking too much or is your roommate like this...

[The Stigenator]

my female roommate has her bf over (he moved in), ofcourse whole place changes over night (when im not around).. all the closet space is taken up..

oh yeah they wanted me to move my bicycle to the outside patio (where his broken down trek is).. but i ride my bicycle, its too much of a hassle for me to move it in and out of the patio.. so its still sitting there by the door.

In december we had a HUGE electricity bill, 77 bucks.. and the girl immediately goes we are turning down the heater.. okay it was set at 76, and it wasnt my fault, she had it at 76 not me. I had it at 70.. That time her bf wasnt even living with us. Now he is..

today im feeling really cold, im stuck in my room (they keep doing all romatnic stuff in the hall - i kinda feel out of place) i did go out and check the thermostat.. its 58.. I had it at 68 since i got here..

Just because she has her own personal heater (her bf) and oh yeah a heating blanket doesnt mean she has to keep others in misery.. Should i just raise it to 70.

I really dont see the thing taking any more energy running at 70, on and off cycles than it does at 68.. but 58 is too cold..

I am beginning to hate this roomie, she was nice initially but she has totally changed since her bf has come over.. we used to share things and do things together.. she told me her bf is jealous and insecure and possessive, but she has totally changed.. i hate this.. i feel i have no space in my own apt.. if i want to watch tv, i cant, they are up there in the hall necking and doing stuff and watching their movies..
and oh yeah im paying for cable (okay the tv's hers) - should i just get a tv for my already small room???

I know im going to thru some hard times right now, but i am willing to raise the temp a bit to stay warm.. or pay a little more for the electricity.. just because she goes "im poor".. doesnt mean i got to suffer right!!!!


edit: Talking to her doesnt help, she isnt even around to talk.. and more so she kinda gets "adamant" that its her apt.. yes she signed the lease first, but so did i.. later.. and as far as i know, her bf is not on the lease.. i wanted himt o be on the lease officially.


UPDATE

So they come in and they bring the new bill for this month.. and now they want it even cooler... because the bill is 67..

I hate this bitch and her bf.. i mean i rather stay warm. i told them.. and frankly they dont want to.. she has her reasons.. she goes my aunts bill is lesser than that.. and she says she doesnt use the space blanket.. even so i dont uderstand how it can be that high.. even with it off 10 days..

I said 69 is fine.. its still below.. and they bring up the cost of the bill and lack of money!!!!!!

 

[KLin]

1. Move out
2. ...
3. PROFIT

 

$77 is a huge electric bill?

 

[Cattlegod]

sounds like you might be jealous of him

 

[laurenlex]

1. Bed the roommate.
2. Boyfriend and you fight.
3 ...
4. Profit

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

why was the electricity bill so high? just from heating? find a nice temperature like 65 or something in the middle and move on with life

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

Originally posted by: Cattlegod
sounds like you might be jealous of him

I didn't want to say that, but you might be right...

 

[Heisenberg]

Reason #1,351 why I live alone.

 

[TheNinja]

That kind of sucks for you. I don't want to be mean, but it sounds like they might be trying to get rid of you, but don't let them push you out. You should kick her out (and her bf) if you can. BTW, whose names are on the renting/lease agreement? That may come in handy if f they start pulling a 2 vs 1 against you. IF the new bf name isn't on the lease, he's not supposed to live there.

 

[The Stigenator]

Originally posted by: AgaBoogaBoo

Originally posted by: Cattlegod
sounds like you might be jealous of him

I didn't want to say that, but you might be right...

frankly i have no reason to be jealous of him. I dont like her, i dont want to be with her. She might have cute red hair, but she isnt my kind of a girl.

 

[seanws]

first off, man up and talk to her about it.

second, is she stupid? does she think by turning the heat down and then using a heating blanket and portable room heater (which are huge elecetricity wasters) she will save money? tell her to get a clue.

and find a new roommate

 

[isekii]

why did you let the guy move in ?

the electric blanket and personal heater probably uses more electricty than the apartment heater.

 

[ElFenix]

fvck her mom!

 

[ChefJoe]

Originally posted by: SampSon
$77 is a huge electric bill?

I'm laughing The City of Seattle utilities bill for the past 2 months was $206 after they "corrected" their estimated previous bill by $20 and doubled their rates for the winter.

Just ask for some time to talk to them both. They're a couple and they'll sooner gang up on the other roommate than admit fault. Bring up what's really important to you, throw some extra money at the problem if you need to (put down a $10 bill extra if you can raise the heat), and go on living life... find a space heater.

 

[TranceNation]

Get revenge and a feeling of satisfaction by posting pics of the girl roommate, preferably in nice poses

 

[cheapgoose]

move out. I'm not saying this to be a dick, but it seems the best thing to do before things really go down the toilet. from your post, it doesn't sound like the kind of person you can work out a deal with, especially with the bf in the picture. save yourself some stress, find another place.

 

[The Stigenator]

Originally posted by: isekii
why did you let the guy move in ?

the electric blanket and personal heater probably uses more electricty than the apartment heater.

its her bf.. he moved in cause he is going to the same school starting spring sem.. her thing rather than have him have a seperate apt where they woudl spend nights at eachothers place, have him over.. and split the rent.. so okay the rent does drop. I now go down to 360 something..

I told her her electric blanket and the space heater suck up juice and she goes "i got them with teh energy star label and they are the most effecient ones out there"..

i tried telling her it doesnt still mean it doesnt take electricity.. i sorta feel evil and make her show that this month's bill is going to be high or next month whatever
december will be kinda weird, since we werent there, but jan will definatley be high with her electric blanket being on..

edit: i was okay before, cause he would come visit, he lived last sem in sonoma county.. now he is here.. he isnt a bad guy from out there..but they keep to themselves.

 

[b0mbrman]

What would happen if you threatened to move out? Could she afford the place on her own/easily find a replacement?

I'm not suggesting you do it...just wondering what leverage you might find...

Of course, the first thing I'd suggest would be to talk about it with her (2 of my roommates in college were female), but failing that, you should just take the space that's half yours'...i.e. watch TV in the living room when they're there "necking"...they've got to get self-conscious eventually

 

[Doggiedog]

Originally posted by: SampSon
$77 is a huge electric bill?

Seriously. I had a $500 bill once last winter.

 

[Phoenix86]

Show her the energy *rating* for the heater and blanket. Energy Star just mean it's better for the average. Well if the average is uber high, the low end is still high.

 

[The Stigenator]

Originally posted by: SampSon
$77 is a huge electric bill?

i dont think its huge.. but the previous bills were about 45.. so she goes "it jumped"..

Frankly i am tired of living with ppl who cant afford to pay for things.. and bring the cost of things down.. I offered to pay 2/3'rds of it. but she wanted to turn it down.

Why do you think im paying for cable (45) because she didnt want the cable tv.. she uses the interenet.. okay she does watch tv, but usually CSI and stuff.. nothing like history channel and TLC that i watch.

 

[InterpolAgent]

All of you sit down and set some guidelines and compromise. If you're going to have roommates, communication is key. Otherwise, do what I did to a roommate I was living with....kick 'em to the curb.

 

[Attrox]

Jerry/George: I believe the term is "menage' a trois" (sp?)

 

[slycat]

bf moved in as in FULL TIME?...like living there for good? hell he better pay for shits or i call landlord...tell her u'll not take it anymore....doesn't wanna listen, adamant?...call landlord. get him thrown the fvk out.

 

[bamacre]

Yeah, it sounds like you may be a little jealous, but hey, who wouldn't be in this situation?

You have a few options....
(I assume rent and bills are mostly split down the middle)

Lay down the rules
Her boyfriend should not be allowed to store his stuff at the house, unless it's in her room.
No sex outside her room. Especially not the bathroom (at least b'c your toothbrush resides is in there).
Temperature should be maintained at 68 to 70 degrees.


Get a girlfriend of your own
Even if just temporary. Sleazy is better. Allow her to do crap that her boyfriend does, store things, make love in hallways, etc. You win either way here. If she hates this, then it forces her to keep her boyfriend out of your way. If she likes this, the less hallways you have, the more likely you'll end up telling us about your experience in a foursome.


Talk to her about how you feel, be honest with her.
If she is cool, she'll help and be more considerate towards your feelings. If she's a fvking loser biootch whore, and laughs at your face, then you kill her in God's name. Ok, I take that back. Just move out.


Good luck. :beer::beer: