Teh Charcoal Guide V1.0
1) Throw away any lighter fluid or instant lighting briquettes you have. Make a solemn vow you will never use such infernal devices again. The WORST offended is these. I have never liked the flavor of diesel, and I would hope you would not. If you do, Micky D's offers the burger for j00!
Instead buy a flue type starter available everywhere these days. Tuck a loose ball of it under the bottom of the flue and pour some vegetable oil onto it. Don't soak it, maybe an ounce or so. The paper/oil burns longer, giving enough heat to get the coals burning hot faster. Put the lump charcoal or briquettes in and light the paper.
Briquettes or lump? That depends on what I am after. If I want to grill, I generally use lump. It starts of very very hot, but quickly dies down. That gives a nice sear to the meat, but cools down to manageable temps to finish the cooking. If I am slow cooking something I use briquettes because they burn lower and slower. If they don't have chemical additives, the taste will be fine.
I like hickory flavor for real BBQ most of the time. I find mesquite becomes bitter for long times, though for grilling it's OK.
I take the wood chips and soak them for about an hour or more before making the fire. I place them in a piece of aluminum foil and wrap them up and poke holes in the packet. I find that inhibits the combustion of the wood and makes more smoke.