After College: Making New Friends

[blackdogdeek]

here's what i did to meet friends after college (ages in parens):

frequent a local pool hall. other players just started talking to me. (23)

join a bud light pool (bar tables) league. i met one of my best friends on my team. (25)

frequent a local rock climbing gym. once you learn to belay, people will randomly ask you for a belay. (27)

join a local gym. if you go regularly, you'll start to learn who the regulars are and that makes it easier to start conversations while on the treadmills next to other regulars. (28)

join a local taekwondo dojang. this was the best. i regularly hang out with the people i met here. (35)

 

[Stiganator]

Originally posted by: pyonir

Originally posted by: Stiganator
pyonir I think we need to hand out....and by we I mean said girls.....and you I guess.

LOL...wait...i thought you said you had a gf? And she reads these boards? I'm quoting you for future YAGT hilarity. 😛

Oh I do. I was teasing her. But I see nothing wrong with having galfriends as well as guyfriends. In college I had many more galfriends than guyfriends in fact.

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: Stiganator
I am facing a dilemma of sorts. I just recently graduated from college and a number of my friends moved to other places. The rest of them all have very work intensive engineering jobs and don't time to hang out anymore. I find myself wanting to do things, but I have no one to do them with (no offense honey 🙂 ) It seems like all my friends are just gone. I am a pretty personable person, I had lots of friends, but I always met them at school or at work. Considering I don't have either of those right now, I don't really have a way to make new friends. Where do you guys make new friends? It seems like it would be creepy to go up to guys at a bar or what have you. Anyone in the Minneapolis area want a new friend? 🙂

EDIT: I'm from the northern burbs (Champlin).

I'm only 22 I don't intend to get married for a loooong time. I just know my gf reads my posts since she is a member, in fact she commented on it as if I had just asked her face to face.

Sounds like me a year ago, except I was more confused.

I moved to Boston and joined okcupid. Fixed it.

 

[bignateyk]

Originally posted by: Ronstang
The best way to make friends, even in college, is through common interests. I have met most of my friends through the car hobby. When you go to events that gather people of common interests you automatically have one thing in common to get a conversation started and through talking to people it does not take long to start making friends. The nice thing making friends this way is you always have stuff to do together that keeps the relationship growing.

A bar is the worst place to make friends. Any adult who is out of college and hanging out in bars is pathetic. It is one thing to go to a bar with a group for an evening but something completely different and sad to just go to the bar hoping to meet someone to talk to.

I disagree. I travel all the time for work, and I usually relax in the hotel/local bars at night for a few drinks. There are tons of interesting people to talk to. I've talked to cab drivers, plumbers, NFL ref's, pilots, business execs... pretty much anyone.

Although, I do agree that it isnt the best place to be looking for long term friends. Find some activities you enjoy and seek out people who share that interest. If you are just looking for some conversation though, bars are great places to find it.

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: WombRaider

Originally posted by: mooglemania85

Originally posted by: WombRaider

Originally posted by: Stiganator
I'm not married. And won't be for a long time.

I'm from the northern burbs (Champlin).

ViVitheMage is from minneapolis isn't he?

I'm from Blaine/my excellent compatriot Rapids. Want to meet? I'm 19/F cute blonde btw.

Pics. Or. Shens.

Actually who cares that this is shens. I'm just looking forward to whatever cute blonde pics of 19 year old females (human) you can find.

Fantastic_four_jalba.jpg

right-click > save...

GAH, IT DOESN'T WORK!

 

[IceBergSLiM]

why is it creepy to socialize with people out at a bar. Thats why people goto bars.

if you can't get over this hurdle get a partime gig at a bar/club so you have a reason to be there and be social bouncer, bartender, bar back, dj, or promoter. you will know everyone in a very short time.

 

[TheTony]

Originally posted by: Stiganator
Where'd you go the 58 Grill?

Is the 58 grill affiliate with the 5-8 Club in S. Mpls?

Juicy Lucy :thumbsup:

 

[Stiganator]

Yes it is

 

[iroast]

Originally posted by: Stiganator
I have been trying to join a ninjitsu dojo, but I've emailed them 3 times and still haven't gotten a response, I'm beginning to think they went out of business and the website is still up.

Go in person?

 

[tw1164]

Originally posted by: iroast

Originally posted by: Stiganator
I have been trying to join a ninjitsu dojo, but I've emailed them 3 times and still haven't gotten a response, I'm beginning to think they went out of business and the website is still up.

Go in person?

I doubt he'd be able to see anyone there, you know because of their mad ninja skills.

 

[Indolent]

Originally posted by: Stiganator
I am facing a dilemma of sorts. I just recently graduated from college and a number of my friends moved to other places. The rest of them all have very work intensive engineering jobs and don't time to hang out anymore. I find myself wanting to do things, but I have no one to do them with (no offense honey 🙂 ) It seems like all my friends are just gone. I am a pretty personable person, I had lots of friends, but I always met them at school or at work. Considering I don't have either of those right now, I don't really have a way to make new friends. Where do you guys make new friends? It seems like it would be creepy to go up to guys at a bar or what have you. Anyone in the Minneapolis area want a new friend? 🙂

EDIT: I'm from the northern burbs (Champlin).

I'm only 22 I don't intend to get married for a loooong time. I just know my gf reads my posts since she is a member, in fact she commented on it as if I had just asked her face to face.

My girlfriend and I are fairly new to the area (both 23). Living in Fridley now, but are in the process of buying a house and moving to my excellent compatriot Rapids in two weeks. I could be up for doing something but I have one of those 40 hour a week engineering jobs you were talking about so so weekdays and going out late on weekday nights is pretty much out of the question.

 

[Mermaidman]

Church. Jesus is your buddy.

 

[Fingolfin269]

Originally posted by: bignateyk

Originally posted by: Ronstang
The best way to make friends, even in college, is through common interests. I have met most of my friends through the car hobby. When you go to events that gather people of common interests you automatically have one thing in common to get a conversation started and through talking to people it does not take long to start making friends. The nice thing making friends this way is you always have stuff to do together that keeps the relationship growing.

A bar is the worst place to make friends. Any adult who is out of college and hanging out in bars is pathetic. It is one thing to go to a bar with a group for an evening but something completely different and sad to just go to the bar hoping to meet someone to talk to.

I disagree. I travel all the time for work, and I usually relax in the hotel/local bars at night for a few drinks. There are tons of interesting people to talk to. I've talked to cab drivers, plumbers, NFL ref's, pilots, business execs... pretty much anyone.

Although, I do agree that it isnt the best place to be looking for long term friends. Find some activities you enjoy and seek out people who share that interest. If you are just looking for some conversation though, bars are great places to find it.

QFT. You'd be surprised who you meet in those places.

 

[skim milk]

church and after work happy hours
and/or go to grad school
that's what I plan to do
*fingers crossed*