Am I being insensitive when I don't want to hang around my girlfriend's lesbian friends?

[cedman]

Now I want to state for the record, I have absolutely nothing against gay or lesbian people, so please let's not start bashing people now. My girlfriend has this friend that happens to be a lesbian, who just recently broke up with her girlfriend of three years. So to cheer her up, my gf started to asked her to hand out with us. We would go out to movies and have dinner at her house, which is perfectly cool with me. Just recently, within the last month she has found herself new girlfriend and according to my gf she is supposedly the one she has been looking for all her life. So now that she has found someone I thought she would leave us alone and spend all her time with her new love. Instead, my gf's friend wants to start doing couple things with us. You know, going out to dinner, catching movies and even planning vacation trips with us. Now I wouldn't mind so much but when we go out with them, they're constantly pushing their lifestyle on me. All they talk about are gay issues n stuff. Man!!! I can't relate anything they say or do so I just sit there and listen and nod my head alot. Now this weekend they want to go jet skiing so they invited us to come along. I told my gf that I didn't want to go cuz first of all I don't swim very well and two I have absolutely nothing in common with them. Now my gf says that I'm not sensitive and that I don't want to hang out with them cuz they are gay.

All right guys or ladies. Am I being an insensitive?

 

[rgwalt]

Pics?

Do they let you watch?

*Yes, I'm an ass*

Seriously though, I don't think you are being insensitive. Have you told your GF what you have told us?

Ryan

 

[cedman]

Pics?....trust me on this one, you don't want to see them :Q. And no I haven't told my gf yet. I just wanted to get an opinion first.

 

[weezergirl]

that reminds me of the show friends where ross's wife kept wanting to hang out with her "lady friend" and we know how that turned out...

hehe jk

i think it's cool to do couple things with your friends once in awhile..but maybe instead of going the route of telling her u don't want to do that stuff cuz u have nothing in common with her lesbian friends just tell her u want some alone time together and start taking the initiative of planning the events u guys do together so it will leave less time to spend with her friends.

 

[Dangermouse33]

I don't think you're being insensitive at all. Spend too much time with the same people and that could get annoying. Especially if these same people keep on talking about the same things over and over. The fact that they are annoying could be simply because they don't stop talking about the same things - and they fact that there are gay so they talk about gay issues all the time just happens to be something they like to talk about.

 

[weezergirl]

what exactly are "gay issues" anyways?

and doesn't lesbian talk turn guys on or something?? hehe

 

[OS]

Don't you see the potential here??? What I would give for your problems

 

[rgwalt]

outersquare-

I agreed with you, but apparently they are "fugly", so that is a problem in an of itself.

Ryan

 

[gopunk]

judging from what you've said, this is no more insensitive than not wanting to hang out with anybody else... you just don't have common interests.

 

[OS]

<< I agreed with you, but apparently they are "fugly", so that is a problem in an of itself. >>



oh, that's too bad, hahahaha. I just read the title, skimmed the rest and started talking. Should have known that he would have already thought about it

 

[Aihyah]

hehe just tell your gf her friends are too ugly for you to fantasize about.

 

[Dangermouse33]

Like gay rights and stuff...


and hardcore lesbian sex jk

 

[flavio]

Tell your girlfriend that you wouldn't mind hanging out with them sometimes if they didn't always talk about gay issues. It's not going to work out probably if someone asks them to chill, but maybe you can get the frequency down if your gf understands where you're coming from.

 

[tcsenter]

You're only insensitive if you attempt to keep your girlfriend from hanging-out with them. If you don't want to hang-out with them, for whatever reason, that isn't insensitive - its exercising your prerogative.

 

[KevinH]

Dude, don't burn your bridges. Think about it this way, they may be ugly, but they're your link to a world of beautiful woman on woman loving. Stick around, they may have fine ass friends who are kinky and would let you watch...

I'm just saying don't think with your head, think with your penis. What kind of a man are you?



Kev

 

[Omegachi]

you should tell your gf what you told us.... telling her your perspective will let her know why you are being "insenitive"....

well anyways....don't you like walking around with 3 women? haha....pimpin

 

[kduncan5]

I think if I had to sit around and listen to gay talk/"issues" all day/night, I'd end up running screaming from the room. I've had gay friends in the past, but they've always respected the fact that I was straight/hetero. There were jokes every now and then, but I was never drawn into a serious discussion about gays or gay issues. I think if I was I'd have to leave the room within a very short period of time.:Q

I'd have a talk with your GF, just tell her you're not insensitive or unsympathetic to gays, their rights , or their lives, but your uncomfortable discussing gay "issues" the whole time you're together. Tell her you don't mind their company, but there's a whole world of topics to discuss. Does it ALWAYS have to be about "gay issues"? -kd5-

 

[Jfur]

tell her you want to spend more time with her alone, and then arrange to do occassional things with other couples (e.g. the lesbians)

 

[Muadib]

Just tell her what you told us, and tell her that you don't care if she wants to hang with them, but to count you out. Where is it written that you have to like all of her friends anyway? I don't care for 75% of my girl's friends, and she doesn't expect me to hangout with them.

 

[Ronstang]

<< Dude, don't burn your bridges. Think about it this way, they may be ugly, but they're your link to a world of beautiful woman on woman loving. Stick around, they may have fine ass friends who are kinky and would let you watch... >>



This guy is a classic.......but he makes a good point!

 

[kami]

You aren't being insensitive.



<< Now my gf says that I'm not sensitive and that I don't want to hang out with them cuz they are gay.
>>


She's the one who doesn't give a crap about what you feel...I think you've put up with a lot, it's time to make some compromises.

 

[metallibloke]

If anything, its your gf thats being insensitive, towards you. She seems more bothered about doing stuff with her friends and dragging you along rather than taking your interests and what you want to do (which should really be more important IMO) into consideration.

Tell her exactly what you told us.

 

[FettsBabe]

Nope, you are not insensitive.

 

[Emulex]

tell the lesbian you want a 3-some, that will run her off.

 

[StageLeft]

Insensitive? No. Stupid? Yes.

Heck, do you know how many guys would kill to be in your position now?

Pics?....trust me on this one, you don't want to see them

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