Advice on "afterplay"

[GL]

I got the point of the post. It's awkward. What usually would happen is I'd take a shower with my ex and then we'd just get dressed (and afterwards get a bite to eat...all that action can make you hungry!). You kind of feel...utilitarian I suppose would be a good word.

Oh and if you didn't get the point of my post I suggest taking a shower with your partner...it gives you a chance to cuddle with them a bit more and get nice and clean

-GL

 

[ElFenix]

ummm... yeah... like... ummm... i dunno. sleep?

 

[JimmyEatWorld]

I still think my idea works like a charm and a half.

 

[Isla]

Well, the Mr and I have been married for almost 9 years and there isn't much awkwardness... not sure that there ever was...

We go wash up together 'cause relations is messy, but that's about it.

What's REALLY awkward is doing it during the daytime when the kids are still up, and having to tell them something dumb like, "Don't bug us, we are taking a nap"

Yeah, right....

 

[PlunX]

Take a shower and have fun.

 

[MrAnderson]

All I feel is pure satisfaction...I only get it once every couple months so you learn to love the things that are rare

 

[freebee]

I suggest a communal post on Anandtech. Either during the act, or slighlty afterward.

 

[luv2chill]

LOL!!

l2c

 

[ATLien247]

Usually, my wife and I both race to the bathroom to clean up, because, man, it sure does suck sleeping in the wet spot.

Sometimes I'm so exhausted that I can't even move afterwords. It's such a feeling of content, almost peaceful even. Snuggling usually follows, but sometimes I just fall asleep.

 

[divinemartyr]

Cuddling, sleeping, etc all work very well. If either of you are pressed for time, more than likely you'll know before sex and the other person will understand without any ackwardness.

dm

 

[Windogg]

Find the handcuff keys.

 

[Rent]

Damn Windogg, you like it like that?



<< Find the handcuff keys. >>



I would add to original topic if I could. Living with the folks kinda puts a crimp in my style

 

[Tauren]

It sounds like you are feeling guilt, perhaps because subconciously you are feeling like you have used one another. Once you are more comfortable with each other, the level of imtimacy will increase and feelings like those you are experiencing will go away.

 

[GTaudiophile]

I think women just prefer to cuddle at that point, and use the time to ask questions like, &quot;Why do you love me?&quot; and &quot;If I died, what would you do?&quot; and &quot;Where will our relationship be in 5 years?&quot; and &quot;If we were to break up, would we still be friends?&quot;

Why do people feel guilty after sex? I can't speak for everyone, but for me, I think that guilt is really just the emotional manifestation of Jesus' disappointment in me.

 

[vi edit]

For starters Tauren took my post!

I don't think you are mentally prepared to have sex with this person. If you feel that way, then you didn't go into the situation the right way. It's not a bad thing, it's basically say that you have a heart and some compassion for the other person.

As for visgf and I, it's usally a comical event trying to watch the other drag themselves to the bathroom while shaking and giggling the whole way

 

[ArkAoss]

what, dann, little awkward getting chased out of her parents house ? or do you mean it's awkward when you guy's realize the movie theatre is closed, and that thing up by the screen, is the cleaning guy.

 

[DesignDawg]

<< even when the couple are together or married. >>

Ummm....NO. There should be NO GUILT feelings about sex if you are married. If there are, there is a big problem in the relationship. Usually, for us, it's my wife getting upo, hobbling out of the room, while I laugh at her for not being able to walk, then I clean up, and she joins me in the kitchen for something to drink/eat. I feel very sorry for people who can't get it on without guilt.

RIcky
DesignDawg

 

[FriedToast]

Think Tauren and vi_edit are as close as anyone's going to get w/o knowing more.

My take is that since you're not b'friend &amp; g'friend, maybe you're having a little anxiety over whether they like you or not, whether you want a relationship w/ this person or not, is this the right thing to do?, etc.

Plus, if you like the person a lot and aren't shooting for a wham-bam-thank-you, ma'am type o' deal, don't be in a hurry to get up and go. Lay around and cuddle and just BE together. You don't even have to say anything. That's one of the best parts. Gettin' it in and getting off isn't the be-all, end-all. It's just one fraction of the entire process. If you're not cuddlin', you're missing out on a big emotional part.

Just my 1/2 cent worth.

Good luck!

 

[Total Refected Power]

No guilt between me and wife either.

Why would there be?

 

[happykitten]

1. Snuggle
2. Pillowtalk (in the cutesy voices usually reserved for babies and puppies )
3. Fall alseep all tangled up together

*happy sigh*

 

[Soybomb]

Its either time to nap or time to snack Post-coital chicken wings...the best

 

[Regine]

<< As for visgf and I, it's usally a comical event trying to watch the other drag themselves to the bathroom while shaking and giggling the whole way >>


Giggling and shaking? I don't wanna know what you two are doing in bed.

No, wait, I think I do

 

[Fearlss1]

Stop drop and Roll