Ah, the girlfriend doesnt seem to understand the concept of saving money

[shortylickens]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
Financial incompatibilities can destroy a marriage.

Never been married but I hear this all the time.
The two main causes of divorce are communication and money. And normally communication about money.

 

[Dacalo]

You should tread carefully. One of the hardest thing to do is cut back on a leisure life style you once had. It's great that your girlfriend is enjoying life, but I will bet that she will do that once she moves out as well. Talk to her and try to be a little more conservative on financial side.

Instead of blowing her money now with minimal expenses, she should be trying to save as much as she can. Do you realize how many bills you will be receiving when you own a house?

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
Financial incompatibilities can destroy a marriage.

I couldn't agree more. ditto on communication, and lack of it on money.

And the OP's gf... parents bought her a car... what else are they still paying for her?

 

[zachtos]

you're friggin nuts.
If I had a girl that made that much, I wouldn't care.
Discuss with her how you would break up finances if you moved in together or got married. She is allowed to enjoy her money for now, she worked hard to get where she is today, give her a break. She has lots of time left to be responsible.

 

[cyclistca]

Originally posted by: aswedc
I see no problem with living it up now. You're going to double your salary in a year or two right? Save some then. Besides, if she makes the money, it's her decision.

And this is the reason why so many North American have debt up the wazoo.

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: cyclistca

Originally posted by: aswedc
I see no problem with living it up now. You're going to double your salary in a year or two right? Save some then. Besides, if she makes the money, it's her decision.

And this is the reason why so many North American have debt up the wazoo.

Why is it that foreigners love to bash Americans every chance they get?

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: cyclistca

Originally posted by: aswedc
I see no problem with living it up now. You're going to double your salary in a year or two right? Save some then. Besides, if she makes the money, it's her decision.

And this is the reason why so many North American have debt up the wazoo.

Why is it that foreigners love to bash Americans every chance they get?

Well... cyclistca is a North American.

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: Mill

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: cyclistca

Originally posted by: aswedc
I see no problem with living it up now. You're going to double your salary in a year or two right? Save some then. Besides, if she makes the money, it's her decision.

And this is the reason why so many North American have debt up the wazoo.

Why is it that foreigners love to bash Americans every chance they get?

Well... cyclistca is a North American.

Techincally, you're right.

 

[Randum]

same situation with me, gf is a nurse, going to be making plenty wants to go out every weekend, im making same pay you are and i want to save money so i can survive....i dunno, its a catch 22...weve been dating 5 years...

 

[sdifox]

Saving is very hard to learn later in life, so if she doesn't know how to save by the time she is working at a real job, she's doomed.

 

[sdifox]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: cyclistca

Originally posted by: aswedc
I see no problem with living it up now. You're going to double your salary in a year or two right? Save some then. Besides, if she makes the money, it's her decision.

And this is the reason why so many North American have debt up the wazoo.

Why is it that foreigners love to bash Americans every chance they get?

North America > United States of America.

 

[Blazin Trav]

Originally posted by: cyclistca

Originally posted by: aswedc
I see no problem with living it up now. You're going to double your salary in a year or two right? Save some then. Besides, if she makes the money, it's her decision.

And this is the reason why so many North American have debt up the wazoo.

Grammar much?

Are you saying you don't have debt? Also i don't see what's so bad about it... you only live once, and eventually you die. So in the end, all you get is more stuff.

 

[bennylong]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Now, she's two years older than me. She has her BS and her Masters and she's a physical therpist making $50K+ per year. I have one semester left of undergrad before I get my BS in Accounting. Right now, Im an intern at a large corporation and Im paid $14 an hour.

Can you see where this is going?

Last night, we go out to dinner. This Friday, she wants to go out to dinner. Next week, she wants to book a reservation at a nice restaurant. This weekend, she wants to rent a hotel room for the night and dissapear for the weekend like a mini vacation. Two weeks from now, we're going to Chicago for 4 nights.

I just want to save some frickin money.

That's all.

Time to dump her dude! It never works when you date someone that doesn't understand the concept of money and think credit card is free money.

 

[bennylong]

Number 1 reason for divorce: arguing about money.

You're already off to a bad start. And it's not about how much either of you make, it's about how much you both spend and want to spend. If you aren't on the same pages, it's going to be a lot of fighting.

 

[Dacalo]

Originally posted by: bennylong

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Now, she's two years older than me. She has her BS and her Masters and she's a physical therpist making $50K+ per year. I have one semester left of undergrad before I get my BS in Accounting. Right now, Im an intern at a large corporation and Im paid $14 an hour.

Can you see where this is going?

Last night, we go out to dinner. This Friday, she wants to go out to dinner. Next week, she wants to book a reservation at a nice restaurant. This weekend, she wants to rent a hotel room for the night and dissapear for the weekend like a mini vacation. Two weeks from now, we're going to Chicago for 4 nights.

I just want to save some frickin money.

That's all.

Time to dump her dude! It never works when you date someone that doesn't understand the concept of money and think credit card is free money.

To be fair, he never said that his girlfriend is careless with her credit card.

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: Dacalo

Originally posted by: bennylong

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Now, she's two years older than me. She has her BS and her Masters and she's a physical therpist making $50K+ per year. I have one semester left of undergrad before I get my BS in Accounting. Right now, Im an intern at a large corporation and Im paid $14 an hour.

Can you see where this is going?

Last night, we go out to dinner. This Friday, she wants to go out to dinner. Next week, she wants to book a reservation at a nice restaurant. This weekend, she wants to rent a hotel room for the night and dissapear for the weekend like a mini vacation. Two weeks from now, we're going to Chicago for 4 nights.

I just want to save some frickin money.

That's all.

Time to dump her dude! It never works when you date someone that doesn't understand the concept of money and think credit card is free money.

To be fair, he never said that his girlfriend is careless with her credit card.

I never said it and she is in fact safe with her credit cards.

 

[Baked]

Dump your gf and get an Asian engineer. Accountant and engineer are perfect for each other, pair of frugal cheapasses.

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: Baked
Dump your gf and get an Asian engineer. Accountant and engineer are perfect for each other, pair of frugal cheapasses.

I already have an asian physical therapist

 

[Bryophyte]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
Financial incompatibilities can destroy a marriage.

Absolutely true. Do not marry someone knowing that he/she is careless with money and then complain about it later. You need to come to a solid agreement about how you two will be working toward financial goals and make sure that you both have common sense with regard to spending.

 

[Christobevii3]

1. Get married
2. Make her save money and spend all yours
3. Take half of hers in divoerce!

 

[DaWhim]

how well is her personal finance? is she spending above her means?

doesn't sound to me that she is disciplined on saving. talk to her about your concern. if she doesn't give a crap, you need to dump her.

 

[bennylong]

Originally posted by: Christobevii3
1. Get married
2. Make her save money and spend all yours
3. Take half of hers in divoerce!

Don't save in your 401k. Make sure she saves in her 401k, then divorce her for half of her 401k. Instant retirement saving plan

 

[spidey07]

Whatever you do this is not a girl you want to marry.

She's got "disaster" written all over her forehead.

Just think - not only will she be spending all her money, she'll be spending all of yours as well. Then you're in massive debt, then every conversation is about money, and then the inevitable divorce. Which brings even more debt and bankruptcy.

good luck with that one.

If she doesn't understand the concept of saving money now, she never will.

Just a guess. how many pairs of shoes does she have? 50? 70?

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: spidey07
Whatever you do this is not a girl you want to marry.

She's got "disaster" written all over her forehead.

Just think - not only will she be spending all her money, she'll be spending all of yours as well. Then you're in massive debt, then every conversation is about money, and then the inevitable divorce. Which brings even more debt and bankruptcy.

good luck with that one.

If she doesn't understand the concept of saving money now, she never will.

Just a guess. how many pairs of shoes does she have? 50? 70?

'tis true, many marriages end in divorce due to financial issues. It all starts with the $20k wedding that leaves you in debt from the get-go. You may be able to rein her in a bit, but if she doesn't slow down it could be very bad when she moves out and has to start paying for stuff herself. If her parents were smart they'd charge her rent, even if they give it all back to her when she moves out.

I got lucky with my wife - she hates spending money (except on photography equipment, which will eventually make us money), and I think she has less shoes than I have.