Am I being horrible and selfish ?

[Crucial]

I thought Christmas was nothing but a pagan holiday taken over by Christians so they could convert those said pagans?

By naming it Xmas it must mean so much to you.

 

[QurazyQuisp]

Isn't it your legal right to take religious holidays off? And take sundays off if it had to do with your religion? Tell him to say that. I'm almost absolutely sure it's your right to take a holiday off with out being fired.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: Crucial
By naming it Xmas it must mean so much to you.

:roll:
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[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: Crucial
I thought Christmas was nothing but a pagan holiday taken over by Christians so they could convert those said pagans?

By naming it Xmas it must mean so much to you.

Yeah it means a day off to be with friends and family.

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: mugs

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
It's really a question of how much xmas means to you... I'm sure it means a lot more for those 5 kids to be with their daddy on xmas to open presents.
I wouldn't say you are being horrible or selfish but you should be the bigger person and let the man spend the precious little years with his kids that xmas actually excites them.

I agree.

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: rh71

Originally posted by: mugs

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
It's really a question of how much xmas means to you... I'm sure it means a lot more for those 5 kids to be with their daddy on xmas to open presents.
I wouldn't say you are being horrible or selfish but you should be the bigger person and let the man spend the precious little years with his kids that xmas actually excites them.

I agree.

Yep.

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

Can you think of any other character from any Christmas story who stuck it to the little guy at the shop who had several young children? Dang....what's that guy's name again?

 

[Aharami]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
WWJD?

I think the answer to that one is quite obvious.

I worked Thanksgiving day, black friday, then the following sat,sun and monday, he didn't have to.

in that case, enjoy your day off. its his turn. you cant keep on giving up all your holidays just because he has 5 kids

 

[PimpJuice]

1. Do you like the guy?

2. Is he a nice guy who will appreciate the time he would get to spend with his kids?

3. How guilty would you feel?

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor
Can you think of any other character from any Christmas story who stuck it to the little guy at the shop who had several young children? Dang....what's that guy's name again?

Yeah right, she's worked the last two Christmases.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I work in a union shop, this would normally be my year to work Xmas but we've got a couple of new hires and I've finally climbed the senority ladder.

I put in to have Xmas off, I figure it's my 1st Xmas with my new husband and it would be nice to not have to haul myself to work.

I find out that the new guy stuck working Xmas has 5 little kids, including a newborn who was just born a couple days after thanksgiving.

Am I being horrible and selfish here ?

If you have to ask....

Then again if you're going to resent it, you'll both be better off if you take it and enjoy yourself...

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I work in a union shop, this would normally be my year to work Xmas but we've got a couple of new hires and I've finally climbed the senority ladder.

I put in to have Xmas off, I figure it's my 1st Xmas with my new husband and it would be nice to not have to haul myself to work.

I find out that the new guy stuck working Xmas has 5 little kids, including a newborn who was just born a couple days after thanksgiving.

Am I being horrible and selfish here ?

If you have to ask....

Then again if you're going to resent it, you'll both be better off if you take it and enjoy yourself...

She also has a kid too.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I work in a union shop, this would normally be my year to work Xmas but we've got a couple of new hires and I've finally climbed the senority ladder.

I put in to have Xmas off, I figure it's my 1st Xmas with my new husband and it would be nice to not have to haul myself to work.

I find out that the new guy stuck working Xmas has 5 little kids, including a newborn who was just born a couple days after thanksgiving.

Am I being horrible and selfish here ?

If you have to ask....

Then again if you're going to resent it, you'll both be better off if you take it and enjoy yourself...

She also has a kid too.

IMHO, you can't quantify this type of thing.. It's not a math problem.
If it would increase joy do it, "yours/his" doesn't come into it. Do what's right. If resentment and guilt will turn what could be a positive chartiable act, into a negative one, don't do it.

 

[imported_electron]

Originally posted by: dabuddha

Originally posted by: rh71

Originally posted by: mugs

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
It's really a question of how much xmas means to you... I'm sure it means a lot more for those 5 kids to be with their daddy on xmas to open presents.
I wouldn't say you are being horrible or selfish but you should be the bigger person and let the man spend the precious little years with his kids that xmas actually excites them.

I agree.

Yep.

Another vote for you're a horrible wretched hellspawn. Those kids don't understand why daddy won't be home for xmas, but your husband does. Enjoy breaking several of the seven deadly sins on Christmas Day of all days. Feel free to scrutinize my posts from this point forward to find an excuse to ban me like any evil sick person would.

No I'm just kidding. The fact that you even thought of feeling guilty about it shows that at least you care somewhat. Not enough to do anything about it, but at least gave it a passing thought.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I work in a union shop, this would normally be my year to work Xmas but we've got a couple of new hires and I've finally climbed the senority ladder.

I put in to have Xmas off, I figure it's my 1st Xmas with my new husband and it would be nice to not have to haul myself to work.

I find out that the new guy stuck working Xmas has 5 little kids, including a newborn who was just born a couple days after thanksgiving.

Am I being horrible and selfish here ?

If you have to ask....

Then again if you're going to resent it, you'll both be better off if you take it and enjoy yourself...

She also has a kid too.

IMHO, you can't quantify this type of thing.. It's not a math problem.
If it would increase joy do it, "yours/his" doesn't come into it. Do what's right. If resentment and guilt will turn what could be a positive chartiable act, into a negative one, don't do it.

Hey check this out, next year the guy will have that Holiday off and his newborn will be cognizent enough to actually enjoy it with him.

 

[Sassy]

I?ve got the same set-up in my house as yours, kid, new husband and family visiting on Christmas day. You and I both work in the health field. I can understand why you are torn in making this decision.

That being said, I suggest you think back a little before you were married. Being in the health field, I?m sure you?ve worked on Christmas thereby leaving a child at home. When I work on Christmas, I celebrate with my son and family the day before. Does this father have that day off?

You know how anxious kids get waiting for that special day. It feels like an eternity to them. My son doesn?t complain opening his presents the day before. In his little mind, it?s one less day of waiting and torture for him.

Take the day off. That father needs to learn how to adjust, accommodate and keep his family happy, just as we have done, and continue to do, on ALL the holidays.

Good luck on your decision.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Well, it would certainly be a nice gesture to offer to work in his place. I wouldn't feel guilty about not doing it though. It's not like you didn't work hard and make sacrifices to get where you are.

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

You aren't obligated to do anything. You put in for the time. The Union bylaws are quite clear. He's the new guy. You have the new husband.

You've got every reason to not work that day......



.....and that's exactly why you should.


But, hey, at least you can feel good about yourself knowing that you thought about going way out of your way to do something very generous, very Christmas-like, for one young family on Christmas day.

But don't do it now. If you had done it without hesitation to start with you'd have had such a great feeling in your heart that whole day and weeks afterward knowing what you'd done for those kids and his still recooperating wife. Doing it because you feel guilty is pointless.

 

[Koing]

Sod him you have put your time in to the company/ your work. You take the day off and just enjoy it. Your being 'too nice' so get the notion of anything bad out of your head. You just kick back and relax :thumsup;

You can't be too nice to everybody. You will just burn out/ resent everybody in the long run.

Koing

 

[BigPoppa]

Didn't read the thread:

My mom is a nurse, so she usually worked every other big holiday: Work thanksgiving, xmas off, etc. So whenever she had to work christmas day, we'd just open presents on xmas eve. My dad, brother, sister, and I would then cook dinner on christmas day for when she got home. Worked out pretty well for us.

 

[Baked]

No. If you don't wanna work your ass off during Christmas stop having damn many babies. You've earned your time off.

 

[darkamulets]

He needs the hours you're helping.

 

[Geekbabe]

I put in for the day off but did kinda let it be known that I'd pick it up if push came to shove to give the guy a chance to ask for it off if he wanted to,(on a big holiday, he has to ask because he'd owe a favor for it) he didn't, so I'm off and I'm going to enjoy the day with my family 🙂

 

[Perknose]

GB, as someone else said, splitting the day with him might satisfy everyone . . . and I only say that because I sense YOU won't feel 100% cool not making the gesture.

I'd ask, "Why not accept what you've obviously earned?", but I'm fairly sure it's one of those gender gap things, where the "emotional truth" of the situation somehow trumps the "logical truth".

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Perknose
GB, as someone else said, splitting the day with him might satisfy everyone . . . and I only say that because I sense YOU won't feel 100% cool not making the gesture.

I'd ask, "Why not accept what you've obviously earned?", but I'm fairly sure it's one of those gender gap things, where the "emotional truth" of the situation somehow trumps the "logical truth".

Actually you're right Dave and for a change I've decided to just happily accept the thought that the fates dealt me a good schedule. I'm quite sure nobody else feels guilty while I'm working long stretches ior stuck for a double shift because it's snowing.