am I missing something here

[Codewiz]

Originally posted by: takeru

Originally posted by: Codewiz

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: rasczak

that's utter bullshit. most parents are not trained in dealing with autism. that's not bad parenting, most parents could use a class or two in dealing with autism, but it does not make them bad parents at all. most of the parents who's children i worked with had a good head on their shoulders, but just did not know how to cope with the disorder. the kind of child your using as an example is just a bad seed who needs their ass whupped.

Then why all the what seems to be a popularity contest with parents these days to see whose kid is more autistic than the other? Kid acts up parents go "oh, he must be autistic." I won't discredit it as a true disease but I'd still say the majority that are even diagnosed are a product of bad parenting and not a real disorder.

Parents like to be attention whores and by saying their kid is autistic or paying a doctor to diagnose them as such "here doc, I think he's autistic" they get to have their attention and at the same time absolve themselves of any kind of blame or responsibility for raising a brat. Have you ever seen a bunch of parents gather around and one of the mothers goes "oh, my jimmy is autistic, please forgive him." The all the other mothers hen around and "aww, are you getting treatment? My timmy is autistic too" Then they all talk about whose kid is more autistic than the other and how difficult it is.

It's getting WAY out of hand and it's the new illness to cover up what is essentially a lack of discipline.

You do know that autism isn't a yes or no disease. There are levels of it. And what parents wants their kid to be autistic? None.....

Here is the problem. Once a parent starts to realize that some of the behavior isn't normal, they want to create some normalcy. In this case, the mother didn't want the kid to scream. So she let the kid have her way and there was no screaming. That worked for a while but is not maintainable.

Autism is for real and I think it is pretty sad you pretty much just dismiss it.

i don't think he was saying autism isn't real, but more that its used as an excuse some times in place of better parental judgement. the girl in the video just seems to have possibly minor autism. but screaming fits can be associated to really spoiled children as well. in the case of that video, the parents let her do whatever she pleased. my parents would have kicked her ass for any of that. literally.

Normal children do not act out in the way she acts. Would rules have helped her from the start? Yes. But when you have a little child that isn't acting normal and shrieks over the smallest things, I imagine it is tough.

Every child acts out. And parents have to set boundaries but things like dragging luggage outside every night is not normal. Lack of rules does not cause that type of obsession.

Also if the parents were so shitty, I am pretty sure the other two kids would have been problem children. Especially considering the problem child was a middle child. You don't go from being a competent parent to a moron back to a decent parent.

 

[TechBoyJK]

Originally posted by: Codewiz

Originally posted by: takeru

Originally posted by: Codewiz

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: rasczak

that's utter bullshit. most parents are not trained in dealing with autism. that's not bad parenting, most parents could use a class or two in dealing with autism, but it does not make them bad parents at all. most of the parents who's children i worked with had a good head on their shoulders, but just did not know how to cope with the disorder. the kind of child your using as an example is just a bad seed who needs their ass whupped.

Then why all the what seems to be a popularity contest with parents these days to see whose kid is more autistic than the other? Kid acts up parents go "oh, he must be autistic." I won't discredit it as a true disease but I'd still say the majority that are even diagnosed are a product of bad parenting and not a real disorder.

Parents like to be attention whores and by saying their kid is autistic or paying a doctor to diagnose them as such "here doc, I think he's autistic" they get to have their attention and at the same time absolve themselves of any kind of blame or responsibility for raising a brat. Have you ever seen a bunch of parents gather around and one of the mothers goes "oh, my jimmy is autistic, please forgive him." The all the other mothers hen around and "aww, are you getting treatment? My timmy is autistic too" Then they all talk about whose kid is more autistic than the other and how difficult it is.

It's getting WAY out of hand and it's the new illness to cover up what is essentially a lack of discipline.

You do know that autism isn't a yes or no disease. There are levels of it. And what parents wants their kid to be autistic? None.....

Here is the problem. Once a parent starts to realize that some of the behavior isn't normal, they want to create some normalcy. In this case, the mother didn't want the kid to scream. So she let the kid have her way and there was no screaming. That worked for a while but is not maintainable.

Autism is for real and I think it is pretty sad you pretty much just dismiss it.

i don't think he was saying autism isn't real, but more that its used as an excuse some times in place of better parental judgement. the girl in the video just seems to have possibly minor autism. but screaming fits can be associated to really spoiled children as well. in the case of that video, the parents let her do whatever she pleased. my parents would have kicked her ass for any of that. literally.

Normal children do not act out in the way she acts. Would rules have helped her from the start? Yes. But when you have a little child that isn't acting normal and shrieks over the smallest things, I imagine it is tough.

Every child acts out. And parents have to set boundaries but things like dragging luggage outside every night is not normal. Lack of rules does not cause that type of obsession.

Also if the parents were so shitty, I am pretty sure the other two kids would have been problem children. Especially considering the problem child was a middle child. You don't go from being a competent parent to a moron back to a decent parent.

You make a good point, but the way the article was written, made it sound like the parents were just stupid, and didn't understand the basics of parenting.