am i missing something?

[toph99]

my girlfriend(online) said she was going to go for a few days, so i figured that meant one or two days. six days later, she comes on aim for a short talk(very). she had sent about 3 emails just saying hi and usual stuff like that while she was doing whatever she was doing. so today when i asked her why she left, she just said she had to sort some things out. i asked her what she had to sort out and got one of those half-assed 'everything' answers, and that was basically the end of the convo. does she owe me an explanation? i sure would like one... :|

btw, sorry for bringing this here but no one else is online

 

[bigbootydaddy]

if she hasnt told you by now there probobly is a reason, have some faith in her and wait it out.

 

[toph99]

i figured i'd wait a while, but lately i've been getting those vague and useless answers a lot more, and it's very frustrating. thanks for the reply though

 

[Harvey]

<< am i missing something? >>

Were you aiming at anything?

She sounds like she has some things to work out for herself that she doesn't want to talk about until she's ready. She'll tell you when she is. If she doesn't say anything for a year, or two, she'll have said all she has to say.

If you care a lot about her, it isn't easy to go through, but you have to let her do it. Good luck coming out where you want this to end up.

 

[Russ]

<< she just said she had to sort some things out....got one of those half-assed 'everything' answers >>



toph99,

I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but the above is Female-Speak for it's over. Can you think of any recent events or conversations that may have sparked a negative change in the relationship?

Russ, NCNE

 

[Optimus]

Ummmm, you might not want an explanation... (I don't mean anything nasty, but it could be a mess) but really you just need to give her time. She probably has a bunch of stuff on her mind and needs to think and make decisions. Maybe just let her know that you are there if she needs to talk, and see what happens. Not a whole lot you can do other than that, and she may take a lot of emails or attempts to contact her, the wrong way (like pestering or something).

Its rough - hang in there...


Hope things work out OK.

 

[toph99]

<< the above is Female-Speak for it's over. >>



nothing i can think of. this relationship has been going for 8 months now, and there was/has been a bit of arguments over her use of drugs(i don't feel like getting into a debate on this, and no she isn't some druggie) but that was well over a month ago. she's a cryptic person which is one of the things i both love and despise about her personality.

and thanks for your support guys, i appreciate it