Am I being unreasonable????

[SilentZero]

Ok, well heres the deal. Last year my sister came to visit me here in hawaii for the first time in awhile. She came with her good friend because her friend payed for her ticket with extra freq. flyier miles.
Well, that trip was a disaster, mostly because of her friend. She is probably the most rude and obnoxious woman I have ever met, who chain smokes, pounds coffee by the pot, and eats more than ive ever seen! Within the first day of knowing her, she pissed me off till no end, and did it happily and without regret. Bottom line, I can't stand her, and told my sister then not to bring that girl back here.

Well, fast forward to today, my mother calls me up and tells me my sis is coming again in a few months, and her same friend is coming as well (as my wife and I are having our first baby in Sept.). I told my mother in a few words, NO WAY! Even though they are staying at a hotel this time, I do not want to see, hear, or want her friend around me, or my family. I told my mother Id pay for my sisters ticket so she can come alone, or with someone else, but now they are all pissed off and my sis probably won't come at all. Am I being unreasonable????

 

[Aves]

I wouldn't say that you're unreasonable but if they're staying in a hotel this time it might be worth it to put up the woman to see your sister.

 

[Ness]

No. You aren't. You stated she was not welcome in your house, you don't want to see her again, you have very good reasons, and you've offered a very good alternative.


I would tell her that it's a free country and she can come if she wants, but as long as the other girl is around, you will not be.

 

[Ausm]

Tell them they can visit but get a hotel room.


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[Heisenberg]

I don't think you can prevent the friend from coming, but you certainly don't have to have her in your house while she's there. Your house, your rules.

 

[fredtam]

Pics of the friend to help decide? I don't think your being unreasonable if she wants to drop by without the friend she can right?

 

[StageLeft]

Of course not. Your baby and you don't want this bitch of a woman coming. I'd tell your sister that this friend is such a sow and waste of space that she'll significantly deter from the experience for everybody involved, and that if she cares about you (if she starts whining), then she would not take this bitchy whore along.

I don't think your being unreasonable if she wants to drop by without the friend she can right?

Based upon his description probably looks very nasty.

 

[HappyPuppy]

I almost said something that would have gotten me a one way ticket to Gitmo.

 

[SilentZero]

The hotel thing is nice, yes, but I KNOW, when they get here, my sister is not going to leave her friend at the hotel room or at waikiki half the trip so she can come and visit us. Her friend will be tagging along no matter what they say now. As a matter of fact, im sure her friend would insist on it, as she has no respect for anyone else or their wishes. So even though they will be at a hotel, I highly doubt it will make much difference.

 

[SilentZero]

Originally posted by: fredtam
Pics of the friend to help decide? I don't think your being unreasonable if she wants to drop by without the friend she can right?

I didn't want to insult my camera by taking her picture. Just picture a 400lb redhead, pale as a albino, and with a cigarette in her mouth about 10 hours of the day!

 

[Wuffsunie]

Damn, sorry to hear that. Hope it does not cause too much of a problem with your family, but it is your house and you have ever right to say who can and who can't visit. It'll probably cause some problems with the rest of your family (mother and sister likely quite upset at you) but hopefully nothing you can't work out later.

 

[mpitts]

I would flat-out tell her friend not to come to my home and that you don't want to see her AT ALL.

 

[randomlinh]

well.. if she's definately coming, do whatever you can to say she is not welcome in the house at all. the only problem with this is... that may backfire and she might take it out on you and .. well, become more of a pain you could even imagine... ppl are crazy these days.

 

[raptor13]

Why is your sister friends with that beast?

 

[TitanDiddly]

Probably being reasonable. Get a restraining order on the bad chick.

 

[sonambulo]

just let her come to the yard part of your house

 

[Zeeky Boogy Doog]

definetly not unreasonable, id kick her out too, definetly dont let the chain smoking b!tch around your baby, or pregnant wife, which ever it is, keep her out, if your sister wont come without her, then tell her not to come, you offered a good alternative, let them b!tch about it, not your concern anymore if they dont like it, your house your rules

 

[PoPPeR]

do what I do. Tell your sister her friends a loser and that she should stop hanging out with her

 

[Excelsior]

Originally posted by: Ness
No. You aren't. You stated she was not welcome in your house, you don't want to see her again, you have very good reasons, and you've offered a very good alternative.


I would tell her that it's a free country and she can come if she wants, but as long as the other girl is around, you will not be.