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Advice Needed!: Wedding prices...and averages?

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tommigsr

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Hi guys...just got engaged! but now...financial matters are creeping through

well...let's see now, first off the fiance and i make around 30k-35k/year so i guess 60k-70k/year total before taxes! and we just bought a car together. An acura tl type s, in which we still owe 19,xxx.xx i dunno the figures, but that's not important. the problem is that we are trying to plan a wedding together, but what are the prices for whole weddings including all the bells and whistles 🙂

how much do we need to save and what are my options as far as payments go. Do i need to take on a second job to tackle the financial upcoming of a wedding? how much is really needed to have a good wedding? i don't want to go to vegas... 😀 that's just...ghetto to my future wife 😉

any kind of advice will be appreciated, cept for the ones that say "don't get married..."

🙂 Thanks all!
 
You can pay $10k quite easily for a wedding but you can also pay $3-5k for one and still manage to feed family and what not. My advice to you is that if you have to pay for it yourself spend the $3-5k. Blowing money on a wedding is a really bad idea. It only lasts a day and being married is more important than how many flowers you had in the church or whether you had caviar with the meal.
 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
You can pay $10k quite easily for a wedding but you can also pay $3-5k for one and still manage to feed family and what not. My advice to you is that if you have to pay for it yourself spend the $3-5k. Blowing money on a wedding is a really bad idea. It only lasts a day and being married is more important than how many flowers you had in the church or whether you had caviar with the meal.
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thanks skoorb. i just want something that will be memorable to not only us, but to everyone 🙂 she has a large crowd...me, i'll have bout 50-60, but her side is like 300+ so...finding a place to fit that many people....iono...hehe

 
Personally, I'd spend 2 - 3k on a small ceremony and the rest on a great honeymoon (2 -3 weeks) in the Caribbean.
 
Our's was cheap!!! We used the multi-purpose room at the church to feed everyone afterward. Even our honeymoon was cheap because her sister let us use her timeshare for a week as the wedding present. Our car rental was the most expensive part of the honeymoon.
 
Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Personally, I'd spend 2 - 3k on a small ceremony and the rest on a great honeymoon (2 -3 weeks) in the Caribbean.
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Amen to that. It will be more memorable than a $10-15k wedding, and cheaper.

 
Also if you're feeling cheap you can keep it down to family and close friends only. I really doubt she needs to bring along 300+ people. That will really cost you in feeding them.
 
Originally posted by: tommigsr
Hi guys...just got engaged! but now...financial matters are creeping through

well...let's see now, first off the fiance and i make around 30k-35k/year so i guess 60k-70k/year total before taxes! and we just bought a car together. An acura tl type s, in which we still owe 19,xxx.xx i dunno the figures, but that's not important. the problem is that we are trying to plan a wedding together, but what are the prices for whole weddings including all the bells and whistles 🙂

how much do we need to save and what are my options as far as payments go. Do i need to take on a second job to tackle the financial upcoming of a wedding? how much is really needed to have a good wedding? i don't want to go to vegas... 😀 that's just...ghetto to my future wife 😉

any kind of advice will be appreciated, cept for the ones that say "don't get married..."

🙂 Thanks all!
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You just bought a new Acura together??? Wow, I'll bet that you guys are suckers for the expensive cookware that they try to get you to buy. 🙂
 
I can't believe you're even considering getting a second job just to pay for the wedding! The wedding is supposed to be for you guys so you can make it small and personal and it'll be much more powerful/memorable. Big weddings just feel like big parties but it's the small ones that you always remember. IMHO, the only thing not to skimp out on is the photographer.
 
You just bought a new Acura together??? Wow, I'll bet that you guys are suckers for the expensive cookware that they try to get you to buy. 🙂
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WHAT? i wanted the acura, haha they didnt' pressure me to buy it. 🙂 my old integra gsr was getting beaten up so i sold it and went to get this car. been acura all my driving life 😀

thanks for the advice guys...less money on the wedding, more on the honeymoon 🙂



 
Me and my fiance decided not to go into debt to get married, so we will pay as we go. You should do the same don't spend 10-20K and work your tail off for just one day, the day is about you and your wife not everyone else. 3-6k should be plenty for a wedding and honeymoon.
 
Got married last fall and the bill was about $20K for everything. We had about 115 people. The only thing the 20K didn't include was the honeymoon. We did get back about 12K in cash and probably close to 10K in presents. So we did okay and her parents did pay for most of the wedding. It also depends where you live.
 
Let's see, she wants 300+ and you've got about 50-60...for arguments sake let's say 375 people.

I didn't serve the best food (not the worst either 😉) at my wedding and it was $16 per person.

375
x16
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$6000

Just some 'food' for thought (ba da bing 😛)
 
Originally posted by: optoman
Got married last fall and the bill was about $20K for everything. We had about 115 people. The only thing the 20K didn't include was the honeymoon. We did get back about 12K in cash and probably close to 10K in presents. So we did okay and her parents did pay for most of the wedding. It also depends where you live.
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Ha, we didn't get much cash at all at ours, though we did get a full set of china and a bunch of crystal. Course you can't trade that stuff in for an HDTV!
 
Originally posted by: bunker
Let's see, she wants 300+ and you've got about 50-60...for arguments sake let's say 375 people.

I didn't serve the best food (not the worst either 😉) at my wedding and it was $16 per person.

375
x16
-----
$6000

Just some 'food' for thought (ba da bing 😛)
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Then there is a K or more for photographer, rental space at the conference hall (or wherever), and other fees like wedding dress and crap I don't know about since I didn't plan a minute of mine (just how I like it).

You're going to have to get her to lower that 300 number. Weddings are not number competitions! It's about you guys, not entertaining half the city. Trim it right back and it will be more meaningful to you anyway.

 
Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Originally posted by: Alternex
IMHO, the only thing not to skimp out on is the photographer.
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Very good advice.
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Agreed - Very good advice. Our photographer was about 20% of our total cost, and we have the best wedding pictures ever. Try and find one who will let you keep the negatives. Rare, but worth it.
 
A wedding is not about impressing everyone you invite. It is about making you and yours happy, and celebrating your committment. It is only one day, and you certainly do not want to be stuck paying off the wedding for years afterwards. Do something that makes YOU happy. I promise it does not involve huge sums of money. 300 people is absolutely nuts. I seriously you have 300 people that deeply care about you, and you keep up to date on your daily lives. You want to invite your family, your closest friends, people who have supported you through thick and thin, and who are very happy to see you married.

Do a small wedding - don't fall into keeping up with the Joneses.

 
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